I once had a female friend with whom I engaged in frank discussions about sex.
She was funloving, and there were guys she knew for whom they were nothing more than sex partners. On more than one occasion, she had indicated to me that she took particular pride in her cocksucking skills. Apparently, she felt that her skill at that task was so good, she could bring any guy to orgasm if she could 1. get her mouth around his cock; and 2. have a minute or two to work it.
How proud are you of your cocksucking/lovemaking skills? Is there a particular act you are good at, and if so, why are you better at it than other people?
Why WOULDN’T I be proud of my, er, skills? It’s just as important (and a turn-on) for me to pleasure my lover as it is for him to do things which pleasure me!
While I’m willing to say that I’m proud of my abilities, this doesn’t mean that I’m going to sit here and write up specific, graphic descriptions of my, uh, techniques. I only give demonstrations, and them only to my man.
I’ve known women who were so proud of their skills that our very first phone conversations went like this:
(ring, ring)
Me: “Hello?”
Her: “Hi, is this Vlad? I’m Dana! Melissa gave me your phone number… she said we’d probably like each other.”
Me: “Melissa? Dave’s girlfriend Melissa? She only met me for ten minutes!”
Her: “So, do you like…”
(It gets dirty from here on.)
I never had sex with any of these women, so I don’t know how much of it was just talk. I trust the ones who became my friends, though… if they say they’re good at it, I believe them.
I never heard a man claim ANYTHING about his sex skills.
Well, here’s a man claiming good times with the oral skills. I’ve also gotten my friends started on it too; they apparently didn’t believe in it or some such jibber-jabber. But yeah, it’s all about practice, practice, practice. And I haven’t found a woman who’s complained about a man practicing that too much.
I’m constantly improving my lovemaking skills. Not to say necessarily that I’m the greatest lover in the world. I want to find that girl I lost my virginity to and have another go round, just to show her that my ability has raised a couple orders of magnitude.
Sometimes the hardest to figure out is the difference between a session of lovemaking and a fuck. Both are great in different ways, and there’s a fine line between them sometimes, but I may be ready for one and she the other, and vice versa…
It’s not really any particular technique that makes a great lover, it’s the ability to listen to and empathize with your partner. If you read and respond to their reactions, that’s the best kind of sex there is.
No I’m not. For one thing, everyone is different so maybe some of my skills are not applicable to people in my future. For another thing, it’s just not hard work to get better at certain things. Most importantly though, I don’t want to be proud of my skills cause I’ve slept with some people who were pretty proud of their skills and the bad news is that not all of them were that good at pleasing me. I always feel awkward when someone does his guaranteed-sure-to-make-her-beg-for-more move on me (and you can tell when it’s it because they don’t ask any questions, they just start doing it) and I’m thinking, “woah his ex girlfriend liked this?” I don’t want to be like that! I mean, I’ve had a couple of boyfriends now and I can absolutely say that there is no such thing as “the greatest most ultimate (whatever)” because what’s the ultimate best “technique” is different for everyone.
I’ve been told that I have just the right “touch” and the fact that I have very sensitive fingertips as well as skin very sensitive to touch has made lovemaking/fucking a pleasurable experience for most that I’ve been with. I’ve got tongue skillz too and I’ve never been with someone that I haven’t been able to get off with tongue and/or fingers. I enjoy giving my partner an all over tongue bath if she’s up for it. Ironically, I’ve never had a woman that was able to bring me to orgasm with just her mouth. It probably just a psychological thing with me that I need to work on. I’m also usually pretty good at reading cues from my partner in what’s working for her and what’s falling flat and keeping it up or changing course to suit the moment for both of us.
As for taking pride in these skills, I guess I’d say I’m just comfortable with what I can do with what I’ve got. I’m not in a competition and I could really care less how I stack up against anybody else.
Well, I’m told I’m good, but I wouldn’t say I take pride in it. I have made men forget their own names, but anyone can do that if you concentrate hard enough.
On the other hand, men have bragged to me about their prowess and then failed to live up to it. And failed miserably, at that. Of course, it takes something along the lines of a full planetary alignment to get me off, but I still hold out hope.
I’ve been told that I’m extremely good (and not by inexperienced women) as far as my oral performance goes, and as far as… durability… is concerned, I am well aware that I have a considerable talent in that respect as well.
Of course I take pride in it. Giving pleasure to my gf is something I enjoy almost as much as receiving it.
What is this pleasure of which y’all speak? Sex is, as all men know, nothing more than just another chore we have to do to keep the missus happy. I work all day to put food on the table, I get home weary and worn from another day in the rat race, and SHE wants sex. Is that all she ever thinks about? I’m more than just a life support system for a pecker, you know. There’s more to me than a prehensile tongue. I have a brain. I have talents outside the bedroom. You’d think she’d notice. HA! As long as I’m there to put it in her at her every whim, she could care less about anything else.
[sub]And no, I couldn’t type this with a straight face.[/sub]
It’s just as important (and a turn-on) for me to pleasure my lover as it is for him to do things which pleasure me!
