Couple of nights ago, I was pawing away at Ms. Rex while I was kissing her spontaneously and she started giggling. I asked her why the the giggles all of a sudden? She told me that she was listening to Dr. Laura earlier that day and she told me that a caller had called Dr. Laura to complain that her husband is constantly pawing and kissing her frequently and she wants to know how to keep him from being overly affectionate and groping. The rest of the call was paraphrased…
Dr. Laura (deadpan response): “Would you rather have him kissing and groping someone else?”
Caller: “Er, no…”
Dr. Laura: “Have you been married awhile or have kids?”
Caller: “Um, yes…”
Dr. Laura: “So maybe you’re not as attractive as you were before you had kids I’m assuming?”
Caller: “Er…”
Dr. Laura: “…And your husband still finds you attractive enough to show affection for you, and you don’t want anything to do with it?!?”
Caller: …
Dr. Laura: “…And he’s there with you and not with some other young lady showing his affection…I think you’re husband is a great guy for still being in love with you! Why would you want to mess that up?!?”
Caller: …
Dr. Laura: “Let him remain in love with you… Let him show affection to you, ok? How about returning some of that affection as well?”
Caller: “Er…ok” <click>
I used to get pissed at this narcissistic, deluded, harpy whackjob for giving out completely insane and often totally unethical advice to callers but then I realized that anyone who would call this psycho for advice is either a masochist or a moron or both and they probably deserve whatever they get.
I find Dr. Laura a bit harsh sometimes, but I think a lot of her advice is valid.
There was one call from a woman who married an alcoholic smoking gambler. She had two children with him and wanted to know how to get her husband to stop his destructive behavior.
Dr. Laura asked if she wanted to stay married, and the woman replied that she did. So Dr. Laura’s advice was to shut up and deal, that she’d chosen him knowing his flaws, and that she had two small children with him. I think if the woman had replied that she wanted to leave him the answer would have been different.
Then a few weeks ago there was a darling call from a 5 year old boy. I cringed, thinking it was going to be some sad story about how his parents were divorced and how he missed his Daddy. But no, it turned out his 2 1/2 year old sister was always getting into his stuff. Dr. Laura was very serious with him, asking him exactly what she did, and gave him good advice on how she looked up to him and wants to play with him, so if he gives her some toys to play with nearby she won’t bother him as much. I thought she handled it very well, and didn’t go into the all cutesy oh that’s so adorable mode, but took it very seriously.
My husband and I like to guess at what her advice will be. Keep in mind, it’s a radio show, and she has to keep the calls coming in and the listeners interested. I’ve seen her dismiss boring, going no where calls with flip advice, and then spend 15 minutes on one caller dealing with a major crisis.
I know she’s not for everyone, but I admire the courage of her convictions.
“I’m having struggles with my own religious journey. I was
practicing extremely Orthodoxy and I have moved away
from that.”
Let’s hope she doesn’t move away sufficiently so that we will be seeing new naked shots of her on the Internet. Cuz based on the state of the last set of shots, I can only surmise that the beav has gotten that much more out of control…
A “Post-Doctoral” certfication just means she got it after she got her PHD in physiology. A Doctorate is not actually required to receive that certification.
If she was actually dispensing some of the advice she gives as a psychologist she would lose her license to practice (you can’t pollute your advice with personal religious views, for instance).
Well, in her defense, she doesn’t claim to be giving “advice as a psychologist.” She claims to give guidance on “moral and ethical dilemmas.”
Not that she isn’t a wacko most of the time – even when I agree with her (and I do, surprisingly often), I’m usually appalled by her tone, which is almost always strident, holier-than-thou, and bitchy. That’s what makes her fun – sure, she’s a nutjob, but how much bigger of a nutjob do you have to be to call her for advice? I particularly love the callers who open their call by saying that they “love [her] show” and “appreciate all *she] does” and then go on to reveal that they are living one of the lifestyles on Dr. L’s shitlist. What kind of working-mom or single-parent or “shack-up honey,” who had actually heard her show, would call Dr. Laura? Only the nutjobs, my friends, only the nutjobs.
To get back to the OP – I heard the call in question. The caller knew that her husband had been having an “emotional affair” with a coworker. The husband had admitted this, but denied that sex had been part of the affair. The caller suspected otherwise and she had some unspecified evidence of his guilt. She wanted to know how she could get the husband to 'fess up so they could move forward. She claimed that she didn’t want a divorce and that, even if she had absolute proof that her husband was actually screwing around, she wouldn’t pursue a divorce. Dr. L seemed to be making the point that, if she didn’t mean to divorce him anyway, the caller was better off NOT seeking any further information or evidence because such evidence would make it harder for her to stay in the marriage. I didn’t think this was bad advice as far as it goes. However, things deteriorated when Dr. L, who seemed to think that the woman really would want a divorce if the affair did turn out to have been sexual, browbeat her into admitting this and sent her off the confront her husband. Not one of Dr. L’s shining moments, that’s for sure.
That woman pisses me off SO bad when she starts talking shit about single parents. She started in on a caller a few weeks ago who was a single mom and the woman stopped her in midsentence saying that her husband had died while she was pregnant. I think it pisses me off so bad because I was a single mom for a while because my last husband died right after our son was born and I got all kinds of comments from assholes that didn’t know the circumstance. I think shes just a raving lunatic bitch and REFUSE to listen to her EVER again.
Boy. I wish I’d heard that one. I’d be willing to bet she didn’t apologise, though, or apologised very obliquely. Something like, “Oh, I’m sorry… YOU should have SAID you were a widow…”
To use a crudity – Dr. Laura is the very definition of someone who thinks her shit don’t stink. Which is why I find her so entertaining to listen to. Such people (at least to the extreme degree that the dear doctor reaches) are fortunately rare in real life.
I don’t listen to Dr. Laura but what I’ll always remember about the one time I heard anything from her show was that she interupted the caller to go off on some rant and then when the caller interjected with some more information that negated her rant Dr. Laura demanded to know why the caller didn’t tell her that in the first place. If I was on the phone my response would have been “Because you interupted me before I got to it you lunatic!” but the caller just rolled over and meekly took her abuse.
Could you name the noun to which “this” refers?