I am a gay male so I really never notice this before, but today I was VERY bored so I went on to MySpace and a few other dating sites for straight men.
I notice a LOT in fact most of the men have pictures of themselves wearing a suit.
I was wondering if that is a preferred pose or is it that men wear suits to work so they just happen to have that picture.
On the gay sites, usually the men will have a pic of them w/o a shirt, but most straight guys don’t do that. At best you get a tank top and if you do get a shirtless pic, it’s of him at the beach.
So I was just wondering from straight men and straight women, is the pose of the guy in the suit, something that straight women like? To the straight men, did you put the pic of you in a suit, 'cause you thought it would be something women would like?
I don’t have a profile pic of me in a suit. The only pictures of me in a suit that I have are from the times I get off work and go straight to a bar, and in all those pictures (which, of course, make it up on the wall of said bar) I’m absolutely shitfaced
I’m not on the market, but if I were, a suit would be a complete turn-off. But that’s because I’m a geek, and guys in suits are the Enemy.
Unless it was a 1930’s three-piece suit, complete with period hairdo. That’d mean he’s probably one of my crowd, with similar interests. Which, come to think of it, is how I was first attracted to my SO - a picture of him in not a suit, but almost: a Lord Byron-style vest and shirt. Nom.
So, er… that’s a yea for period suits (and shirt/vest ensembles), and a nay for contemporary suits.
Like Walpurgis, I’m not looking, but if I were, I’d find suits a huge turn-off.
Suits should be worn because you HAVE to wear them for work. Then when you get a choice, you wear comfy clothes you can actually move around in - flannel shirts in winter, t-shirts that you get a kick out of for summer. And in the circles I travel in, Hawaiian shirts or batik shirts are good for almost anything, though I realize there is a cultural element there perhaps missing for others.
They’re signifiers of fiscal independence (even moderate success) and a stable job, which are usually attractive qualities in a prospective partner. Other than that, I don’t think I mind either way.
If it looks like it’s a pic which happened to come out looking good, fine. If he looks like the suit felll on him, repulsive. If he looks like My Suit Is My Armor (and it’s not actual chainmail or studded leather), I’ll run for the hills.
Most “natural” pics of my unmarried bro happen to be in suits because they’re from celebrations and he happened to be wearing one. He may wear one twice a year, tho.
I rarely ever see guys in a suit, to be honest. I do see them in suits for weddings, usually hugging a bunch of other men and holding a beer. Then there’s the “me with my car” shot and “me in the bathroom mirror with no shirt on” shot, and “me outdoors” And that’s about it.
Of course I am not usually looking for dudes who would wear a suit to work - more IT types. The shirtless guys just sort of pop out at you - I’m not looking for them either.
I’m a female and I LOVE a man in a suit. Very sexy.
However, I’m not sure how I would feel about a guy who wore one in his online profile pic…it might come off as unnatural and hokey. It really depends on the photo though.
I would agree. I find a lot of guys only post the suit pics because it’s from some event where they were dressed up and looked decent and some friend’s sister said “let me take a picture of you for that internet site you were telling me about” therefore crushing his dreams of hooking up with said sister.
Of course, my bf Dewey posted a pic of himself in a suit because he was dressed up as #2 from the Austin Powers movies. And he looked hawt
I definitely don’t prefer profile pics of guys in suits. Feels a little show-offy. When I was looking, I was aiming for a casual comfy guy being himself. And I found one.
Now, when my man puts on a suit for special occasions, I swoon. But if his profile pic was him in a suit… meh. Might not have grabbed my interest as much as he did.
Even though I’m not single, I notice more when men dress badly (ripped, stained or ill-fitting clothing) than if they’re dressing up. I generally assume if I see a picture of a guy in a suit that he’s at work, at a funeral or at a wedding. If he’s not, I always wonder why the heck the guy is in a suit. So, no, I’m not much of a suit woman unless the tie and jacket are off, top few buttons are undone and sleeves rolled up. Then…yum.
I love the way my husband dresses. He doesn’t wear clothes that don’t fit him unless he’s doing work that requires it or sleeping, so no baggy pants or shirts or torn or stained clothing. Even though he doesn’t do it consciously (he’s just looking for clothes that fit, not necessarily flatter), his clothes tend to show off his delicious broad shoulders and tight waist and butt. Sigh I can’t wait to see him tonight.
When I was looking the only time clothes in a picture on a dating site ever had an impact on me was if they made me think, “Whoa, I wouldn’t want to be seen in public with a guy dressed like THAT!” If it didn’t instill in me a fear to hide behind the nearest pillar so people wouldn’t see me with him his wardrobe didn’t matter.
Depends on the cut and style. I’d prefer a slim-fitting Banana Republic plaid suit to some $1000 abomination paired with a Wall Street-y two-toned shirt and ugly wide tie.
Quite a few of a my lady friends like to lunch near the financial district, checking out the man meat. It’s sort of hilarious when the subject of ‘proper workplace attire for women’ comes up, too, because, to us, those white shirts and ass-hugging pants are the equivalent of a low-cut top.
I like guys in suits. However, it is most appealing when it’s a guy I already know wearing one. It’s the contrast between him in his t-shirts and jeans and him in a nice suit. It’s the “Wow! You dress up nicely!” factor. It’s not the suit itself.
If a guy posted a picture of himself on a dating site, I’d think he was either uptight or trying to show off his affluence. Both are turnoffs.
Suits aren’t a turn on for me. However, I like to know a guy will at least wear one for weddings and funerals. This wouldn’t be something I need to know at first sight, though.
Casual clothes are the default; I don’t know any man who doesn’t own them. However, it’s surprising how many men who don’t wear a suit for work don’t own one. Since I like to go some places where suits are appropriate attire for men, it’s an indication that we may have common interests.
On my profile (match.com) I have about 8-10 pictures, but the default is me in a suit. I have about 6 suits but do not wear them for work anymore. So the one photo of me in a suit is at a friend’s wedding. It is the default because it is one of the more recent photos and it is also (IMHO) a good picture of me.
My thinking behind that picture is it contrasts the other photos of myself where I am dressed more casually but fashionably or the ‘activity’ photos. I’m presenting myself as I am, well rounded and comfortable (and hopefully looking good) in a variety of situations and apparel.
Then again, it could be one of the reasons I have no luck with online dating! Haha.
