Dear Co-Worker: Joking About Dating a 16 Year Old Girl Is _Not_ Amusing

[Tim_T-Bonham.net]

@hansel

Ah, Kenosha, Wisconsin. The only place in the U.S. where the teen pregnancy rate has increased over the last five years while the national rate has dropped.

Can you give a cite for this? It’s the first I’ve ever heard of this.

[Lamia]

@tdn

Whenever I see an older male/younger female situation, I’m pretty convinced that it’s the guy who is wearing the training collar in that relationship. I’m pretty sure that the flow of expensive jewelry is not going his way.

I’m pretty sure it’s not going her way either. Expensive jewels? Come on! Usually he only thing flowing in such relationships is beer.

[sezyou]

I am the father of a sixteen year old daughter. After giving it some thought, I have come to the conclusion that the right 22 year old guy wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world. I have met the young men who have pursued my daughter (most within a year or two of her age.) Some of them have been complete and utter morons in my opinion.

If she introduced me to a responsible, courteous guy of 22, who was truly looking out for her interests, and was interested in her as a complete person, I could live with it.

Some of the younger guys have obviously been with her for hopes of a conquest. I think a lot of 22 year olds have gotten past most of this ego bullshit. An older guy might be more inclined to be involved with activities (dinner or such) that include the wife an myself. I would be able to communicate more easily and have a more meaningful dialog with an older guy.

In many ways I can see some positive things coming from it. Perhaps I am being overly optimistic. I have met too many ill-mannered, sneaky young guys skulking around my daughter to completely rule out possible benefits of an older guy with her. I think it would basically boil down to the individual, as most things do.

A motivated, bright, respectful, sincere 22 year old guy, is not the worst person my daughter could be involved with.

[AncientHumanoid]

Otto, perhaps I was out of line. Not due to malice, though. Simply ignorance.

My apologies.

[Otto]

:::shakes NoClueBoy’s hand:::

[zoogirl]

Of course “Office Guy” is a complete jerk and has no business around anyone’s daughter 'til he grows up a bit.

I’m seeing something interesting here. (Now, keep in mind that I’m an active churchgoer.)

Why is it that people assume a couple who are dating are automatically hopping in the sack immediately? Heck, the guy I dated at 16 didn’t get me for over a year! This was mid '70’s Burnaby BC mind you, where the average space of first-sight-to-bed was sometime that night. Most of my friends started at 13 or 14. Ah, the bad old days! :rolleyes:

Anyway, I really do think, in some cases, it’s entirely possible for a couple to date for some time without “doing it.” The age of consent doesn’t matter so much if there’s nothing to consent to, right?

Don’t laugh at me, please!

[Rilchiam]

@Ilsa_Lund

How often have you done this? It just makes me want to go :rolleyes:. Not at you specifically, but this whole “8 Simple Rules” bullshit really gets to me. I am not the type of guy that would really be likely to say anything that you might find “unsuitable,” but if you threatened to kill me, I would probably laugh in your face. After your daughter was out of the room, I would probably tell you to go fuck yourself. Once again, not you specifically. I’m not actually annoyed at you, just the concept. I respect your right to do as you wish with regard to your children.

Ilsa, I rarely find myself on the same side as you in a Pit thread, but here I am.

I can understand a father wanting to protect his daughter. That’s as it should be. But dropzone sounds like one of those guys who thinks daughters can only be one of two things. Daddy’s little princess, or a whore. One millimeter off center on the pedestal, and she’s dead to him. And this situation so often leads young women into destructive relationships, because they’ve been conditioned to think that the male should dominate.

Furthermore, if dad reacts to every potential suitor as if he’s a criminal, then the kind, caring beta males will probably all be scared away. It would take an alpha male to decide that he won’t be intimidated: he’s gonna get daughter out of the gilded cage, and the hell with dad. And he might be an arrogant, abusive alpha, rather than a strong but stable one. So dad will end up creating the exact situation he’s afraid of.

@sezyou

Some of the younger guys have obviously been with [my daughter] for hopes of a conquest. I think a lot of 22 year olds have gotten past most of this ego bullshit. An older guy might be more inclined to be involved with activities (dinner or such) that include the wife an myself. I would be able to communicate more easily and have a more meaningful dialog with an older guy.

In many ways I can see some positive things coming from it. Perhaps I am being overly optimistic. I have met too many ill-mannered, sneaky young guys skulking around my daughter to completely rule out possible benefits of an older guy with her. I think it would basically boil down to the individual, as most things do.

A motivated, bright, respectful, sincere 22 year old guy, is not the worst person my daughter could be involved with.

Now that is a healthy attitude!

[Dob]

I doubt the guy is a pervert, as stated many times earlier, I wonder if he maybe is not looking for some reassurance. Maybe since the girl is obviously pretty, he feels she is out of his league? So he might be hoping someone says “What would a good looking kid like you need with a teenager?” or some such thing.

The male ego is a strange and tricky thing…

[Tir_Tinuviel]

meh, any (non-illegal) age issue is something that should be sorted out between the couple in question. Current relationship excluded, the only time I ever dated a man within 10 years of myself it ended extremely badly.

Just make sure your date is old enough to buy you a pint…

[lilabet]

What about a 22 year old and a 40 year old, someone old enough to be your dad? Haven’t had time to read the whole thread (am supposed to be at the very least pretending to do some work…) but what are the views on this?