I am very UN-materialistic to the point where it probably did me some harm.
When I was 16 my mum died and I kind of, for lack of a better word, got tossed out into the world. So I didn’t have anything, but I did OK, so by the time I was 30 I accumulated some stuff.
Then I moved from Fort Meyers FL to Rochester MN and I intended to come back, so I put everything I owned in storage. Then I ran tight of money so I skipped a payment thinking OK, they won’t throw it out for one payment. Wrong, next month I sent them two months rent on the storage and they sent me one month back saying “We got rid of your stuff when you defaulted on it.”
So once again, I had nothing but the clothes on my back. After that I never bothered to try to get things. I found though I probably should’ve, because for better or worse, people do judge you on what you have.
I always said, “Well I’ll get nice stuff, if I get a nice flat but until then why bother?” Instead I’d use my money to go to NYC for the weekend, or such. I was like, why pay for a couch I never sit on. I live in a studio flat and I can’t sit on a couch AND a bed.
But then as I got older, people expect you to have things, so when you start dating, they wonder about you. Like WHY don’t you have anything. I was like I have $35,000 dollars in the bank. They’re like “Why don’t you buy something.” I was like “Why?” I can’t sit on a couch AND a bed. Why have two?
My only regret of the loss is all the family photos I got. So and those were lost when my stuff in storage got thown out. So I have no photos of me prior to 1995. And plus I got all the old family photos and movies and my brother and sister, could’ve had them.
I actually live in a one room studio with a bed and a table for my computer and a coffee table for the TV.
But this is a problem, like if I was dating, I’d have to go over to someone else’s house. No one can come to my flat, because there’s nothing in it. People in relationships want to feel they are “sharing” stuff. And even if I bought stuff, no one my age 45, is going to want to sit in a one room flat.
And right or wrong you’re judged on how much stuff you have. OK maybe people shouldn’t but they do, so it doesn’t matter. You need stuff. If I had to do things over, I would’ve bought stuff and made a nicer life with things. As it is that $35,000 is long gone having been out of a job so long, so that did help, but who knows. I mean maybe without the money to fall back on I’d have tried harder to get a job. I think I’ve done everything and try hard, but again, you can never say for sure.
As for others, I don’t care what you have. But ironically because I have so little, I’m very easily impressed. I’m like WOW you have a dishwasher!!!
I recall when they flew me out to Columbus, OH for a job interveiw they put me in a suite with two bedrooms and of course a living room and I went nut just running between all three rooms watching TV in each room