So my Honey asks me to buy her one for her birthday. (She was sleeping with the maid at the time.) I was up in Washington DC and went to the Pleasure Chest in Georgetown. Nice sales staff there.
So I pick out a harness (darn complex thing) and it is time to select the dildo. “Do you prefer ridged or smooth? Small or large?”
“It’s not for me darn it!”
“Of course not sir.”
I know about a dozen women who have them and who have used them on both sexes. None of us really participate in the BDSM arena, so I think that impression is a little off.
hehe. Somehow that reminded me of this chat snippet from bash.org:
Bring home a lady friend to use it on, and invite him to watch?
I’ve never understood the appeal of a woman using a strap on to do her boyf/husband. Fucking someone takes a lot of energy and if you’re not getting anything out of it (namely lots of pleasureable feeling in your cock and eventually an orgasm) I can’t see why you’d want to bother.
The women who do this are total altruists.
See sunacres’ response above:
Hardly sounds like martyrdom to me. Sounds more like a power exchange, the penetratee becoming the penetrator.
A power exchange or simply deriving satisfaction from pleasing your partner. In that sense it’s similar to giving oral, which doesn’t do much for the giver physically but can be a huge turn-on anyway. And it can require just as much energy and concentration as fucking, if not more.
Wrong on several accounts.
Who’s not getting anything out of it? It involves direct physical stimulation of some extremely sensitive parts of both participants’ bodies, it involves a tremendous amount of trust between the participants, and the role reversal can be very erotic.
Have you ever tried it?
The most sensitive part, I have observed, is between the ears, right behind the eyes.
(Really, it wasn’t for me!)
Strange place to use a dildo, but to each his own.
No, because when I have sex with someone there is already one penis per person involved. Wearing a strap on would be redundant and if I want to get fucked I’d rather have the real thing.
I’m not trying to be disparaging towards people who wish to do this (it may have come across that way), simply saying don’t really get it myself.
Yeah. That would squick me out.
HA! Well, you are correct about the pleasing-one’s-partner aspect of giving a BJ being a, ahem, huge turn-on, but I must say, apart from that (well, maybe not *totally *apart from it, but apart from it to some extent), I do like giving BJ’s. (Oddly enough, I quickly become bored with BJ scenes in porn.) Provided, of course, that my jaw doesn’t lock up (but even then, I can be a trooper if the moment’s right).
Nothing to add about strap-ons, as I have my own home-grown equipment, as do my (very occasional - 
) partners.
Oh - forgot to say that I think giving oral on another guy is great fun, it’s not all about his pleasure, I love having a cock in my mouth too.
Isn’t that the truth?! I tend to find it (and the surrounding real estate) to be quite yummy.
The real estate I’m less bothered with, give me the cock! The whole concept of glory holes (where you’re sucking a faceless dick through the wall) just wouldn’t exist if it was only a chore exercised for the benefit of the other person.
So, so true.
And wow, talk about old memories! (Well, okay, it’s only about 12 years or so, but my knees aren’t as forgiving today as they were then, so it certainly *feels * like a long time ago.) 
I was going to comment on this, but I believe it speaks for itself :).
I don’t think most girls use them… the dykes I know don’t.
That said well, when my SO and me and His friend (with obviously very signifigent benefits) had a threeway, she used one on me. Wasn’t bad. OK it was actually pretty great.
I’ve never used one although I’ve used dildos on guys. (And urethral sounds…and now I hear the sound of many dopers crossing their legs…but really every guy…and girl who’s every tryed it has loved it…just sayin’)
Okay, this thread has been fascinating but I have a question…
In a situation where a woman is using a strap-on with a male partner, what is the end-result? I mean, do you just do it for awhile and then switch to good old fashioned male/female vaginal intercourse? Or does the guy masturbate to completion while being peg’ed?
(Yes, I realize there will be answers that cover all of the above. Is there a “generally speaking” answer to this?)