Desperate Gal Looking For Home Remedies

In My Humble Opinion
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If you’re tired of hearing about me trying to get pregnant, leave now.

I’ll keep it short, and to the point.

Moms out there and mom’s to be… What got you pregnant? (I mean besides the sex)

And keep in mind that my gynecologist has forbidden charting, since I became so stressed about it that I screwed up my body’s cycle, extending it for four days.

I’ve been drinking green tea, which I heard helps, taking prenatal vitamins, keeping a fertility totem under my bed, sleeping with my feet on the wall and a pillow under my butt, staying away from hot baths, vigorously rubbing my cheek against pregnant women’s bellies, sacrificing small animals to Hera, and a variety of other things.

But what else? Any home remedies? Herbs? Spells? Dances? Any little trick you guys have got? I’ve heard drinking robitussin before intercourse helps, did anyone try that?

I’m nine months going with narry an embryo to show for it. Doc says she can’t do anything for me until I’ve been unsuccessful for a year, but I’m getting a little crazy here.

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I’ll be interested to here what women say, jarbabyj, but I wonder what you are doing to manage your stress and anxiety? If charting can put you over the edge, it sounds like you are reasonably stressed out about this and/or other aspects of your life. Stress may not be conducive to the fertility process.

Best of luck,

Scott

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Well, I’m on medication for depression and anxiety…but it’s not exactly easy to ‘relax’ when faced with failure every month. :frowning: I’m trying. REALLY. I honestly try not to think about it as much as I used to.

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When I was ttc I hated charting. I really don’t have a remedy and I won’t say take a vacation because I hated hated hated that. " Take a break- it will come when you aren’t trying so hard" Now it could be true but I still hated hearing it. Or if you are stressed maybe you do need a vacation. Good Luck! I know how stressful ttc can be. Drinking robbitussin helps thin the cervical mucus if I recall, I hear alot of ladies on the ttc boards at www.soulcysters.com talk about it. I will have to dredge my old ttc stuff and come back to post.

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Just out of curiousity what have you tried before? I am not familiar with your threads on ttc, Musta missed them, or if they were going on at the same time I was i prob would have avoided them because sometimes when I was trying so hard to hear about someone elses made me unbearably sad.

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Maybe something like a yoga class could help with the anxiety.

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ok here is a link
www.tryingtoconceive.com
I can’t link directly to the page but it has a whole section on remedies for ttc’ing, the website in general is pretty good imho.

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I do yoga every day, except for the two weeks following ovulation, since inverted yoga is bad for the potential embryo, i don’t want to take any chances.

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I was 36 when I got pregnant with our first and 38 with our second. I didn’t chart or test or do any of that stuff. We had sex every night before I went to sleep, plus recreational sex whenever we had time. I also took B vitamin supplements and evening primrose oil. It took about six months each time.

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That’s another problem, mr. jar isn’t home enough to have sex every night. We literally have to schedule it in. grr. Primrose oil…I’ll look into that.

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I know you’ve probably heard this a hundred thousand times, but…

One of my good friends was desperate to get pregnant. They started trying on their honeymoon, and she, being a pretty compulsive type, wanted it to happen instantly.

She would have a freak out every month when she got her period.

Finally, she just gave up and said, oh well, when it happens, it happens.

She got pregnant that very first month.

I just started working at my new law firm this month. My cycle is way off from the stress–I didn’t ovulate until day 28 or so, and my period is nowhere in sight. I got together with an acquaintance for lunch the other day, and she’s in the same boat–she’s a freshly minted lawyer just starting her job too. And she was so late getting her period that she’d taken four pregnancy tests, just to be sure.

The point is, stress is a very potent thing.

I’d like to gently suggest that you’ve missed the point of not charting your cycles. You’re still worrying about it–but focusing on other things, like home remedies. You still sound really stressed out about it, to my ears (eyes).

I know it can be hard to make yourself stop thinking about something. (Believe me, I know. I find out if I passed the bar exam this weekend–I’ve waited two long months.) But I’ve found it is possible to force yourself to say, I’m not thinking about that now, and go find something to do to occupy yourself.

Good luck and best wishes.

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Two Words: Jack Daniel’s :smiley:

Seriously, though I can offer no good suggestions, I wish you the best of luck.

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I did that too, thought about nothing but getting pregnant for many months. Every day, obsess obsess, yada yada yada.

And you’re going to hate me, but what worked was going on vacation and forgetting all about it. Even if it hadn’t worked, a vacation was very very good for us, relaxation and stress-wise.

Sorry I don’t have anything better. Good luck.

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Well, you could go to prom and get really drunk - that worked for a few girls in my high school class.

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I’ve heard from a foaf that having a beagle in the room during the rumpus is counter prodcutive to getting a groove on.

Not that I have personal knowledge.

I’m just sayin’ is all…

I haven’t heard of evening primrose oil for ttc.

However, mrs beagledave DID use it (per CNM advice) while trying to move things along in the labor department…it’s a precursor to prostaglandins that help to thin the cervix. (think suppository)

Good luck.

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I have no personal advice about this, but my brother and his wife were having trouble conceiving. She was a teacher, and every summer she was going to school to get her “fifth year” which was required or something.

They finally gave up and started the adoption process…this coincided with the first summer she wasn’t going to school. And voila…she got pregnant. Her Doc said…“Well, maybe mother nature didn’t think you had the TIME to have a baby until now…” I don’t know, but I tend to think that when she finally let it go and got less stressed out about it, it happened.

BTW…when my niece was a little over a year old, they decided to start trying for the second one…since it took so long the first time, and they didn’t want too much time between kids. She got PG right away, and my two nieces are two years and one month apart.

Good luck, sweetie!

Much Love,

Cheri

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Sex every night is Not A Good Thing. It potentially can decrease the number of little swimmers so that there is less chance of conception.

And for maud’s sake, don’t stress about being stressed ;). Women get pregnant and stay pregnant all the time with high levels of stress. Decrease the amount of stress if possible but it’s not likely that stress is preventing conception.

Robitussin is used if you have mucus problems. Do you? Ask your gyn/ob before trying that one because you’re looking for a particular kind of mucus and, ummmm, thinning it in the absence of a consistency problem is not wise.

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I charted religiously for about 6 months. I knew my luteal phase, what “ewcm” stands for and all that jazz. Didn’t get pregnant. Threw out the charts and the basal thermometer and that was the month I got pregnant.

Go figure. So, I think charting is total b.s.

That said, everyone who’s anyone who’s ttc swears by “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”. Have you checked out that book? I haven’t but it may have some ideas for you.

Things I’ve heard…taking Robitussin, the expectorant kind, the ingredient guaifenesin which thins the mucus in your lungs also thins your cm. Grapefruit juice is also supposed to help with the cm, too.

If you’re interested in forums for those ttc, I would suggest the one below. It’s a VERY active forum and there are women there who’ve been trying for YEARS.

http://forums.americanbaby.com/ab-pgprep/start/

Also, what’s the hubby up to? Is he wearing tighty whities? Smoking pot (that is really presumptuous of me but pot does impact motility)? Smoking cigarettes? He’s apart of this equation also.

Good luck and I think I’m required to do the thing that pregnant women do to those ttc (it’s totally stupid, btw).

++++++baby dust++++++++baby dust+++++baby dust++++

(that’s me sprinkling “baby dust” and "positive pregnancy test results on you) :gag:

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Yes, I’ve always heard that it’s best to have sex every other day for about a week in the middle of your cycle so as not to deplete the swimmer supply. Even without charting, do you realize when you’re ovulating? I could always tell, back in the days before birth control, because about a week after my period ended I’d be mind-numbingly horny for a couple of days and (TMI) would moisten my underpants for any creature with a Y chromosome who happened to pass by. Do you have a day every month like that?

Since I don’t know what your husband does for a living, would it be possible for him to take a stretch of 4-5 days off from work in the middle of your cycle (have him call in sick or something)? Then you could go all out with the porn and the leather and the handcuffs and whatnot. Just have fun, and be sure to keep us posted on the results (and the attempts, if you get some time). :slight_smile:

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My therapists has all but banned me from ttc forums because it made me so depressed to hear when other women got pregnant and I was still failing at the one damn thing my body was created to do :frowning: So I quit the forums I was a part of in an effort to take my mind off it.

I DO know when I ovulate, the problem is finding time around that time to have sex. Even if my hubby (who doesn’t smoke anything :smiley: ) could take time off of work, he couldn’t take time off of rehearsal, and I can’t take time off of rehearsal or performances…so it’s like a twenty minute appointment we have to keep to get this thing done (He calls it ‘workin in the coal mine’) :smiley:

Anyway, thanks for the advice. I’m seriously trying not to stress about it, but I AM thirty, and getting a bit tired of watching everyone around me start their families while I’m left behind.
J