Declining a Bachelor Party?

[light_strand]

@Podkayne

To me, having a “destination” wedding seems to imply that all the bride and groom are thinking about is “Wedding! Wedding! Wedding!”

When all the hoopla is done with, they find themselves smack dab in the middle of a marriage marriage marriage. No more Disney World. They’re no longer the center of attention of their friends and family. The party is over. And maybe they really hadn’t thought that part through so much.

I think it’s a bad idea be too focused your wedding. It’s not the end-all-be-all of your relationship; it’s just a gateway, a milestone. It seems like a good deal more thought and planning ought to be going into what comes after the Big Event.

No offense to anyone who had an extravagant wedding; I’m just generalizing.

Oh. I had a “destination wedding”, I think. I went to Vegas and got married by Elvis. 5 days, in Vegas baby!

But for our gift we asked that people paid for their airline ticket, while we picked up all of the hotel rooms (at the Mirage, if it makes a difference). I hope we don’t get included in the “destination wedding” but we live in TX and the family lives in MI, and it just seemed easiest.

Anyway, to the OP. Fuck him. There is no way that you should spend that kind of money on this guys ego trip. It’s not even a good time of year to be in Tahoe!

[msmith537]

@vaderspal

. As best man, you’re obligated to attend the wedding. Anything else is entirely optional according to your means.

Well…technically you’re supposed to plan the bachelor party too.
It really depends on how much money you have and how good a friend this person is. Some of my good friends who I’ve known for years, I’ve probably ended up dropping a grand on the bachelor party between airfare, hotel, drinking, girls, dinners and miscelaneous.

I don’t really mind it so much. My job pays well enough for me to afford it without too much pain and it ends up being a little mini-vacation with my friends, many of who I haven’t seen in years.

Someone who I’m not as close with, I might not want to spend the money unless they were going someplace kick-ass.

[Left_Hand_of_Dorkness]

@cerberus

Third, well-adjusted adults do not have weddings at DisneyWorld. Disney is for kids, not adults.

Who are these "well-adjusted adults you speak of, and how do I avoid meeting them?

I don’t want to attend a Disney wedding, personally; I’m glad ours wasn’t a Disney wedding; and the guy sounds like he’s gone bonkers. But if someone wants a bit of whimsey in their wedding, that’s totally cool by me. I keep hoping to attend a wedding with swordfighting.

Daniel

[tashabot]

@light strand

But for our gift we asked that people paid for their airline ticket

See, that’s classy. Instead of expecting presents from people AND expecting them to fly out of their way to see you get married by Elvis (btw, that’s my dream wedding, and I’m not even much of an Elvis fan), you covered their hotel rooms and didn’t expect gifts. I mean, I, personally, had I been a guest, probably would have brought a gift anyway, something small, but still, that’s just damn classy, IMO.

~Tasha

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@Tower Dweller

He pointed out that the trip only works if there’s enough people to split the cost.

Looking at it logically, of coure there are enough people to split the cost. As long as there are two or more people, the cost can be split. So the ones who go just pay a little more. Not your problem, and shame on him for trying to make it your problem

[saoirse]

This all ahs a fairly simple solution: have the bachelor party at Disneyworld. C’mon, Minnie, shake what your mama gave you.

[Lightray]

@saoirse

C’mon, Minnie, shake what your mama gave you.

sigh Another cherished childhood memory, made tawdry and cheap by the Internet.

shakes fist at Internet