I recieved a book for Christmas - either as a joke or perhaps well-meaning - on how to snag my soul-mate. I recieved many many books for Christmas and so I’m just now getting around to cracking this one.
The following advice really offended me, and yet I can see some of the practical sides of it:
Never date outside your social class. It is a recipe for disaster. The business man who dates a career waitress, or the lawyer who dates a handyman: Your new significant other will feel left out, will not feel as if he fits in. He (actually the book alternates he and she throughout the book, but I find it annoying and will spare you) will start to resent your friends and then start to resent you. It will end badly. Stick to men and women from the same group.
They go on to say that the Dr. hanging out with blue collar people will at best be politely tolerant and at worst be openly condescending. They acknowledge that sometimes these things work, but say that it is rare.
I found this to be so very wrong. It actually made me angry (at least angry enough to post here.)
And yet…my female lawyer friend is married to a man who worked at a grocery store. He has privately told me that he feels left out in our groups. He said “All the stuff you guys talk about sounds neat, but I have no clue what it means, I’m just lost.” (This made me sad because I have spent a lot of time talking to him about all kinds of stuff, not just my work.)
And so, I suppose I see their point. But it just feels so wrong.
What say the dopers: Good advice or just plain elitism? (or both?)