I was reading through a thread on diamonds for Valentine’s Day (sorry, not enough coffee, please forgive the failure to link), and it occurred to me a poll might be nice. Who expects presents for V-Day? What type?
My husband and I usually have a nice meal at home, but don’t exchange anything. The kids are old enough to start asking why Daddy is not handing over a dozen long-stems, which I find mildly amusing. I always knew it wasn’t his thing. Might be nice if it was, truthfully, but I knew going into it that it wasn’t.
For his part, he has told me that he knows I love him because of all the little things I do for him every day. We also say it often. So that’s us.
I answered no, but in a way, I do expect something, but it’s usually something we do. A really nice dinner most years - last year we cooked it ourselves, but we still spent a lot of money on steak, lobster, wine, etc. The last time Valentine’s fell on a three-day weekend, we did a two-night getaway on the San Juan islands at a little bed and breakfast. (It drizzled the whole weekend so we had little choice but to stay in bed. It was awful. )
Expect, only in the sense that we’ve gotten each other something every year for the past 23 years. So I expect him to do so again, just like I expect the sun will rise again tomorrow, based on past experience, not because I demand it.
Never have, never will. My husband and I consider V-Day to be totally ignorable. The only reason I pay attention to it is to avoid dining out. We also don’t give gifts on birthdays, our anniversary, or Christmas. It really simplifies our lives.
No, not from my husband. He gets a pass because of his illness and disability
Some of the attorneys at work give small Valentines gifts to their secretaries - mine gave me two containers of Trader Joe’s biscotti, which I am sharing with my husband. Yum.
My wife and I exchange cards, but not gifts. Same goes for Christmas and birthdays. We haven’t traded gifts in many years. We used to always have a nice dinner together in lieu of gifts. Now that we have two small children, we don’t do that much anymore either.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a day reminding us to tell the people we love that we love them. Of course, my boyfriend’s love must be in the form of chocolate.
I said other. I expect a gift, because I’ve always gotten one, but not chocolate, flowers, or “bling”. Generally something cheap. This year my wife got me a coffee mug with an appropriate phrase printed on it.
I had no idea today was valentine’s day until Ms Hook mentioned it this morning. I think she was curious if I’d be embarrassed about forgetting it. I wasn’t but we did go out for breakfast and I paid.
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