The worst is when a lady is crying and you don’t know why.
Yeah. It really touches me when a woman cries. I have what feels like an instinctive, protective response to it, over which I have no control. I am a big ol’ sucker for it, in other words.
Caveat: Women who are so weepy that they just cry all the time for no reason are a turn-off. But I do like a woman who cries at appropriate emotional moments. It shows she has a tender heart.
So it is still okay to have emotions? Sometimes it really seems like we are not allowed to have emotions, whether male or female. It makes me sad 
I think it’s o.k. for a woman to cry if the occasion calls for it. The birth of a child can be so overwhelming that you may shed a tear of two just as the loss of a child or loved one will make you cry. It just depends on the circumstances.
I too think that it is a sign of weakness to let others see you cry. I hide it as well as I can when I cry (which isn’t often). I cry when I’m really upset or stressed about something (another thing that doesn’t happen very often) but I don’t use it as a weapon or for sympathy or anything.
The last time I cried was a few weeks ago when I found out my grandpa was in the hospital and they thought he was gonna die. I was on the phone with my best friend at the time and my mom called my cell phone to tell me that she and my dad were going back to Ohio to be with the family. I couldn’t hardly talk when I got back on the phone with Terry. I felt like such an ass for sobbing like I was but I couldn’t help it.
[hijack] I hope you are okay, whatever happens, and I am sending you compassion. [/hijack]
I guess I’m a big ol’ sexist when it comes to crying. I probably do see it as a sign of weakness in men, but not at all in women (unless they are just the absolute cry-at-the-drop-of-a-hat variety).
Men, generally, are expected to be bastions of strength (and rightly so, IMHO). Even with respect to men, I think there are occasions when there is no shame in crying (loss of a loved one, e.g.), and in fact, not crying would make you a cold, unfeeling bastard in my book.
A woman who is not afraid to cry gets points from me for showing a soft side. I think there may be some instinct at work there. (Strong empathy=Good caregiver for family. Or something like that.) Like I said, I’m a big ol’ sexist.
Thanks Nika. He’s home now but not much better. It’s just a matter of time I guess. I call a few times a week and sometimes he can talk to me and other times he can’t. Tomorrow is his 78th birthday so hopefully when I call he’ll be well enough to talk to me so I can wish him a happy birthday!
I hope everything works for you the way you want it to. Best of luck, Rachelle
I like them to cry. I pulled pigtails in grade school.
It’s the shouting and hitting afterward I could live without.
I cry at commercials, weddings, movies, tv shows, etc… but it’s just a 2 or 3 tear kind of thing, not bawling. Ok ok, I did kinda bawl at the end of Iron Giant and I was sobbing my head off during Dances With Wolves, but generally speaking it’s pretty minor, if frequent.
When I’m really sad or frustrated I’ll cry. I don’t think crying is a sign of weakness at all. Actually, I think trying to hide it or deny it or stop it is kind of pathetic.
To my knowledge I’ve never “used” crying for any purpose, and I think that would be a pretty crappy thing to do.
It certainly isn’t a weakness (tho some may argue it’s a reflection of the person and their psychological makeup). Allowing your emotions to the fore isn’t at all bad.
It might seem strange to some but I don’t cry during a crisis or obviously upsetting time. For example I recently had a close cousin killed in an accident and understandably the entire family took it very hard. I was shocked obviously but remained calm to help everyone else. In fact only my father and I were able to do the myriad of things that needed doing in addition to comforting the countless relatives. It wasn’t a conscious decision - but it was what was required. I grieved later in my own time.
Does this make me better or worse? Neither I think. People do different things for different reasons.
Having said that, I get sniffly reasonably easily in movies and even TV shows (and most definitely books).
Its not so much liking women cry, but more of liking women strip.
No.
Not unless she’s lost more than a pint of blood.