I dunno. I keep trying to think of what could possibly make a guy say something like that. I mean, I love a good game of tennis or chess, but whatever the activity, and no matter how much I enjoy it and want a rematch, I won’t call my partner the best unless they really are. it just doesn’t come up that way.
I’m sorry -really sorry- but I can only think of 3 major possibilities.
You ARE the best, in which case I’d explect a detailed recitation of how and why, because they’ll want you to do it that way again. Moreover, ‘being the best’ rarely happens through pure dumb luck, so you probably already have some idea WHY you’re the best.
You are obviously insecure, in which case it does not reflect your skill, but rather their wish to reassure you; or
You are so much NOT the best that part of them (consciously or not) can’t help but think about (and cover up) the invidious comparison.
Oh sure there are minor possibilities, but unless the guy talks that way routinely to others in other areas of their life, or had a previous GF who constantly asked the question, he probably wouldn’t be even thinking in a comparative mode unless it’s one of these (and #2 doesn’t really count unless #1 isn’t true)
I’ve known many girls who were sure they were ‘the best’ at oral sex, because some guy(s) had (for reasons of their own) told them they were. I’m not talking about falling short of some porn fantasy, I’m talking “Let’s forget about me and give you another turn or two”
That’s not as bad as it sounds -I fall more in the ‘tis better to give than recieve’ camp- but I do like variety and playfulness, so it does take a fair bit to make me give any acr the ‘wave off’. Doing so is rather ‘counter-playful’.
I’ve been with a few women where I didn’t get off. It was pretty obvious they weren’t the best I’d ever been with. I took it as a positive sign about them if they seemed to care about it.
Otherwise, I’ve never told anyone they were the best, and I probably never will. What’s the point?
I know I’m his best ever. Don’t even have to ask. Heh heh heh.
And I seem to be doing better with each boyfriend I have, so I’m telling the truth when I tell him (because he asks, because there are security issues) that he is, in fact, the best.
The dilemma will come when I date a guy who is not the best. In the meantime, I’ll just sit over here and be smug.
A woman meets a gorgeous man in a bar. They talk, they connect, they end up leaving together. They get back to his place, and as he shows her around his apartment, she notices that his bedroom is completely packed with sweet cuddly teddy bears. Hundreds of cute small bears on a shelf all the way along the floor, cuddly medium-sized ones on a shelf a little higher, and huge enormous bears on the top shelf along the wall. The woman is surprised that this guy would have a collection of teddy bears, especially one that’s so extensive, but she decides not to mention this to him, and actually is quite impressed by his sensitive side. She turns to him… they kiss… and then they rip each other’s clothes off and make hot steamy love.
After an intense night of passion with this sensitive guy, they are lying there together in the afterglow, the woman rolls over and asks, smiling, “Well, how was it?”
The guy says: “Help yourself to any prize from the bottom shelf.”
By Adoptamom_11: "The guy says: “Help yourself to any prize from the bottom shelf.”
Please, please tell me this didn’t really happen! It’s just…Well, it’s JUST!
To answer the OP: No, I would never make a remark that would imply a comparison. It’s simply not a cool thing to do, IMHO. There are many other ways to compliment someone without referencing past experiences.
Nah, never told a girl she was the best. I did however tell a girl once (in the throws of passion) that she was “my dirty little bitch” Uh, yeah, that one didn’t go over to well. Which brings me to my point; I’m not sure how body chemistry work for a woman but for a man; we’re apt to say just about anything when our penis is hard. Just can’t help it sometimes.
I don’t really have anything to add to this thread but I just want to say it has made me laugh so much-“you’re better than socks on a rooster” “spell out the state capitals” ROFL! yeah I know the acronyms are tiresome (that is the right word isn’t it?)
This thread is a joy. You Dopers are the best you know that don’t you?
After I have sex with a woman, I sit her down for a grading process. I calmly go over everything she did right and wrong. And so there are no bad feelings as I go over the whole thing, I secretly videotape the encounters. We go over her performance and the performance of past lovers. And just so she can’t feel I’m not being fair, I post all this on the internet so I can other’s opinions to back me up. She is then given a number between 0 and 10. I really think honesty is very important in a relationship.
By the way, I am single so ladies e-mail if you are interested in an honest relationship.
