My heart is broken because I lost my one and only true love…Do you believe in True Love?? How about soul mates??
I used to… a long time ago. All I can say is, hang in there. Right now you may feel that there isn’t a person in the world that could possibly understand the pain you are feeling or what you may be going through, but believe me…in time things will get better. I’ve learned that all things happen for a reason. Its like every door that closes in your life always opens a new one. There’s an old saying that goes “The Darkest hour is always right before a new dawn” That saying is very true…Pray to God and keep him in your heart and thoughts and believe me, He’ll definitily get you through it…Try and take your time though and wait a while before looking for someone else and believe me, things will get better
“True love” and “soul mates” as in the one person your supposed to spend your life with? Not a chance. I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 8 months and I love him. But if we split up, I’d meet someone else eventually. And would fall in love again.
Do I believe in true love? Absolutely. Otherwise, what you’re left with is “false love”. My husband wouldn’t be happy to hear about that. But “One True Love” or “one soul mate”? No. My husband and I have been together for 20 years. Married for 15. When one of us goes (and the odds of us going at the same time are very slim), the one left will be heartbroken. But, unless the one who is left is very old, we will probably move on. Don’t get me wrong. No one could ever replace my husband, and I could never love another man the exact same way I love him. But I believe that, after some time to grieve and heal, I could love another man.
I think everyone has a soul mate, as in, someone that was made just for them. And I think most people never find them, but when they do it’s beautiful.
Then I think there are lots of people you could marry and be happy with, even if they aren’t your soul mate.
Depends on your definition.
I’m very much in love with my wife. My wife loves me very much, too. My wife understands me just fine, and vice versa. Sometimes it really seems like we were made for each other, and even after a decade of marriage, we still snicker about how lucky we were to find each other.
This does NOT mean we didn’t have to WORK at it. There had to be mutual trust, some compromise, and a willingness to stay together even when things weren’t all that peachy, or even when one of us was a little bit loony… trusting, that in time, things would come back into balance, because neither of us is really that much of a jerk.
If you’re asking “Do I believe in true love,” the answer is “Sure.”
If you’re asking “Do I believe in a wonderful pink cloud of love that never demands any compromises and stays wonderful and peachy for the rest of your life without any effort on the part of those in it,” the answer is “Hell, no.”
If by “one soul mate” in the title you mean only one person in the whole world who is your perfect match, no way. Think about how many billions of people there are in the world. How many folks ever meet more than a few thousand of them? What are the chances that your “one soul mate” is among the 0.000001% (or whatever) that you’ll actually ever meet? Doesn’t make sense.
True love exists. Becoming a soul mate with someone exists. There being only one other human on the planet you can do this with is a bunch of hooey.
Yes, I do, because, as someone stated earlier, the alternative to True Love would be False Love. Having experienced both kinds, I can vouch for the fact that True Love is much better than the Fake kind.
Yes, I believe this, too, but not to the degree that I think people typically assume when one makes this statement. Being Soul Mates does not mean you will never disagree, never argue, never feel kinda pissy toward each other. It does not guarantee perpetual happiness and giddy lightheartedness. Bills still have to be paid, you still have to mow the lawn, and you still get sick and throw up (sometimes in front of your soul mate). You still will say stupid things at the most inappropriate moments. Attempts at humor will still fall flat, and you will disagree about which movie was best of the two that you rented over the weekend. Any relationship takes work, understanding, and a healthy dose of perspective. That being said, I do not think a person can only be happy if they find their soul mate. There are many beautiful, fulfilling relationships in the world that have stood the test of time that may not have been the pairing of soul mates.
FB
I don’t think there’s any such thing as a soul mate - you are simply more compatible with some people than others, and there are a small number of people out there that you will fit phenomenally with - some of us aren’t lucky enough to find one of those people, others manage to find more than one in their lives.
zydecatsgirl,
I mostly agree with FaerieBeth. I’ve been married to my soul mate for 15 years. It’s been a super, almost effortless relationship. All our friends are amazed / mystified.
But that doesn’t mean that if one of us got killed the other would be doomed to alone-ness forever. And if we’d never met we’d each be more-or-less happily married to somebody else right now.
It’s fine for you to be devastated now, but don’t stay that way. Of all the men in the world, most are awful matches for you, some are better matches, and some are super matches.
But no one of them is perfect for you, and there is NOT just one of the super matches out there. So when you’re ready, go looking; you’ll find one of them.
And one is all you need (at any given time).
Nah… any relationship has to be worked on. It doesn’t just happen. You have to work at it.
The trick is finding someone who closely fits what you are looking for in a soul mate [for me: smart, honest and straightforward, self aware and liking who they are, respectful, runs by the golden rule [altho being a christian is not an absolute, muscle definition, little body hair and willing to work together to make our relationship work.
I used to, but after years of thinking about this question, I’m really not sure.
I think I need more experince (read: any) to figure it out.
I believe true love is possible. I believe it is also possible to find someone with whom you have the kind of connection that caused the word soulmate to be coined in the first place. What I do not beilieve is that there is only one individual with each of us might find that connection.
You refer to your “one and only true love” this is where we disagree. I have no doubt that you share(d) true love with this person, but do not believe that excludes the possibility of another touching your heart in a different but just as profound way in the future.
My soulmate and I have known each other since we were children. I don’t believe we could live together, but we can’t live without each other. There’s something we get from each other that we can’t get from other people. Other relationships, periods of time when we’re not in contact with each other… they just don’t really matter. Some things, and some people, are for ever, even if life gets in the way.
I’m not yet sure about love in general, much less True Love.
Soul Mate? Nah.
I don’t even believe in souls.
I think that most people can get along and thet there’ll be plenty of opportunities for true love for you.
If you’d asked me about soul mates ten years ago, I would have said yes. But then he turned out to like boys more than girls, so god I hope not. I’m more fond of the idea of kindred spirits- people with whom you have a deep connection, even if it’s not one of a romantic nature. The best part is you’re allowed to have more than one
As for true love…sure. But I think proximity has more to do with it than destiny.
I do not believe that there is one and only one person for someone. I think that relationships are made and not found and that they are difficult and a lot of work. Yes to true love though.
This is a religious belief, isn’t it? If there’s someone who was made just for you, somebody (God?) had to make them that way. To the best of my knowledge, none of the world’s major religions teach this (though it’s not necessarily incompatible with some of them).
(And what if there’s someone who’s made just for you, but you aren’t made just for them—does it necessarily go both ways?)
Unless you’re speaking metaphorically, and saying something like, there’s somebody out there that you’d be more compatible with than you would be with other people, which is sort of true-but-trivial.
I do see how believing that a certain person is your one and only true love could work as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
And I believe there’s a danger of having an ideal vision of your “true love” or “soul mate” and then assuming or forcing a person to fit that mold without getting to know them as a real person.
“No one in the world ever gets what they want, and that it beautiful.
Everybody dies frustrated and sad and that is beautiful.”
-They Might Be Giants
I never used to believe in true love. I openly scoffed at the concept of a soul mate. It was all too whacky. And of course, the shear numbers of people don’t add up to one for one and only one. But now I am coming to grips with the newfound realization that I was wrong. Say you build a puzzle and two pieces fit in every manner of size and shape and color. Do you really need to try every one of the other 550 pieces to verify that this is the one you need? I believe that I found the person who knows the real “me” and accepts that for what I am. She builds me up in the places that I am weak and failable. She looks more beautiful to me than any woman, anywhere. I know what parts of “me” are missing and she fills them perfectly with her personality, patience and love. There may be another out there who would do. But my piece fits just fine. So yes, I believe in true love and soul mates as it were. But I don’t think that is the problem or your question. Anyway, I miss you