Key parties still happen today among swingers, or so I’m told, by people I believe. It’s just one of many icebreaker techniques. I had a friend who would go to swingers resorts where they played such games , but who would always leave with her husband. They both liked the titillation of the swinger set despite not swinging themselves.
My guess is that the key party works best when the crowd isn’t too big and is carefully selected, but no doubt in any mix of people there would be a few oil-and-water types. I have no idea how they’d manage that.
This. There’s plenty of swinger activity around here, but the idea of an actual key party sounds like mostly urban legend, like a Cleveland Steamer or a Jane Hathaway.
Yep. Group sex, wife swapping, plural marriage, cuckoldry, swinging, and good old fashioned adultery have been going on since the days of the Old Testament.
And there certainly was a lot of that sort of thing going around back in the 1970s. But “key parties” seems to me like a thing that was written about and talked about and giggled about a lot lot lot more than it actually happened. Were there key parties? I bet there where. But I bet almost all of the few that did happen happened because somebody read about them and decided to try to hold one in real life, once.
I attended something a little beyond key parties a few times in NYC. It was in the late 70s, in a same-sex after-hours club. Everyone was given a key ring on which to attach their keys and hankies (you do know about the hanky code (TMI/NSFW), don’t you?) So when you picked someone’s keys, you also got the hankies, determining what the couple would do. The only purpose of the keys was to identify who went with each hankies; nobody went home with anyone (well . . . not until later). So person A and person B were doing maybe a few different things, while person B and person C were doing entirely different things, etc., winding up looking like an X-rated game of “Twister.” I don’t think any of us had ever laughed so much.
Damm!! I’d need a app on my phone. Actually, there probably is one. That is just plain, flat out scarey to me. I don’t even own a hanky. After seeing that, I don’t ever want to own one!!
I’ve heard of the hanky code. (The “tan” one had me LOLing, and it’s pretty easy to figure out that left means me, and right means us.) I remember the jelly bracelet thing a few years ago, which were said to be a similar code amongst teenagers, and was told more than once that it too was an urban legend.
In the Ron Howard film How the Grinch Stole Christmas, Clarnella Who and her sister Rose were hosting a key party on the night the baby Grinch was blown onto their doorstep and into their lives.
I’m sure I’ll regret asking this, but what on JEBUS HISSELF’s Earth would be considered valid certified proof by you?
A video or film containing the entire party with no cuts starting from the people arriving at the party and depositing their keys in the bowl or whatever followed by the drinking and smoking of pot, snorting cocaine to get ‘loosened’ up, then on to the grand grabbing at keys at random from the bowl, followed by the pairing up and moving to various bedrooms etc and then undressing and fucking and sucking, followed by everyone getting dressed and bidding each other semi awkward goodbyes?
The fact that he doesn’t consider teenage gossip about the sex other people are supposedly having to be verification of the sex those other people are actually having does not mean that his standards of verification are unrealistically high. On the contrary, it means that they are not abysmally low.
“When I was a teenager living in a college town I used to hear that some of the profesors there had key parties” is definitely not verification that key parties ever happened. A statement from someone who actually participating in the key parties would be a different matter.
I’d say, based on experience, that many communities have thriving swing scenes. Also, while there are some parties and such at private locations/homes/clubs in most cases swining is worked out between couples where all parties give a thumbs up to each others. Frequently, these are broken up by couples in this way:
Dinner/get to know you
Mutual fondling and petting
Sex with the couples both in the same room
Sex where the couples are in different rooms but the same home
Seperate dates
By far that last is the rarest. Again, in my experience, couples that end up trusting each other find themselves at #3 or #4 and happy there. Such relationships can last a shorter or longer time, depending on how things work out. I’ve known some men who swing and then get semi-possessive about the women with which they’ve slept. That becomes a bad thing.
But key parties? Never seen or even heard of one in real life.
