Debbie Does Nada

She was just a poodle (miniature, that is). But she was a kinda special poodle to me. She was born the morning of my first date with my EX (“G”). G showed her to me when I got there; she looked like a little black salamander.

As time traveled past Debbie became cute, then funny, then just plain puppy. One Sunday morning I taught her “fetch” and a lifelong relationship blossomed.

Now G was a breeder and handler of showdogs. Many. So discipline in the barracks was of some concern. G was not bad, she truly loved all of the dogs; but she had to maintain some order. And my little Debbie was of great spirit.

I became Debbie’s lawyer. I had to defend her for all the frenzies I soon learned I could work up in her. She’d watch me for an hour to see if I was scopin’ out her rawhide chew. And she wanted me to try for it. I was obligated.

And once it went down, the riot squad came out and my poor little scapegoat was in cellblock D again until I could plead bail once more.

She worked out her show career (when G and I split a few years ago she gave me all of Debbie’s show stuff) and lived a pretty good life, for a poodle.

G took good care of Deb and she became the Queen of the kennel. She lived in G’s bedroom and was well taken care off. She went blind about a year ago, and I visited her a couple of times - last ~3 months ago. She knew it was me when I walked in. And I could still work her up over the phone.

G called me at the office to tell me this morning - said, "… - well skip what she said. A poodle’s life; good as such goes - she almost made 15 years. End of an era.

I recognize that the above might sound like wailing and gnashing of teeth over an expired pet. It’s not - it’s more a fond remembrance; and I really didn’t expect Debbie to hew a much longer trail, anyway. The awkward part is that I know it’s a big hurt for my EX. I feel bad for her, but there’s not much I know how to do about that. We are definitely permanently EXs, but it’s amicable. I guess I’ll just try to stay in touch for a little bit.

Might I suggest sending her (or hand delivering) her a card? They have special ones for the loss of a pet.

From a woman’s perspective, it will make her cry, but they will be tears of… well, I’m not sure, but not total sadness.

Or if she has e-mail you could send her an e-card. BlueMountain.com has some nice ones…

I’ve had a cat and 2 dogs pass away (plus a fish). I know it’s a terrible loss.

Thanks for the thought, SmeelMeel. A card, coming from me, would certainly be notable. I’ve made a point to not be in email contact. But a card, hmmm…, that’s so unbeatle…, well, not really I suppose.

((((((beatle))))))

Losing your canine companion is losing a part of your family. My heart goes out to you. Even if she has been out of your life on a day-to-day basis for a time, knowing she was out there…well, at least for me it wouldn’t have changed the love I felt for her. I sense from your post that it was the same for you.

Much Love,

Cheri

beatle, I’m sorry about your loss. I’ve lost several pets along the way and one in particular that I raised from a pup. It was definitely my dog. But because of my divorce, I decided that he was best left the family. When he died, I got a call similar to yours.

I’m pretty close with my EXs and I’d have no problem in offering a card or something similar for a loss like that. In my case, my ex seemed more worried about how I was taking it, than how SHE was feeling.

Jim

Dog lover here. I adopted a dog from a woman who could no longer take care of him. When he died (over 5 years later), I called the former owner who cried. It’s a special relationship we have with “pets.” A card would be nice.

You’ve captured most of it pretty well, Jim. History is history and yet she was still concerned about my taking it and I’ve been a little concerned about her taking it.

And thank you, Scotti.