But will your love change if your beloved decides to do something stupid? And you, in an equally stupid moment decide to let them?
Say, like shave your pubic hair into a pumpkin in honor of Halloween? Suppose that their artistic talent runs more along the lines of the impressionists and you end up looking like you have a unique case of mange?
Would you still love them then? Well, WOULD YOU???
Of course you would, you’d just be a little itchy.
Good luck and invite us to the wedding.
Compromise, but don’t keep score.
Over the years I’ve had two relationships that I thought were great. One lasted for four years and ended with us still as great friends… The other ended when she decided to reveal in short words that our engagement and relationship was over for no apparent reason. In both cases, I thought I knew what love was…I thought I knew what it meant to completely care about someone… But in all 6 of those years combined and in all the moments and memories combined I cannot even pretend that it comes close to the passion that I feel well up when this girl looks at me.
I work with her parents…and so I asked permission to date her…they wholeheartedly gave it. She talked to them yesterday at lunch and told them some of what she was feeling…their response, “We don’t think you could have asked for more in a partner.” So thats not a worry, I’ve had dinner with the parents and shared a six pack with dad in the back yard.
Everything is perfect, from the perfect fit of my hand in hers to the perfect feel of her head on my shoulder. The depth of her gaze when she looks through my soul and into who I am is so piercing it overwhelms me and yet it feels so comfortable it has no parallel.
I will say that this is love…love because it is intensity defined, and even in such a short period she has become everything to me. I have never been with someone that no matter how tightly I held, it just wasnt close enough…
Its almost as if my soul is demanding to see everything that my heart does…being with her is a spiritual experience…and I have all the time in the world to see where that will lead.
I found my secret place…I just never expected to find it in the eyes and soul of another person.
-SS
I’ll just go ahead and chime in with my little snippet of love advice:
Love is not a noun, it is a verb. It’s not a place to be, it’s a thing to do. Being in love is like nothing else and it’s sometimes feels good to lay back and let the feeling wash over you. That’s fine, but remember to not only be in love with her but to love her.
Good luck!
[/basking in the wisdom of all of my 28 years]
I’m with Adam. You lucky bastard. Enjoy it, hon.
“When I heard it, I thought of you. But couldn’t figure out why.”
—Poly, that’s the nicest thing anyone’s said to me in at LEAST a half-an-hour!
This thread reminds me of something I read in the Playboy Adviser Q&A section (yeah, I read it - I think they give great answers and advice).
They are adamant about saying “love is a process, not a revelation”. I think there is a lot of wisdom in that statement.
That being said, congratulations! Go with your heart, and good luck.
Congratulations! It is a wonderful thing when you can find your soulmate. My humble advice from someone who has been/is there - don’t push things. See where time and circumstance take you. I’ve found it to be a good place. 