I mostly do it myself, but you’re right, it’s easier with some help. Self-waxing includes a mirror and lots of squating, but it’s very doable.
I guess I’ve always thought of people in their “middle ages” as being in their 50’s. I guess you could consider 42 middle-aged, but since I still think of myself as being around 30, it just takes me aback a bit.
Back to the grooming thing, I don’t know why others find it so strange. As I mentioned, and as Anaamika put it more clearly, it’s more about being considerate of your partner. She asked, I didn’t have any objections, so no biggie.
I’m 24, and I don’t - fact is, I wouldn’t really know where to start, short of full-on shaving, which is not happening, on account of I get stubbly in 30 seconds flat. I did shave once, and lemme tell you, stubble plus underpants made that one of the worst weeks of my life.
On the other hand, I’ve thought about it a little - I’m reasonably hairy, and while I’ve never had anyone, er, manage to get their face close enough to the pubes to be an issue, the small amount of hair on the shaft has been a concern. No one’s ever mentioned it, and since there’s no way in hell I’m shaving, I’m not sure if there’s really anything to be done, but I do kind of wish it wasn’t there.
Indeed, it never would have occurred to me to groom down there on my own, but some time after 1990 I found that letting it go wild was bound to elicit some negative comment.
Apart from the poor aesthetics of letting Gene Shalit live in your drawers, loose hairs tend to get trapped in a big ol’ bush and turn up where they’re not wanted. Yecch.
Still the “natural” delta shape, just trimmed to a manageable length. I’m shocked to learn that there are still bush people walking around. Maybe my unrestrained bush is out of line, but the consensus seems to be that it’s intolerable.
I offered, My S.O. has vetoed any suggestion of it. I’m not unusually hairy, probably pretty average. (48 y.o. male)
I’m 31, and a male. I tend to being pretty damn hairy anyway, but I run over it with a beard trimmer (of all things) on the longest setting–works well enough to keep it manageable without looking ridiculous, cuts down on the sweat in the summer (which is an awesome side benefit if you’re a sweaty hog who jogs like I am), and avoids the stubble problem or the ridiculous bald wang in the middle of bigfoot territory that fully shaving would do.
When I say I’m hairy, I mean I have very coarse and widespread hairs–I would not look out of place in a 1970s disco.
That’s the problem I have. I’m no gorilla, but my stomach and thighs are sufficiently hairy that a bald pubic mound looks a little strange on me.
My husband has a massive man jungle going on down there.
At least he can’t give me grief if my lady forest gets a little unruly.
I prefer when women trim, so I trim. I don’t shave down there though. Tried it once and cut myself and won’t do it ever, ever again, ever. I use my beard trimmer and go over it all. Though I did trim in a nice little heart for my girlfriend on our 4 month-iversary
Male, 40. I’ve been trimming the pubic hair and shaving my balls for over 10 years now. Every girlfriend I’ve had has said they liked it… of course they’ve also said that I have the biggest cock they’ve ever seen and that no one has ever made them cum like that before. Yes, I do enjoy large grains of salt thank you! 
FYI - Most of the women I’ve been with have also done some form of grooming and I am very appreciative.
From a girls perspective, so perhaps it is different for guys, the first time you shave is the worst, the stubble plus underpants and the itchiness are pretty awful. I will say, it does get better and much less annoying the more you do it.
As far as not being sure what else to do, the last guy I was with just used scissors and sometimes one of those beard trimmers. I never cared one way or the other what he did, but I did notice and it was kind of nice to know he cared enough to make an effort.
My ex used to trim himself and trim me - but my current SO prefers to leave things wild on both of us. And what’s a few random hairs for love?
The key word in the poll for me (male, 41) is groom. I don’t know what the deal is, but left to its own devices, my pubes will get … I’m just gonna say “caught” and leave it at that.
In my experience with guys and their nether regions*, I’ve noticed that those who don’t noticeably trim generally don’t seem to have much of a need for it-- no totally wild thatches of hair to deal with, but not so sparse that it looks strange. In contrast, those who trimmed or shaved that I’d seen in the altogether on a semi-regular basis appeared to be hairier in general and the “cutting back on body hair” just happened to reach the nether regions. I’ve definitely seen more trimming than shaving, and it seemed like shaving completely was more of a popular thing with guys who started out more well-endowed or were very muscularly defined as a way to show off. I’m pretty indifferent to it as long as it doesn’t look silly and doesn’t get in the way; I’m more concerned about the function and aesthetics of the male genitals than the hairs around them.
My husband is currently a Mr. Sagittal who occasionally will shave away the stomach hairs because there aren’t enough to make an interesting cluster/line and is otherwise not all that hairy. This may change as he gets older, but either way, I’m not particularly concerned.
*I’ve seen more than a few, but not so many that I’d have trouble fitting them all on a school bus of “men I’ve fooled around with”. 
BF is 41 and au natural. I am 24 (female) and extensively groomed (shave all body hair regularly) which I find the most comfortable. I don’t care much what men do with their body hair, although I think trimming (not shaving) is the most aesthetically pleasing, but BF is not very hairy. If it was a jungle down there I might request some grooming.
That would be one interesting ride to school!
My last SO was my first experience with a man who trimmed; just trimmed, but he was not shaved (age 49). I only noticed it because there appeared to be a bit of a stubbly feeling in certain areas. I mentioned it, and he said that he did it because he thought it looked neater. He had quite a bit of chest hair, but not so much on his back, arms or legs. I don’t think it made the experience any better or worse, but I do like a man who makes an effort to keep himself “neat” in general - trims nosehairs and grooms a unibrow, keeps his nails clean, etc. If a man takes care of little things like that, then IME he is thoughtful about other things as well.
I am female and not currently seeing anyone, however over the last five years or so, of the guys I’ve known ahem well enough to find out these things, all of them groomed in some way.
All trimmed down below. None shaved, because with chest/ab hair it would have looked weird, or else they’ve have to spend inordinate amounts of time shaving the chest, too (and ew, chest stubble). “Trimming” may mean half an inch long or less, though – just close enough to “match” the length of the rest of the hair. A common approach to the bits was to trim immediately above, and shave the balls completely.
Two of three shaved their armpits too, for the aforementioned sweat/odor control.
Age range from 28-35, although this being over a five year span they’re all 33-35 presently. I didn’t ask how long they’ve been doing it for.
One of the aforementioned guys I knew was somewhere in between acuminate and disperse. It looked fine on him, and in fact if he hadn’t mentioned the trimming it might not have occurred to me to question it (at least not right away). The key was that he trimmed the hair to approximately the same length as the belly and leg hair, so around half an inch or so. That way, it looked like a consistently-lengthed “carpet” all the way down, rather than furry-JUNGLE-furry, or furry-BALD-furry (which, I agree, would look weird).
The others didn’t have much in the way of belly-hair, so it wasn’t an issue.
Yeah, yeah, what he said!
I cringe at that too, but, seriously? You think you’re going to be alive many more years than 84? Maybe…