Just curious…
And fellow men would you feel so inclined to buy one for someone your just dating?
As for myself I don’t think so. I’m not too fond of this 'holiday" anyway.
No expectations… 
Define just dating. If I’d gone out with someone once or twice, probably not. If’ I’d been going out with someone for several weeks, I’d probably expect a card, whether we were exclusive or not. Especially if we were seeing each other that day. Flowers or candy would be nice, but not expected.
As for a gift gift, probably not. We don’t really do gifts for VD, anyway, especially since Christmas and my birthday fall in the last six weeks. Sometimes we’ll get candy, or a book, or something like that, but nothing big or expensive.
As a man and the author of two “instructional aids” on dating, namely:
“Doctor Happy’s Guide to Better Love-Making Techniques”
and
“Doctor Happy’s Guide TO Better Luck with Women”
I would have to say that if you want to keep dating the girl, it would be a good idea to spend a few bucks and get some silly little card, flowers, or whatever.
If, however, you are only trying to get sex and are already looking for your exit sign, well, then forget it. You do not require the extra expense.
P.S. Do not try looking for my books, they have only been given freely to those who have sought my counselling or who have otherwise requested copies and are only provided via electronic means. They are not copyrighted and are generally freely copied and distributed by the very happy users. I have only provided copies in the Middle East and in East Timor. Although, a few copies have migrated to a few other places.
Buy her a card, cheapass. Seriously - is this that big a deal? :rolleyes:
Hmmm…
A valentine would suggest he wanted to continue dating… no mention at all of the day would suggest he had a different valentine.
Has the subject come up at all? Valentine stuff abounds… has she looked at a big red teddy bear and said “oh how cute”?
Maybe since it seems you’re a scrooge you can have something in reserve in case she gets you a card or something and then return it if it isnt needed?
I love all the holidays … any excuse for chocolate and good cheer and a baby sitter
It totally depends on the woman. (Personally, I think Valentine’s day is silly and would much prefer that the guy not acknowledge it, no matter where the relationship is. Other women, obviously, have different views.)
If I were planning to see her again I would definitely give something. Nothing extravagant, but something.
Heck, even if I weren’t planning to see her again, I probably give her something. I give gifts, so sue me.
'course, in Japan, it’s the women who are supposed to give gifts to the men on Valentine’s Day, which means that if you do give a gift to a woman, you come off looking like the super-romantic foreign gentlman. Or the dippy English teacher who doesn’t have a clue, I haven’t worked that out yet.
Yes, indeed. The expense is defined by the depth of the relationship but I’d always get someone I was dating something for V-Day.
It depends on how long you’ve been going out and what the expectations of the relationship are.
*If you’ve only gone out a couple times and you don’t want to continue the relationship, then not necessarily - unless you like being thought of as a heathen.
*If you’ve only gone out a few times but things show promise, then definitely.
*If the relationship has been going a while, then definitely.
This goes for either sex, any type of relationship. It just goes to show you are kind, considerate, and not a total cheapskate. Not to say you have to spend every last penny, mind, just show you care.
I’d take it on a relationship-by-relationship basis.
Fretful Porpentine:
My attitudes exactly. My gf did have other ideas and we had a heart-to-heart talk (NPI 
) and it was established that we each get a finite number of special days on which we can expect gifts. She chose ValDay as one of hers. (I picked the solstices and equinoxes just to piss her off 
)
I say yes! but maybe that’s cause I look for excuses to buy people stuff. Guys you can’t go wrong getting a girl something. However don’t get for her just cause its a holiday and you are supposed to. Get her something cause you were thinking of her and whatever you got her reminded you of her.
Shakes, if you have to ask then you probably shouldn’t get her anything. As a female I prefer things to be sincere instead of an obligation.
Oh, and Ahunter3, you have issues… but definitely funny =)
That’s what Valentine’s day gifts are for!
See, once you’re married, you can just blow the whole thing off.
If you are dating just one woman then you might ask her what she would like to do on that day. Never underestimate asking them what they want to do… ah, let’s not forget the history of this lovely day:
“The good Saint Valentine was a priest at Rome in the days of Claudius II. He and Saint Marius aided the Christian martyrs and secretly married couples, and for this kind deed Saint Valentine was apprehended and dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and to have his head cut off. He suffered martyrdom on the 14th day of February, about the year 270.”
http://www.pictureframes.co.uk/pages/saint_valentine.htm
Oh, how wrong you are.
Go stand in a corner.
For me, if “just dating” means you’ve been out on a few dates, a card would be nice.
If you’ve been dating for a few months, I would say a gift exchange is in order.
My SO and I should have started seeing at a different time of year - our anniversary is right in between V-day and both of our birthdays (which are less than a week apart).
Rather than buy a card, if you want extra points, make one. It doesn’t have to be “mushy.” Something along the lines of “I’ve had so much fun getting to know you . . .” or even a cute reminder of something funny that happened on one of your dates.
Hell, my best friend and I used to give each other cards on Valentine’s Day, back in high school. And one year while I was working at Kmart, one girl who worked their went over to Betsy Ann Chocolates and got all the other cashiers who were working that day (it was Valentines Day) a four piece box of chocolates and a red carnation-just for fun.
make it a funny lil gift… just a small token, at least acknowledge what a silly holiday it is…
SHE knows what day it is. just have fun with it.
I’m trying to figure out what to do with this. I’ve been dating this guy since mid-November. Christmas, I asked him, and we agreed to exchange gifts – I got him a squirrelproof birdfeeder, he got me a wireless mouse. This was fine on both ends, we’re a month into things, nice but not super personal, we’re good. When VD rolls around, we’ll be at about the three-month mark. He doesn’t have a sweet tooth. Flowers maybe? Or a CD? Maybe I’ll get flowers delivered to him at work…
Argh. I’m 48. Isn’t dating supposed to get simple after 30 years or so?