How I was conceived.
By Grits and Hard Toast
On the day my dad proposed to my mother, she declined. She said it wouldn’t be fair to him. She told him her horrible secret, she was not able to have children. She advised him to find someone else who could. Dad said that was actually wonderful news. He had a terrible childhood, and as a result, couldn’t stand to be around kids. He didn’t want children. A perfect match!
Then five years later, something has gone terribly wrong. Mom is pregnant. They hope for a miscarriage, but that is not to be. The doctors can only console them with the fact that since the baby will have to be delivered by C-section, they can tie Mom’s tubes while they are in there, so this unfortunate event will not be repeated. That gives them some comfort.
They have a colicky infant, who becomes a terror as a toddler. Things are bad, very bad. Mom asks Dad to leave, Dad is more than happy to oblige. Things can’t get any worse. But they do. My mother’s idol, and America’s hope for the future, is shot and killed in a parade in Dallas.
Mom is devastated. Although she usually doesn’t drink, she buys a bottle of red wine. She drinks the whole bottle. Dad comes by to check on her, he knows how devoted she was to JFK.
This is where the stories diverge. Mom claims Dad “took advantage of her in her depressed, drunken state.” Dad says he gave her “aid and comfort in her time of mourning.” End result is the same. Pregnant again.
Mom sees this most unexpected turn of events as a sign from God she should reunite with her husband. Dad figures this next one can’t be as bad as the first one, and accepts her invitation to come back home.
But this time the doctors recommend an abortion. It is just too risky for her to have a baby, she is just too old, over 40 years old. Mom was not supposed to be able to have kids anyway, then her tubes were tied, then they split up. It takes a presidential assignation and a bottle of wine to bring them together. They decide this baby is just meant to be, and refuse the abortion. They remain together until Dad’s death, 28 years later.
So I owe my existence to Lee Harvey Oswald. Creepy. I have often wanted to do a search of people whose date of birth is around mine, and ask them if they too, are a result of Kennedy’s death.