Try this: From the 1st day of your next period, count 10 days. Then have sex every other day for the next 8 days. This worked for me!
Has hubby been tested re sperm count and quality?
astro beat me to it, but if you’ve been ttc for nine months and he hasn’t been checked, he needs to be. About half the time it’s a problem on the male end.
Have you had a check up to make sure everything is in working order as well?
((((HUGS)))). I went through a year of trying to have my second child, after getting pregnant unintentionally with my first, and it was tough.
I don’t know if Unca Cece has addressed this topic directly, but he did once list a nifty love potion, which might help in a pinch:
[rest of the steps are listed at: Do you know a guaranteed love charm recipe?]
Wait a second – in What’s the connection between Easter and rabbits? he discusses fertility rites!
If you ever find a copy of What’s the best way to sterilize myself without telling my wife? lying around the house, well that’s probably not a good sign.
And I trust this is not a problem in this case, but Cecil does have the following sage admonishment: “Now, far be it from me to add insult to injury, but how could you be so klutzy that you ‘missed the introitus’? Admittedly the target is small and the visibility isn’t the best, but we’re talking point-blank range here.” in Is it true men can suffer penile fracture?.
There’s probably nothing I can tell you that you’re not already doing, so I’ll just stick to the inspirational anecdote.
It took me 10 months to get pregnant with my first child (at age 27) and a whole year with the second (age 32), but it happened both times. It frustrated me to think that I’d spent all those years trying very hard not to get pregnant when it seemed like it was never going to happen once I was actually trying to do it. After trying for twelve solid months the second time, I’d actually made an appointment with my OB to start the process of investigating my infertility. Instead, I ended up using that appointment for my first prenatal visit.
It’s like when you’re hoping to find someone to love; it seems like it takes forever to come along, but once it does, it feels like it was destiny. I’d suggest you keep on doing anything that you think might help, try to keep a positive attitude about things (easier said than done, I know), and just try to trust that it’ll happen. Hang in there, and know that we’re all rooting for you.
Gyno sez no checking on sperm count and such until we’ve been unsuccessful for a year. She said that’s the ‘norm’ for ttc. It’s hard to wait that long, but I guess we’ll hold out.
J
Okay,
I’ll add my two cents - for me every other night/day sex worked like a charm. The first month we tried that, it worked. Relax and enjoy yourself, don’t get up and walk around right after (or go to the bathroom).
It’s not any fun waiting to see, you have my sympathies. Try not to get too discouraged, everyone I know had it work for them “as soon as they weren’t worried about it”. Also, just so you know, period cramps and “egg attaching to the uterus cramps” feel very, very similar.
Have you gotten a second opinion? Although I know it’s standard to say you have to try for a year to be officially declared infertile, in this case, I think it’s a bit unfair for that doctor to say you have to wait any longer. Fertility declines each year after 30, so, with something this important, I think an aggressive approach to figuring out if there is a problem is justified by this point. Of course, how fast you want to proceed should be entirely your decision.
Incidentally, this article on BabyCenter.com indicates that having sex frequently may actually be better than trying to “save up” sperm for right at the point of ovulation–apparently abstinence can decrease motility of the sperm. I think that’s assuming, of course, that the man has a “normal” sperm count. So no need to stress about the man running out of sperm. 
They also have a little area with different links about aspects of fertility problems: http://www.babycenter.com/preconception/fertilityproblems
If hubby rides a bicycle frequently, then maybe he needs to give it a break for a while, or at least buy an ergonomic saddle, one which distributes pressure a little better.
I’ll chime in with the “don’t have sex every day” crowd.
All the best, jarbabyj.
I know it’s hard not to be stressed, but I think that’s a big part of it. A dear friend of my SIL was told after 10 years that she would never get pregnant. So, she and hubby adopted, and bam, she got pregnant. Normal pregnancy, and she now has two daughters.
I don’t know how to tell you not to be stressed, because it’s obvious you are. Since the ob/gyn doesn’t want to test you for infertility until three more months, “quit” trying for those three months. If you’re not pregnant, then she can still test you, and you might remove enough stress for those three months that you do get pregnant.
Can you send Mr J to another doctor and do a sperm count? I don’t think waiting a year to check something as basic as that is necessarily a terrific idea.
I just bought one of these. Granted, it came in the mail the day my husband left for a 10 day business trip and I got the “ferning” starting the next day so the first month I’ve been using it is shot to hell but it’s interesting at least. That was one hell of a runon sentence.