There has been a lot about women liking the sensitive side of men, but hat about the other half of the story? Guys. do you like a sensitive, crying woman, or do you like them tough and hard??
who is this Nika chic who never has any of her threads answered? I mean what kinda loser is she?? 
I’m here for ya babe!
There’s not as many limits that society puts on women about crying, where as men have traditionally been expected to be tough and macho. I mean it’s ok for a woman to cry depending on the situation, same as a man.
If we’re 5 minutes late for a movie, don’t cry.
If you’ve just lost something your grandmother gave you that has much sentimental value and you’re very upset, go ahead and cry.
Just don’t be weepy and cry at anything. I was once engaged and this girl cried while we watched Independence Day for God’s sake! ET I can understand, that was touching, sad, and moving. But Inde-fuckin-pendence Day?!! Get a grip!
Yeah I am up on that. But it is true that society has said that men can’t cry and women can. I mean women can use crying as a weapon and it is almost seen as okay. I do not think that is okay. I mean, i will have a good cry every so often, just to clear my head if nothing else (it works almost as well as pot), but I do not think that tears should have a double standard.
Well, I’d tell you outright, but you might start bawling just to get rid of me.
Hint: The answer has 2 letters, starting with N, ending with O.
As long as the emotion is sincere, then go for it.
But using an emoption as a weapon isn’t cool for either sex.
no, no it isn’t.
I gotta go with Seale on this. Now, I will also cry at movies, but the sentimental, touching kind, or where something sad happens. Or very happy, I cry happy tears too. But, as a weapon or to get your own way, never.
And, Brat, I cried watching Independence Day…
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I was laughing so hard at his rant while he’s dragging the alien wrapped up in the parachute… LOL! A few tears leaked out.
Nika, even more interesting, one cannot cry & laugh at the same time…thus I must have a strong sense of humor.
Or you are really confused!! I just think it is interesting to see what makes people cry and why it is sometimes okay and other times not. I mean it is okay to cry at a wedding, but is it okay when you get engaged??
That’s like asking somebody to explain humour…it’s impossible. I wouldn’t want to be involved with a girl who used crying as a weapon or cried at all sorts of little stupid things (“I cut my finger! WAAAAAAH!” is a big no-no), but emotionally sensitive, yes. I don’t want to be involved with somebody who is a brick.
Q1 Do men like women who cry?
I used to be a bit wary of females who burst into tears at a moment’s notice, but I have changed my opinion in recent years. As has already been mentioned, it comes down to motive. If it’s sincere it’s difficult to fault it, but if it’s in anyway manipulative then it’s time to initiate the Ignore User function.
Dishonesty is the biggest turn-off know to dprkind.
Q2 Who is this Nika chic who never has any of her threads answered? I mean what kinda loser is she??
Well she seems to be a fun-loving girl with a good sense of humour but appearances can be deceiving. After all, look who she’s hanging out with… 
I love you guys already!!!
But I won’t burst into tears because that would not be emotionally stabble 
I really hope my SO does NOT cry often.
Because I’m such a sucker. One crying fit and I’d be putty in her hands.
Not that I need much help to be such a doormat…
I prefer women that are independent, stable and strong willed (In otherwords, someone I’d never get together with.) Crying should be sincere, but at the same time she should be strong enough not to cry at the least provacation. As was said earlier, tears used as a weapon are a big turn off to me. Crying at the end of Les Mis, Old Yeller, or similar is understandable, crying at the end of Battlefield Earth because you’ve just realized you just lost 2 hours and $10 you will never get back is understandable as well, but a bit suspect. Crying because you broke a nail? Ugh.
Oh, Nika…You ladies make us wait 2 hours while you get ready to go out, so cut us a little slack when we make you wait for our replies.
I’ve noticed that some women cry to get their way just as some men shout and stomp their feet to get their way.
Having said that, TW (the ex-spouse) cried only 3 times in the three years I knew her. Each time, it was not to be manipulative (that I could tell) but she never cried unless she percieved that she herself had been dealt an injustice. No sympathetic tears noted.
Next time I’m looking for someone who is a bit more expressive.
~~Baloo
When the hubby and I first started dating, we saw the movie * Always* with Richard Dreyfuss and Holly Hunter. He spent most of the movie watching me instead of the movie. I didn’t just have a few tears trickling down my cheek. When the movie ended, my face was completely wet. I guess he didn’t mind my tears too much since he married me 6 years later.
I cry at movies. I cried at the end of Armageddon. Heck, I even cried at the end of *The Little Mermaid[/i}). I cry watching tv commericals (remember the one where the woman is sitting at the table with her husband and she says Jimmy (?) called today. The father asks why and her eyes tear and says “he just called to say I love you.”) Those things just get to me. Am I the biggest sap or what?
On the other hand, I rarely cry when arguing or angry. Every once in awhile I’ll cry when I’m really, really mad. Those are the times that I go to my room, shut the door, and cry into the pillow so no one hears me.
I admire some degree of self-control in people, so I consider crying in front of others a weakness unless there’s a good reason to do so. That includes both men and women. There are exceptions.
I saw “Dead Man Walking” a few years back with some friends. I was on the edge of tears through the latter half of the film, but being a macho man, I tried my damndest not to cry in front of them. I made it through the movie just fine, but I lost control in the parking lot on the way to the car. Nobody knew what to do, so they just pretended to ignore me while I cried like a baby. How embarrassing!
I don’t cry often, and when I do, I try to be private about it, but there are some times when you just can’t hold it in.
- JB
I am just delighted to have your answer:)
The worst is when a lady is crying and she doesn’t know why.
I mean, I guess it’s not really a big deal, right? You don’t know why you are crying, I shouldn’t really worry about it, right? You, yourself, are sitting there crying, and you admit that you don’t have any idea why you would be doing so. This, to me, means that you do not have a reason, and that I should not be concerned about it.
What? Why are you mad at me now? I didn’t do anything! You’re the one crying like a fool over nothing! What would you have me do? You just said there was nothing wrong! Were you lying, or are you just mental?
Insensitive? I’m insensitive? Actually, I think I have the normal amout of sensitivity. Enough so that when there’s a reason to cry, I do, and when there isn’t, I do not. You see. Reasonable.