Excuse me? I have a GF. I was just wondering what people would do if they were just dating. I’m pretty much locked in for the whole gift thing myself.
Jeez after rereading this entire thread its obvious people got the wrong idea. Why is it everybody seems to think I’m asking this for myself? Oh well I probably would too if it was somebody else who wrote it.
This question came up the other night with my GF. She seems to be of the opinion that even if you went out on just a couple of dates that you should get her something. I thought that was absurd; so I brought it to this board to get a consenses.
I’m sorry to doubt you, but do you have a cite that proves that there are people who actually date? It sounds a little far fetched to me.
I doubt there’s a hard and fast rule for this one. Personally, I would think it depends on the type of relationship you’re trying to define by “dating.”
If its someone I’d just seen casually for a few times, taking her out to dinner and a movie seems like enough of a “gift.”
OTOH, if its someone I felt strongly about, I probably wouldn’t wait until V-day. I don’t need retailers to tell when it’s ‘appropiate’ to buy a gift.
Guys! Don’t be so damn cheap!
If I was just starting to date a woman, I’d probably give her her a card and a small gift.
If I had been dating a woman for a while, I’d send her flowers and take her out somewhere nice.
Of course, I’m a romantic kind of guy. I always took care of my dates. And I always got a “lot” in return, if you know what I mean.
What is the proper thing to do on Valentine’s Day if you’re dating more than one person (legitimately, of course)? Send them all flowers and make for the hills? Take prospect Number 1 on a date and hope you don’t run into 2 through whatever? Fake a heart attack?
If you’re dating several people legitimately, you’re balancing your options and chances the other 364 days a year. Why is sending them flowers or candy on one day such a problem?
I just wanted to duck in and say that I read Hermann’s post to start as:
And, I thought:
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So that’s why I’m single at the moment.
Just wanted to share. :o
At the very least a card, and a token gift, yes. Depends on how serious you are, etc. Say for the second or third date I would make it a small plush animal, and a card which is both a bit funny & romantic.
I buy flowers all year long- so I don’t have to pay 8 times the going rate around Feb 14th.
I don’t understand why it has to be flowers or candy for valentine’s day. Why can’t it just be something they’d like.
I mean why should I have to eat chocolate when what I really want is a Lexus.
I would expect a card. (If you’re dating several people, valentines conveniently come in multi-packs.)
I would also expect someone I was dating to know the difference between “your” and “you’re.”
Damn! I was looking sooo foward to dating you too. My poor little heart has broken to pieces! But thank you mam for pointing out how superior you are to me by knowing the difference between your and you’re. :rolleyes:
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It is not whether you are fond of it, for god’s sake. It is whether the other person is fond of it.
My true love and I agree on this issue. Valentines Day is for the birds, a Hallmark[sub]TM[/sub] Holiday. A poor excuse to sell cards. On that day, we will not exchange anything (except bodily well, you know).
We get each other gifts and cards on a regular basis. We don’t need a ‘special day’ to do it. Romance should be spontaneous, and above all, completely voluntary.
My wife and I do not exchange gifts at Christmas, birthdays, or any other “special” day.
Instead, we treat each other lovingly with respect and courtesy every day of the year, and when we find that “special” little something that we know the other would appreciate…we get it and give it to them…regardless of the day of the year.
However, for someone who is just dating, it is always a nice thought to do something “special” for the other. If not to make them feel special, at least do it for yourself…think of what they may do in way of response!
I think you meant “ma’am.” You’re welcome!
vixen,
you are so cruel…will you be my Valentine?