I am, regretfully, cat-free due to allergies. But I grew up with a notoriously cranky Siamese (I’m not sure if they come in any other form) named Dinah. She was Mom’s Cat, and she did not appreciate this pink, bawling critter (read: me) whose presence was in the house had not been precleared. We have these terrific pictures of me as a newborn, Dinah with a classic suck-the-breath-out-of-the-squalling-bastard look on her face.
Really, the only person who got along with Dinah was my godmother’s 13-year-old daughter, Valla, who minded me when I was a baby. The first time she babysat, my parents gave this long speach along the lines of “Just leave her be, she’s okay unless provoked, etc. etc.” They returned to find Valla fast asleep on the couch, wrapped around an equally asleep Dinah.
My father was never that much of a cat person - Mom had acquired Dinah while Dad was safely away on a business trip. Dad had grown up with dogs.
That changed when my mom died, very unexpectedly, when I was five. The poor cat had a terrible time, there was no way she could understand.
After a few weeks, though, she suddenly became Dad’s Cat.
Dad, who previously wouldn’t let Dinah in the bedroom, was suddenly dozing with her on his chest. In his bed.
And Dad also became completely uninterested in dogs, while loudly praising Catdom with the enthusiasm of the newly converted.
Dinah still didn’t think much of me. I remember a real breakthrough in our relationship came when I was about 7 or 8 - Dinah was watching me sweep the back porch, when I remembered that she herself liked to be swept. So I took the broom and swept her - hard, so that she could really feel it in her joints, which were already somewhat rheumatic.
The purr was deafening.
She still wasn’t too keen on touching me, I suspect because of an unfortunate whisker-teasing incident from when I was 4. (She bit me but good, and I remember thinking to myself that I probably deserved it - Dad had warned me.) As her memory begain to fade, I gradually came to be quite enamored of her. But I knew I was never in the same league as my father. She would yell herself hoarse when I went out of town; I always felt so sorry for her. I’m sure she was afraid that he would disappear, too, but he always came back and then she was OK.
She made it to 18.