Did Your School Have Its Psycho?

Dinsdale’s thread on his son’s being harrassed by a 7th-grade bully brought back not-so-fond memories of my own junior high school years. It seems every school has its bully, its creepy bitchy girl, its druggie burnout on the way to an early grave . . .

The worst was Chris, a blank-eyed, blond-haired sociopath. He would just walk up to you and punch you—hard—for no reason at all. Everyone was terrified of having a class with this kid. We were all really surprised when he showed up at the 20th reuinion, as we all figured he’d be in jail or dead by then.

Who were your worst bullies?

I don’t know if he was the School Psycho or anything, but Charlie was one of the bullies in my grammar school who migrated (with the rest of us) to high school. The only guy I ever had a fight with. He ended up in the Army.

We had several (it was a big school) but the most memorable was Norman. He got expelled two months before graduation. After graduation, every time anybody would mention him somebody would say “I bet he’s in jail.”

A while ago, my wife signed me up for classmates.com so I went on to look for old friends. Norman was, too my surprise, listed. In the “Things about me that you’d find surprising” his answer was “I’m not in prison.” I laughed myself silly. He joined the Army after expulsion and appears to have made a good life for himself.

I had the rather unsettling realization a few months back that I was one of the class bullies. You can’t possibly imagine how awkward this makes reminiscing about childhood bullying with my geek friends…

I was from a large school also. Of the ten or so “Psychos” I can recall, 3 were insitutionalized, 1 was jailed, and six have disappeared.

I think of those 6 often. Usually after perusing the CNN news site.

Well, I was the psycho of my grade, though in my case it was from being on the other end of bullying. People were really careful around me shortly after Columbine.

And no, I don’t mean for that to be cryptic. Most of them knew I was the school whipping boy, but didn’t know that I wouldn’t have gone quite that far. I think a good number of them were actually expecting me to bomb that school after I graduated.

FWIW (and a bit of CYA for the reader), I never did, nor did my “plans” for such flesh out more than “God, I’d really love to do something bad to that place”. It is intact, and the only things that have changed grounds-wise are a new track and a new art building. Most of the people who were not so nice to me have moved on to new schools and, I hope, new attitudes regarding nice behavior to others.

A Friend to Die For (aka Death of a Cheerleader) is based on a true story of a murder that happened at my high school, so, yep.

We had several grades of psycho - a few who would beat you up for no reason:

W____ K_____, who did two years for GBH.

M____ P____, who carried a hatchet.

But then there were the bizarre.:

K___ H____ used to show off by wanking his dog off.

S___ D_____ devoured a tray of contraceptive pills that were being passed round in a contraception because he thought he “could get high”.

The lead bully at my grade school was so bad that even his friends nicknamed him “Psycho”.

Tom transferred to my High School Freshman year. He was very smart, well-spoken, and friendly, but he was a wee bit eccentric, and had some rather odd personal hygene habits (for a teenager, at least). He only bathed once a week (not so strange, I guess), and wore the same clothers to school every day (really odd in the midst of fashion-crazed suburbanite teens).
I had known Dave since Grammar School, and he had never been a bully, but for some reason he really took an immediate and feverish disliking towards Tom. This discord finally resulted in a series of fist-fights between Tom & Dave. Always in the Locker Room after Gym Class. Always instigated by Dave’s merciless taunting, and always ending with Dave on the floor, bleeding. Tom would invariably do everything he could to avoid fighting. Everything. He never raised a hand until Dave did first. Senior year, I watched Tom kick Dave’s ass five times. Funny.

Fifth grade, 1976. Curtis. He SMOKED (back then, this was unusual). He stole things from us, he got into fights – including one memorable one with THE TEACHER in which Mr. D dragged him kicking and screaming to the principal’s office, cursing all the way (BOTH of them!). Quite a show.

He lived not too far from me and one day I had the misfortune to run into him at the neighborhood park. He sat on one of the swings next to me (I was too scared to run away) and lit a cig. I remember him asking if I was going to “narc” on him, and my answer, “No, of course not.” (What am I, stupid?) And his slimy little smile, eye’s crinkling behind his horn-rimmed glasses.

Curtis was not around for the sixth grade. I don’t know what happened to him, but a few years ago I found someone with his name, married, living in our hometown. Maybe he didn’t end up in prison after all.

Oh yeah, and he was forever sneaking in superfluous apostrophes where they didn’t belong . . .

“FWIW (and a bit of CYA for the reader), I never did, nor did my ‘plans’ for such flesh out more than ‘God, I’d really love to do something bad to that place.’ It is intact, and the only things that have changed grounds-wise are a new track and a new art building.”

Well, I think it was damn nice of you to build a new track and a new art building after they were so mean to you!

I can play topper here.

I was so out of hand that by 15 I was locked up. 60 of us, all the ‘troubled’ and ‘problem’ kids at our highschools.

Concertrate the problem kids and of course everything will get better.

5 of us committed suicide prior to grauation. One joined the Navy and got kicked out damn all fast. Near as I can remember, of the ones I graduated with (a class of 5) I’m the only one who made it through college.

Yet here I am…hanging with you folks. Ain’t life grand?

The worst bully I ever saw was a guy whose name now escapes me. He was not only a bully, he was a vicious street fighter. He loved to fight and he fought as dirty as he could—kicks to the groin and fingers to the eyes were standard with him. I actually witnessed a fight in which he permanently blinded a guy in one eye. That one got him a hitch in reform school, and I never saw him again. He was truly a scary guy.

If “school” can equal “college” and “psycho” can not equal “bully”, then it’s time to hear the story of Paco.

It all started back in my creative writing class at LSU. It was halfway through the semester and halfway through this particular class session, when Paco walked in. He had unkempt long hair, an army jacket, and sandals, as I recall. I remember him being big - not fat, just big. Being a writing class, the desks were arranged in a big circle. Paco walked in mid-class and sat in the center, silent. We all looked at each other, unsure of what to do. Whoever was talking, after pausing and seeing nothing happen, nervously continued talking.

After a few moments the professor interrupted. “Excuse me,” he said to this new arrival. “Can I help you?”

“I’m in this class,” replied Paco.

“Oh. Well can you please take a seat in the circle and talk to me afterwards?”

Paco complied, and became one of my classmates. He brought a certain surreality to the sessions. He would go off on long, pointless tangents to the discussion. If he wanted to quote a bit from the story we were discussing, he would start several paragraphs before the quote and read the entire thing aloud until he either got to the part he wanted to or the professor asked him to jump there. It didn’t help that Paco’s voice was slow and quiet. When he returned copies of the stories to the author, they would be filled with bizarre doodles and comments.

Then we got to Paco’s story: “The Big Black Momma of LSU”. I can’t begin to describe it. The plot itself was odd, but not overly so. It was other details that really struck a chord. Like the fact that words seemed to be randomly capitalized (I actually looked to see if they spelled some kind of hidden message or something.) And the phrase, “hammy wrestler’s arms” was used time and again. In a way, it was strange, but less strange than we were expecting, which was something of a letdown.

The class ended without any further incident, but that wasn’t the end of Paco. Some time after that class I worked with a graduate student named Michael who was teaching creative writing. I mentioned Paco’s name to him and he had a story as well. It turns out Paco had done the same thing with his class - walked in halfway through without a word. Michael had told him that he was welcome to be in the class, but since he had already missed half of it, he couldn’t give him higher than a C in it. Paco said this was acceptable.

The semester went on in much the same way - long pointless comments, slow mumbly voice, oddball story. Then one evening Michael was out and about when he remembered something he left at his office. He decided to go back and get it. He opened the door to the hallway where his office was and was shocked. In front of his office door (which, unfortunately, was right next to the door he had just opened) was Paco. It was 11:00 p.m., but there was Paco. Waiting for him. Since the door was right there, Michael couldn’t exactly back away - Paco had seen him. So he nervously greeted him and asked if he could help him.

This was the end of the semester, and since there was no final in Creative Writing, they had gotten their final grades already. Paco wanted to know why he’d gotten a C. Michael calmly explained that they’d agreed this was the best he could do, and he’d barely gotten that, since he never revised anything. This seemed to satisfy him, and he left, much to Michael’s relief. Michael grabbed what he came for, and then waited a few minutes, just in case. Nothing happened. As he was locking up his office door, he happened to glance down at the floor and saw what Paco had done to entertain himself while he was waiting.

Across the hall was a box in front of another office with graded papers that a professor was returning to his class. Paco had gone through the stack and commented on them in his usual heavy black pen. He had written things like, “I think Huckleberry Finn is a wonderful example of a picaresque novel. Perhaps your professor is unaware of this.” Every paper had comments like this written on it. Michael hurried out of there.

The third chapter of the Paco story doesn’t involve me, but my friend Kurt. One day Kurt was waiting for the bus to pick him up on campus and bring him to our apartment (we were roommates at the time.) He looked over and saw someone he thought he recognized, but wasn’t sure. As soon as he figured out it was Paco, he whispered to himself, “Paco”. At that point Paco turned, saw him, and “recognized” him. You see, Kurt wasn’t in that class of mine, but his girlfriend Anna was, and he often sat in on it. Plus, Kurt looked a little like me at the time, so we think Paco confused him with me. He quoted a comment Kurt had made in that class back at him verbatim. At any rate, Paco began talking to him.

(Let me interrupt here for a moment. I showed a draft of this to Kurt who also pointed out another encounter. When Kurt was (jokingly) running for SGA president he was in many of the campus buildings late one night hanging up posters. He came across Paco in an empty classroom, talking out loud to nobody.)

He explained that when he was in the creative writing class he had been in his “Charles Manson/Jesus phase” but was beyond that now. (It took Kurt a bit to recognize him because he’d cut his hair and was wearing different types of clothes.)

When Kurt’s bus arrived, Paco got on it with him and continued the mostly one-sided conversation. At one point he talked about getting into a fight with his father. “Yeah, we got into a big fight and I guess we were really loud because the neighbors called the cops. So the cops showed up and I guess there’s some law that if there’s a certain amount of blood, someone has to go to jail.”

When Kurt’s stop came, he politely excused himself to no avail. Paco got off the bus with him. Kurt finally was able to ditch him by saying, “Hey, I’d invite you in, but my roommate is really weird and doesn’t like it when people he doesn’t know come over.” Paco replied with, “Oh hey that’s cool, I understand.” Kurt then took off in the opposite direction from our apartment and then doubled back behind the building. Paco waited at the bus stop, but it was the last bus of the day, so no bus would be coming.

That was the end of my Paco knowledge. A Google search on his name a few years ago turned up a police report from the LSU newspaper describing him as involved in a “fistic encounter” (a fistfight, I hope) on campus, but nothing more. Not until recently.

A strange coincidence now has Michael working with a friend of mine in Ohio. I told my friend to mention Paco, and he got Michael’s story out of that, along with the information that Paco is no longer with us - apparently he committed suicide. A not so humorous end to the tale, but a not unexpected one either.

Wherever you are, Paco, you made an impression. Perhaps not the one you wanted, but one nonetheless.

There was this guy named Sean who went to school with me, and we were sort of rivals. He’d pick on me like crazy, but sometimes we’d end up goofing off-trading insults and he’d get us both in trouble by making me laugh during class.

He got really bad in 7th grade and was expelled from our private Catholic school. He used to trip me, hit me over the head with books, he made our teacher cry, etc.

He and I went to the same high school, but I almost never saw him.

Then he started coming in to the grocery store where I worked when I was a junior. He’d come over, ask me how I was, and we’d joke around-“Are you going to hit me now?” He admitted he used to be a shit, and he was a pretty cool individual.

I think he had a lot of problems at home, and he was, like me, ADHD. He was a really intelligent kid, and he could be hysterically funny. It wasn’t so much that he was a BULLY to me (although I, like the other girls, cheered when he left), as that he and I used to play off one another.

We had, not only one pyscho in my elemtary school, but a matched set. Shawn and Kiwan, the terrible twosome, the bane of my young existence.

We were in fourth grade and these twins and I walked the same direction home after school. Sure they teased and were tiny little asshats to everyone, but the rumors about their fighting skills included breaking a kid from another town’s nose (we had that rumor on VERY good authority.) Every day on the way home from school, I would walk as far behind as I could without noticeably avoiding them. Never the less, the safety patrol person would retreat and they would have 5 torturous blocks to threaten, tease and push me around…

Can’t remember any real bullies of puycho-freaks in grade school, really. One kid had been held back a couple of times, and I remember him being a bit of a jerk at times. One time he wrote his gang symbol (Gaylords) on the back of my jacket. But he was just one of the greasers.

I am not proud of the fact that I joined in the teasing of a couple of kids.

Our high school was so large (1100 in my class) that no one had a school-wide rep.

The “psycho” of my high school died of a heroin overdose a few years after graduation. Most people were not extremely surprised, although he hadn’t been a drug user during high school.

He was one of those kids who towered over the other students, and many of the teachers, even when he was a freshman. He was on the football team, but didn’t really fit into the jock crowd either. A kid of that size, it was easy for him to be physically intimidating, and he would also lash out verbally. His behavior was always unpredictable, he would snap into a vicious, nasty mode with no provocation (and he was rarely provoked, even the kids who liked to push people’s buttons steered clear of this guy).

The sad thing is that looking back, he obviously had some serious problems that apparently weren’t being addressed by either his family or the school. Although we (his fellow students) didn’t have the wherewithal to articulate it, we knew something was amiss, and even figured out how to cope with him by the time we were seniors. The trick was to get him into a neutral situation, one-on-one, somewhere quiet, like the hallway during classes. Once he was calm, he seemed to sincerely regret his outbursts, and even be confused by them, as if the incident had happened to another person. Some people (probably most) say “But I didn’t *mean to * hurt you!” as a lame excuse – with this guy, you got the feeling that he honestly had no control over about half of any given day, and that this perplexed and disturbed him.

I started this post with the mindset that our teachers and/or the school administrators had been seriously remiss in not intervening more, but upon reflection the situation just seems sad. While some of the strange behavior happened in class, most of it occurred in those moments during the school day where adults weren’t present – in the halls, in the commons, on the grounds, etc. There’s probably a lot of things kids know about their peers that adults don’t witness.