Guys:
IF you identify as straight, meaning you are definitely not gay, and
IF you like the idea of a woman buttfucking you while she wears a strap-on dildo…
Do you get pleasure from the fact that it’s a WOMAN having an intimate encounter with your private parts, even though she’s doing exactly what a gay guy does, which you do NOT want done to you by a man’s real penis?
I’m just curious about the thought processes that go into this.
You’re stumbling onto one of the SDMB’s Topics of Infamy. 
Personally, I wouldn’t enjoy it because I don’t enjoy anal stimulation. Maybe with some time and practice I might.
True, who’s doing it will affect your enjoyment level, but if you don’t like X in general, you won’t like it no matter who’s doing it.
I can just feel TubaDiva enjoying this uplifting tone of a thread!! Can’t y’all? Huh?
Back to the OP…I dunno. I’m a female. I can think of a few guys I’d like to “give the shaft to” but not in this sense.
In other words…maybe I just better (snicker) butt out.
By Shame’s Joys: “IF you like the idea of a woman buttfucking you while she wears a strap-on dildo…”
That’s a BIG effin’ if! There’s a whole long list of things I’d want to try, several hundred times each, before I gave that scenario enough thought to say “Fergetit”.
I know it isn’t for everyone, but I also know that it is a cherished straight male fantasy in some quarters. That’s why I asked. Even though many dudes who would like it are too shy to admit it, I’m curious how their thought processes work.
I see lots of sex threads around here all the time. Why is it an issue only when I start one?
Frankly, I think a lot of straight men would enjoy it if it didn’t have the subtle taint of somehow “being gay”. Add that to the already existing cultural thought of the anus as a “dirty no-no place” and people really freak out.
I vote every woman who is asked to try anal sex out demand reciprocation from her man. He has an ass too, y’know.
I think “cherished” is a bit much. More likely, it’s a cherished fantasy of gay men that straight men all secretly want to get fucked in the ass.
Personally, while anal stimulation is not something unknown to me, I’ve never known a woman who I trusted enough to let do this, even if she really REALLY wanted to. (It certainly wouldn’t be because I wanted it.) Like anyone who has seen “Basic Instinct,” I’m so paranoid about loss of control that I freaked when one girlfriend just wanted to tie me up. I realize this isn’t exactly what the OP was asking, but I have a feeling he is operating on premises that are much smaller in scope than he realizes.
Well, it’s certainly one of my cherished fantasies.
And by extension, if a straight guy enjoys kissing a woman than he should enjoy kissing a guy; and if he enjoys a giving a foot massage to a woman he should enjoy giving one to a guy; and so on and so forth. So basically, the only reasonable position is for everybody to be fully bisexual and that’s all there is to it. Is that your position?
Lots of good websites for this kind of action, by the way. I “accidently” came across a few…while…doing research! (hey, it could happen.)
Anyway, I would think that a straight dude doesn’t want some hairy, smelly other dude around during sex, and if was so inclined to “catch” (is that the correct term?) he would want a fine babe to do the deed. And just like Wheaties are only a part of a well-balanced breakfast, that fine babe is going to bring some of her goodies into the act a little later I would guess. Plus, strap-ons don’t fling man-junk around, and the size could be pre-determined and controled. I can guarentee no straight-only guy wants any other dude’s man-junk anywhere near him.
Until your dog can wipe his own butt, anywhere he sits should be considered canine toilet paper.
Are you sure there is really a “thought process” involved? Sexually speaking, I like what I like and on the ordinarily I feel little need to justify or rationalize my preferences to myself or to others. Not a lot of thought goes into the matter. Just instinct.
Your question has a very simple answer in my case. I’m attracted to women, but not men. I’m also not enthused by the thought of strap on sex, but I’d be far more willing to have it than let another man have anal sex with me. Yes, it’s precicely because the theoretical woman in question is a woman. No ammount of sex toys will change the fact that she is a woman, and that women are attractive and desirable as sex partners to me and men are not.
Someone mentioned “loss of control” in this thread…with the right person, giving up control and letting it all go is an extremely erotic and satisfying experience. Sure, it takes trust, but you may not want to be in such an intimate situation with someone you DON’T trust in the first place.
Over at Nerve.com Em & Lo are discussing this very topic. (I think that link is to their weekly column (so next week it will be part 2 of 2 on this topic), so search the archive for ‘Baby got Back’ if needed.)
I am very straight but don’t fear gays, but I can say that no matter what it is I’m doing, it has to be with a woman (or alone!). I don’t care for other mens bodies or attitudes or ??? in bed. I screw women (well, one woman) cuz I like women. Period. It doesn’t matter what it is, it won’t be done by a man to me. It’s just not my thing. I have done a group thing a couple times, and that was when I realized I just don’t want another man around me in sexual terms.
As Em & Lo say in the article, there are no heterosexual or homosexual acts, nerve endings don’t use those terms. But people do, so the act doesn’t matter really, just who’s doing it.
-Tcat
I’ve got a question – considering that a strap-on is an inaminate piece of material with no nerve endings, and the woman doesn’t directly get anything out of it, are there women who want to do this? Is there a psychological kick to it or something? I’m assuming the answer is yes, since the long-departed Satan’s GF apparently wanted to do this. Pepperlandgirl might, too – I’m dense and having a hard time interpreting her reply. Does this idea appeal to any of the Doper women out there?
(BTW – it doesn’t appeal to me. I hate my prostate exams with a passion.)
To illustrate a point:
For the straight women…
If you like to have sex with a man, why does it matter what man you have sex with? It’s essentially the same action so why the preference?
IMHO, it’s not just the act of having sex that’s desirable, it’s the partner as well. You have to find your partner pleasurable first before you can fully enjoy the sex.
While taking in the caboose by a strap-on clad woman might be enjoyable, (can’t give a yes/no, never tried it. however I’m fairly open to many things) taking it from a man would never be enjoyable. I’m attracted to women, not men.
It is called ‘pegging’ isn’t it?
Not my idea of a fun afternoon I think, YMMV.
Ok, I can handle this.
Done it.
At this point, I want to post some kind of disclaimer about my extreme straightness, but someone’s probably gonna say it 's just a cover. For what it’s worth, I’m straight, but as someone said above, I don’t fear gay folks. As long as I’m doing it with a woman, it’s all good.
It’s ok, but a few technical problems. Women are built differently in the pelvic region, and their normal uses for their pelvis aren’t the same as guys. The angles don’t work out very well, and they really can’t get the concept of repeated thrusting with rhythm. So, it’s kinda touch and go.
One more technical issue, the “tool” used for this job is decidedly more ummm…anus friendly than a real dick would be. It’s smaller around and has a nice pointy taper to it.
But it’s a neat experience, and the girl looks really cool in a twisted sorta way walking around with that thing on.
Hey Cal, Owing to Coldfire’s no link posting rule over on yesterday’s Ask the Adult store worker thread, I won’t link here…BUT, if you go to Good Vibrations and search their catalog, you’ll find a strap-on for women that accomodates both partners. It is a neat design I must say. Sorta looks like this: __) So the woman can get something out of it physically too.
-Tcat
There’s nothing inherently “gay” about anal stimulation. Sheesh.
I believe strap-on sex is a cherished male fantasy among a lot of male submissives. And among female tops, I think a lot of them like the idea of strap-on sex. I think it would have to do with the idea of the role reversal of “penetrator” and “penetratee”, but I can’t really speak knowledgably about the psychology of B&D.
As for what the woman gets out of it, since the strap-on has no nerve endings…do you suppose that folks giving oral sex are doing it for how good it feels on their tongue? They do it because they enjoy doing something their partner enjoys. Isn’t getting your partner off a turn-on?
Found the name. Search for Nexus at goodvibes.com for a female friendly strap-on.
-Tcat