SO got a gift/prize at a baby shower. (Coffee cup, this shape, different graphics.) The coworker who gave it to her turned out to be talking smack (at work) behind her back. SO’s feelings are easily hurt, so she threw the mug in the trash.
I dislike waste. There was nothing intrinsically wrong with the cup, which she’d only used a few times. So I fished it out after she went to bed, washed it, and gave it to Compass Housing Alliance (charity). (I waited to give it away until after the trash had been picked up, in case she changed her mind.) I’m feeling a little guilty about retrieving the cup, since she meant for it to be thrown away. OTOH, as far as she knows it’s resting in a landfill now; and some homeless person, person getting a fresh start from Compass, or a Compass staff member will make use of a useful item.
Should I have strictly abided by my SO’s intentions? Or is it OK that I subverted her intentions to put the unwanted hateful mug to good use?