Um Shame’s Joys do you enjoy (assuming you are male) kissing a girl because kissing is something a gay man likes to do? The tone of the question seems a bit weird to me.
Personally, the idea doesn’t appeal to me greatly because while I quite like anal stimulation, this doesn’t seem a very good way of getting it: the woman isn’t likely to enjoy a very high degree of control compared to what can be done with a hand-held dildo.
You know, considering the topic of this thread, and considering that I don’t read so good sometimes, I was reading the OP’s name as Shame’s Toys up until that last post by refusal.
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You know, considering the topic of this thread, and considering that I don’t read so good sometimes, I was reading the OP’s name as Shame’s Toys up until that last post by refusal.
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Prostates aren’t gay, and men get stimulated by them.
Welcome to Biology 101.
Esprix
Well if a GF wanted to do it, I might be open to the idea. But I wouldn’t ask a GF to do it to me if it wasn’t here fantasy.
Cheers, Bippy
CalMeacham - yes, done it, liked it, je suis un top. I think Sengkelat’s oral sex analogy is a good 'un, but also, being a top, there is the sheer wonderful psychological thrill of domination, penetration etc.
I post another vote for, if my GF wants to try it, I’m there.
i wou;d andwer your quesyiom, but upon opeming the thread i havw beem struxk blind. i hopw im typong okay.
No, no… really.
It’s not a cherished fantasy of mine. Maybe that a lot of men get vasectomies and stop reproducing, but not that they get fucked in the ass.
Though… I’d love if anal sex ceased being a straight male terror/joke punchline.
Well, as someone pointed out, certain strapons are designed to stimulate both people involved.
Also, I know from certain other…experiments…that he would indeed enjoy me using a strap-on on him. Even if I didn’t get physical pleasure from the act, it would still be satisifying to you know, make him feel good.
I would like to try, but I am actually afraid my GF will think what some straight men think, that it’s “gay.” She already thinks that me wanting to have anal sex with her is slightly “gay.” Her responce whne I ask is why not go find a gay man to do it with, since it will be the same :rolleyes:
I try to explain that I have sex with women, not men, but to her a but is a but…also, she doesn’t want to do it, she she makes excuses. Hmm…maybe I can negotiate some some of trade…ass sex for me and ass sex fort her…
bouv Whatever you do, don’t tell her tha Gay men sometimes will have oral sex with each other!
I don’t know if I’d go as far as terror/joke punchline, but I have to admit there is something amusing yet alarming at the thought of going home and finding my teeny tiny girlfriend expectantly wearing an enormous lubricated wang.
Thought number 1: Now there’s something you don’t see every day.
Thought number 2: Yikes!
Hey, c’mon, everybody’s jittery their first time.
Maybe I’ll stop for a beer or two on the way home now. Yeah, two. No, make that three.
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Hey!!!
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Once upon a time on this board, there was an infamous thread in which a well-known (former) poster’s girlfriend wanted to use a strap-on on him. Or, as he titled the thread, “You want to put WHAT up my as?!”
It’s an essential part of SDMB lore. And to be clear, there’s no problem at all with your thread.
It isn’t, believe me. Some of the old-timers are getting cranky, because some of us newbies aren’t tired of talking about sex, and they are. You can blame me for that; everyone else does. 
But, I believe this is an unpopular topic, all the time, from the comments I’ve read. Dunno why; there’s just as much, if not more, ignorance surrounding anal sex as there is about almost anything else. I’ve already seen one thread on a similar topic slammed shut after 4 or 5 posts. So, by comparison, you’re doing well.
Aside from that, I don’t really have much to say on this subject, which I’m sure will surprise some of the folks, here. I’ve never experienced it, although I’d be willing to try it, if a woman I really cared about was all hot to do it.
And, I wanted to applaud the courage it took for the guys who’ve admitted trying it to do so, particularly //\etalhea|), as he was the first to speak up, and the most informative. Rock on, Tin Man!
On preview, I see Troy has checked in with a different perception of how anal-related threads are received, here. I bow to his seniority, in this regard. I guess the thread I saw closed was an aberration?
I have some friends - gay men and women. The question came up and the men said that oral sex is far more common then doing anal. The women have told me that it used to be a taboo to do “straight sex” things with strapons but thats mostly people hung up on looking straight.
So… I would say there is a lot of fear of what others might thing on both sides of the coin. Personally I get the fear part and would say most of whats done in the bedroom is private so what the heck?
I would add that I think there is some amount of fear where things will lead. Bondage for example. I’ve seen some videos where it just gets unwatchable for me. Humiliation and pain. I don’t get that and have no desire to be the person inflicting the extreme things I’ve seen on “some” videos. My significant other (And several previous girl friends) told me they were into bondage. What I never saw past was they were into “bondage” not being gang raped, chained to the garage floor or beaten, put on public display and so on. So after having a lot of misgivings I did some study and went into an adult store. Fuzzy handcuffs, a blindfold and a tickler. And a whatever its called? If it was full sized I guess it would a cat of 9 tails. Which btw was the most unsavory thing. So I did the whole blind fold, handcuff her, tickle her with the micro cat o 9 and the tickler. Then went down on her and put out my unit for her to reciprocate. I didn’t expect her to say this was a totally 10 on the 1 to 10 event. For me? I don’t have to get it to want to give her 10 level sex. My baggage is still there with the image of some of these scenes that look violent, painful and humiliating but… If its this micro bondage? And she is THAT into this? I guess I should have been open to at least a little of this much sooner.
So. While this is not what I would choose from a list of things? Her being into it that much? I guess it means the $20 fuzzy handcuffs stay attached to the bed.
Maybe turn this around. Has anyone ever brought up men wearing strapons? I’m thinking several reasons. One is just for variety. If you have been doing it with the same person with the same “equipment” for decades maybe a change could be good? Does doing this mean you want a group of other guys having sex with her? No… Not me anyway.
And if your not… endowed enough or the woman is on the larger size to do things like doggy style and the strapon is whatever length and girth you want? I personally found that drippy level hot. And so does my SO. Also I’m sure there must be a guy or two who had ED that would enjoy being suddenly more capable then he was before ED. In other words he can go go go enough that his girlfriend / wife doesn’t just about reach climax but your equipment went flacid at the exact wrong time for once.
Then if we get to the actual question. I don’t think it really has anything to do with being gay any more then it has with lesbians being turned straight by strapon sex. Nor does it mean that deep down strap on sex is lesbians who are really straight but hiding it. Don’t you agree its who you do whatever it is with thats the thing that is important (Or impotent with the guy in the one example wearing the equipment)
I’ve tried it. It lacked a way for both of us to get off but I’ve seen some videos of this where the man was on his back and got a handjob during this non gayufication sex act. And it seems to me that a hitachi vibe put in the strapon behind the dildo can’t help but bring the female off. So does it have to lead to the guy being either turned gay, feminized or whatever? Hopefully not and if our experience with micro bondage is true it might be an easy 10 on the orgasmometer.
Life is short why spend it freaking out what other people who have never done something think its about?
This thread is 15 years old, and most of the people don’t post here anymore. How did you find this thread?
Yikes, TMI alert…
OMG, I hope my wife is not lurking on this board as she would absolutely kill me…and this is not exactly answering the OP’s question, but the question was posed in 2003, so I’m not exactly derailing the thread as much as answering the last post from yesterday…
My wife and I have been married for 26+ years, and have raised three boys to adulthood and are now empty-nesters…we’ve also had an active sex life throughout our marriage, yes, being married means feast or famine given familial demands, but in general, we’re good…
Early in our marriage, Mrs. BLTC disclosed she had a previous boyfriend that would tie her up and that excited her…I had never done that, and we experimented successfully a couple of times, but with kids in the house, then teenagers, we hadn’t done anything like that in years…
Fast forward, after our youngest one moved out, we talked about it, Amazon Prime is a wonderful thing, bought a couple of toys, and have purchased others since…as you said, it’s not about pain, it’s about giving up control so that I can pleasure her as much as possible, it’s her completely trusting me to be wonderfully nice…
Which brings me to something you talked about, using a strap on/dildo because of ED…I do not experience ED and I’m pretty average in size, wife is happy, but we both have a bit of a cuckold/stranger fantasy with absolutely NO desire to bring someone else into the scene, so we discovered penis sleeves which I put on just like a condom…they do require the male to be erect, but you can feel through them, it’s actually a nice change of pace and combining the gentle bondage/blindfold with the enlargement as been a way to spice up a 26+ year marriage…and our oldest son is 29, so, yeah, we’ve been together for over 30 years…
I’ll play, although I’ve never given a whole lot of thought to being buttfucked by a woman with a strap-on, and I don’t quite identify as straight for that matter, but close enough for purposes of this inquiry.
I spend a lot of time with the partners and potential partners who are a part of my erotic life. A lot of the attraction is cumulative and has to do with their physical presence. A lot of it has to do with their presentation too.
When it comes down to direct entertainment of my nerve endings, the activity could be consummated by anyone with the same tingly result, I suppose, but a lot happens before we get to that point.
I find female physical body configuration to be inherently sexy. Some of that is due to a prior history of having found it sexy, so there’s an association of all those past experiences with the notion of being female. Some of it is anticipation of getting to touch female skins and female parts. Quite a bit is an intertwining of her personality and behavior and all of the above associations melded together.
The gay guy is going to be working without a lot of that. If I just want the tingles, I can do tingles all by myself, not needing any assistance, so anyone else’s involvement is kind of predicated on their presence in and of itself being experienced by me as sexy.