that’s a great idea. It really is. However, before my accident I was the one introducing him to people and going up to females in the bar. I’m his only friend because all he does is video games, nerd. Coincidentally enough, he was the driver in my accident and the only ones that stuck around and when he is not home playing video games. He’s at my house helping me and my parents with my cares. Also, it would absolutely have to be a female. No matter how much I joke about it.
with the way the economy is and people trying to find jobs. Why would this work?? If you did it through. Let’s say medical Center or the home nurse companies/caregiver companies and you’re not having actual sex, unless you both want, just the other parts. Why wouldn’t it work, I think it would and More jobs, no pun intended. And if they are through places like that, probably benefits
I know if that was available through the company that sends me my home nurse weekly, I would do it in a heartbeat. Not saying that nurse, saying someone there for just this purpose
also, I’m pretty sure I will never get these things I want. When I made a stupid decision that caused me to be paralyzed every kind of wants pretty much got thrown away. Hell, I can not even scratch my face when there’s an itch. All my plans, my future, was thrown away. I understand that, and I accept the fact that it’s my fault and I am paying for it. But the original post wasn’t to find ways to help me, it’s about the entire top and if it’s ethical and if there are legal options, etc. etc. etc.
Cool, glad to hear it. Does the idea of something like the Venus 2000 appeal at all? I’m not pushing this particularly, but it is something that would last for years, where a visit from a prostitute is a one-time thing. And it’s not like all those cheap crap toys - this is something made by an inventor who wanted something for himself, then started making it for others. It’s “overbuilt” by the standards of most manufacturers.
That’s the bizarre logic behind the anti-prostitution laws. You can have sex with someone for free. You can employ people, as long as you obey all the labor laws. But you can’t employ anyone for sex.
Munkypoop, thank you for participating in the thread. It is valuable to get your first hand experiences.
The issue is that our country had a giant hangup over sex, and for whatever reason, sexual needs are not seen as legitimate medical/health issues. Ergo, at this time there is no way to get your medical home health providers to do this as a service, and no way to get it tied to benefits/insurance.
I’m not sure what it would take to start this kind of campaign as an issue consciousness-raising campaign to advocate for this kind of service. It is a complex topic. That is frustrating, but reality.
I’m sure there’s an adult superstore out there that has some sort of device that can solve this. Would this be considered a “quality of life” issue?
Two ideas come to my mind, at least.
Sperm donation. A nurse would have to help you with that. It would be rather dishonest. But it would run around the issue of prostitution laws, I think. (I don’t know if someone else suggested this. But since I don’t have the time nor inclination to go thru all the posts, I will leave it at that.)
Different types of orgasms. Men, just like women, can train themselves to have other types of orgasms. I think, for example, you could train yourself to have a pretty big “mental” orgasm if you tried (I’m using “you” in the general sense, since I am not implying someone on these boards will really take this advice). Also, if you were paralyzed, you could just imagine your “nether” quarters (to use another poster’s term) were being stimulated. I know I’ve had dreams when I was younger, where there was no actual stimulation of my “nethers”. But it still worked. (I’ll leave out the exact details of course.)
It was discussed earlier in the thread. I’m not sure what makes you think a nurse would have to help with that? Of course they don’t have to.
You also don’t go to your local second hand shop and make them clean your house so they can take your old clothes. You can hand it over, or… just… nothing.
In that light, let’s just say this again: nobody is ever obliged to perform a sex act on anyone else. Ever.
True. However, our society puts some substantial obstacles in the way of a paralyzed man seeking someone willing to give him a handjob or whatever.
when I say I don’t get embarrassed. Of course there are limits for everything. Such as, my parents or one friend putting on a sex toy and cleaning everything up. So I’d rather not
not really, I didn’t think much as trying to speak this out and didn’t want to try and speak out, or speak to type, and entire huge thought I was having especially with my voice not being the greatest right now. So things easily cancel out, which is another thing kind of but I know what I meant. LOL
actually, it was part of medical care just recently shot down and taken out by Congress
we all remember those dreams ha ha or being in school holding your books ovver your “nether regions” just to hide your erection. LOL oh, the good days 
and you are correct. There are some people, in similar situations, who can imagine and feel pleasure in the way everyone knows or in different ways. A lot don’t even have the ability to get an erection without medication. But a lot can get them, but can’t get the feeling of orgasms through imagination, only through actual stimulation. In my case, I’ve tried everything people have recommended through disability forums, to no avail. Also, unfortunately, since those are in the UK the advice for this topic is a lot different due to different laws as you can naturally assume… Now, whether it be in my situation or someone similar either female or male. I’m fairly confident that if there were establishments made just for this topic, it would be used and would be a great thing for the disability community. They tried to pass it once, maybe one day they will
you are correct. And they shouldn’t have to. If their job title, and the one they went to school for and applied for, is to be a medical nurse for vitals and other common medical needs that you would get the same from your average regular doctor visit. Just easier for them to come over when it takes hours to get up and ready in a wheelchair. And I would not expect them to provide sexual favors. But if they had an establishment focusing on that issue at would be a different story
I used to know a female who was a caregiver. This was before I was paralyzed have no contact with her or anyone anymore. Anyways, she was taking care of a guy, and in one of their conversations. They were talking about sex. The guy she was taking care of mentioned it to someone, not trying to be mean or even thinking it was wrong because they were just talking about what we are, but not as specific as we are. She was immediately fired and red flagged from working in any similar job in any way for 8 years.
Also, when you think of someone helping a disabled person with sexual needs, why does automatically go to prostitution? I know I know look up the definition blah blah, but in my opinion, there are different situations where if you are helping and working for an organization helping disabled people with this problem. I don’t think your prostitute, unless you go further than protocol to make more money.
Don’t know how easy or difficult it is for you to play a video link, but the “White Hands” video linked to earlier is a Japanese program employing women who visit physically disabled men and masturbate them. The cost is roughly $35 for 15 minutes. The US needs something like this, but the blue-noses work very hard to shut down any possible venue to find someone willing to provide this service.
What if they need a sperm sample from a disabled person?
Then the person you want to get pregnant with or not-pregnant with helps you, since they are clearly eager to have sex with you. They also don’t have to, of course, but I doubt this is a problem in the real world.
While I agree with you that there is a difference between what we might call “classic” prostitution and the sort of sex work you are talking about, many other people are incapable of making that distinction. Add in to that there are person who are extremely hung up about sex in any form, another slice who don’t comprehend that disabled people have sexual feelings, and the moralizing busy-bodies oh-so-concerned with other peoples’ conduct and you have our current mess.
Even if you had a group of people willing to volunteer assistance, that is, with absolutely no money exchanging hands whatsoever, you’d still have people upset over the notion. Look at the constant refrain in this thread about “no one is entitled to sex” and “you can’t force anyone to have sex with you”. It’s very clear to me that you have no intention of forcing anyone to do anything, you’re looking for someone willing to help you masturbate to relieve a very real distress.
It also seems to me that if people are paid to help you with other tasks you can’t do, which is pretty much anything involving physical movement, people assisting you in this area should be compensated as well, especially since there is such emphasis on clinical detachment. People get upset if there’s even a hint of personal feelings or emotion here, but also get upset if there’s a discussion of money. What it comes down to is that there are a LOT of people who get upset at the notion that disabled people are still sexual beings. You’re injury broke your spine, not your sex drive, and for some reason that scares some people.