A universal fact? Beats me. But it is true for me. It’s also true that if anything happens to disrupt the gradual increase in my level of arousal, I might as well start over from the beginning, or give it up for the night, because it’s gone. I cannot have just been arguing with my husband, and shift gears and get aroused and enjoy sex. I cannot have just been reading a science-fiction book, or been listening to my husband talk about politics. I cannot be worried about a sick child, or a high windstorm outside. I pretty much have to agree on the ‘no thinking about nonsexy things’ assertion. I don’t know why it should be true, but it does seem to be a reality for (many, most) women.
I’ve wondered this one myself. I mean, plain old in-and-out is boring for me, if it’s not doing anything to increase my level of arousal. And if it is, I’m going to reach an orgasm in less than 3-5 minutes anyway. And then there’s the chafing issue. Obviously it can be addressed with artificial lubes, but I have never seen the point in men wanting to last “all night”. I don’t last all night. Heck, I don’t last 10 minutes. If I can’t come by then, it’s not working and isn’t likely to work (due to hormonal fluctuations during the month) and my usual suggestion is to just finish up however he wishes.
Specifically, search for the threads where the guy I mentioned earlier in this thread, Jack Dean Tyler, posts. He’s a rich source of amusement.
Still, I don’t know about this Jack Dean Tyler guy, but there are a number of men on the restoration list who, having been circed in adulthood, are going to the extensive effort of restoring themselves, because they feel they have lost a great deal of sensation. Some of these have been at the restoration long enough to report that they have regained the sensation they had pre-circ. Some are in their 50’s and 60’s (one is 70+) and they claim it has improved their sexual experience. So, for whatever personal anecdotes are worth, they seem to be in favor of keeping the glans covered and mucosal rather than exposed and dry. And yes I know, the plural of ‘anecdote’ is not ‘data’.
But to get back on topic:
It would be interesting to do a study to see what percentage of women could orgasm from penetration alone - I mean, penetration done in such a way that there was literally no other stimulation. I suspect zero. Whereas a man could orgasm that way (penetrating alone, no other stimulus). When we talk about ‘penetration alone’, there is so much variation in position, depth of thrust, periodicity/rate of thrust, and other stimulus (verbal, breast, kissing) that I’m not sure it actually counts as ‘alone’.
Well, I’m not going to climax if I’m actively thinking about something else, but I can’t hold a thought about anything other than then sensations I’m feeling for long.
I’m perma-horny, doesn’t matter what we’ve been talking about, watching or listening to beforehand, once I cuddle up to him or kiss him or see him nekkid…
I’ve never experienced any chafing or soreness, and we’ve managed slightly over 2.5 hours of continuous penetration (with the occasional pause to make it last longer), very plesant muscle ache the next morning though. 
Same for me, that and the fact that I’m so increadably taken with my man!
But the pull on the skin through penetration could indirectly stimulate the clitoris even though it’s not being directly touched, so would you call it a clitoral orgasm or a vaginal one?
I’ll weigh in with a vote for “Cant think of anything else and still have an orgasm.” If I start thinking about something other than what’s going on in my crotch, its gone.
Once I lose my hold on the pleasurable feelings, I pretty much have to “start over” and go through the build-up again. When I first started having sex, It took me a long time to realize that an orgasm was something I had to concentrate on, and that it wouldnt just happen all on its own.
Yes, I do. In fact I more regularly reach orgasm that way, than from clitoral stimulation.
Guess I’m one of the lucky few!!!
S.
Boy, the things you say on a message board…
I, OTOH, cannot have one if I am concentrating ON having one. It’s almost as though if I am too focused on the sensations and what my body is doing, it takes much longer. Wonderful trick for making it last.
Or, it was back in the day… :rolleyes:
I think a lot of women (especially younger women) think they’ve had orgasms when they haven’t. They think of “an orgasm” as just “the part of the sex that felt the best… that must be it”. Then later in life they discover actual orgasms because–as stated earlier in the thread–they are something you usually have to decide to have, and concentrate on.
I have never had an orgasm from penetration alone. Actually, for me I pretty much have to give myself the first orgasm, and even then it can take a long time. Once I’ve had that first one, though, I can have as many more as you want, as long as you give me about a minute between them. I find the best way to orgasm during penetration is if the guy gets in a more vertical position so that there is room for my hand down there 
It is very very (very) hard for a guy to make me orgasm without my help.
That sounds really interesting… do you know of an online article about that or anything? a brief Googling didn’t turn up anything but really cheesy erotica stories.
Oh, does anyone know of a study that would have a statistic about what percentage of women have never had an orgasm?
Wouldn’t most women discover real orgasms via masturbation at a fairly early age?