This based on a conversation inspired on the how you use your fork poll. In my family, it was considered rude to bring gifts if you were invited over for dinner at our house. To bring food or drink was considered rude and akin to saying that what we were providing wasn’t good enough in taste or quantity (we insisted you take food home) for you. If we didn’t have the beer/wine/soda you like, we’ll make a store run.
So, do you bring gifts when you’re invited to dinner (party). If so, what do you bring and what was the reaction?
Our circle of friends is pretty casual - we don’t bring anything to each other’s unless it’s a pot-luck dinner. I suppose if I was invited to a fancy-pants dinner at someone’s house, I’d bring wine or chocolates, but I don’t expect that to happen in my lifetime.
I usually only bring something if asked, but then again, I only ever get invited to my friends and family’s places for dinner, and we’re all very casual about it. If I get an invite, I’ll ask if they want me to bring something, and sometimes they say yes, sometimes no.
If it’s a more formal event or it’s with people I don’t know well, I usually bring wine for the hosts - not for drinking that night, necessarily. It’s that I feel a gift of some sort is in order, but I don’t want to get them crap for their house. Wine is easy, and also easily regiftable if they don’t want it.
I’d certainly offer, as in “want me to bring anything?”
Though I’m rarrely invited for just a meal, usually it includes something else (these days, boardgames), so I’b bring a slection of my games plus probabl;y a snack
I don’t attend many dinner parties, but I’d say bringing some wine or picking up something from the store is not a bad thing to do. I usually ask my friend “should I bring anything over?”
It seems when I have friends over for a small dinner party, they usually bring wine, which is nice, but I’m not much of a wine drinker. The gesture is appreciated though!
I bring something, but it’s certainly not for that night. I assume if I’m invited for dinner the hosts have planned a meal and have food. I’ve only been disappointed in that assumption once.
I bring something for them to enjoy later. With most families I bring a pint of Ben & Jerry’s and say, “This is for you two to enjoy sometime.” if I don’t know the people that well I bring flowers or candy. I don’t think people expect their gift to be served with the dinner. At least they shouldn’t expect it.
Usually a bottle of wine. This is as a gift for the hosts, and is NOT expected to be opened that evening.
For an informal meal, we will ask if we can bring anything to help out. I made and transported a lot of potato salad over this past weekend, for cookouts and picnics.
There should have been a “sometimes” response, because I do bring a hostess gift on occasion. Other times, I do not.
If it’s a formal event with, say, beef tenderloin, I’ll definitely bring a bottle of wine or a plant (e.g. an Easter lily). If it’s a pig roast, I don’t.
If it’s to celebrate a birthday of one of the hosts, then I bring him/her a present, but not a second one for being host.
If I’ve been asked to contribute to any part of the meal in advance (dessert, appetizer, wine), then I don’t bring a hostess gift.
If it’s part of a rotating host dinner club, then I might bring a bottle of wine for common consumption, but not a formal gift.
I show up with a hostess gift (wine, chocolate, fruit basket, etc) even at informal events. As others have pointed out, the gift is not intended to be part of the event’s menu (although the host may choose to use it).
Upon receiving a dinner invitation, I’ll ask if I can contribute anything, but if the answer is no, I honor that. Many hosts do not appreciate having their planned menu hijacked. Aunt Edna’s signature tuna / potato chip casserole doesn’t belong at Tandoori Night.
I was raised to believe it was insulting to bring a gift to a dinner party. Rather, you are supposed to write a nice thank-you note after, and to reciprocate the hosting. However, I think I was raised by people stuck in the 19th century and Mr. Mallard insists we bring a bottle of wine and / or flowers whether I want to or not.
I generally offer to bring something to go with the meal (salad, dessert, etc.) and bring a bottle of wine with me if I know the person/couple drinks. If they don’t drink, I might bring a small box of chocolates or something else small for the hostess.