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Yeah, I agree with An Arky and dropzone, it’s a courageous-- or perhaps foolhardy topic to bring up.
I believe that breast milk is usually best for the baby, but I don’t believe in meddling in the decisions that each mother has to make for herself. Once she’s informed of all the benefits of breast milk for the baby, she may still have personal reasons to choose formula.
I’m all in favour of offering support and help to mothers who want to breastfeed, but I’m not in favour of some of the rabid behaviour I’ve witnessed towards mothers who chose formula. I used to be a member of LaLeche, and since this was some time ago, a safer time, I was a volunteer to provide mother’s milk for babies whose mothers wanted to breastfeed them, or were doing so usually, but the mothers may have suffered from an infection or some condition that required meds and prevented them temporarily from nursing the babies.
I enjoyed breastfeeding my own child, but some of my sisters have chosen not to, for one reason or the other, and their kids grew up just as healthy as can be.
My step-daughter-in-law has chosen not to nurse. She’s a smoker. When she was pregnant, she reduced her smoking to 3 a day, but she chooses to smoke now that the baby is born, though not in the house. Her baby is a strapping 4-month-old little girl, in excellent health.
She’s a red/auburn-haired baby, with huge blue eyes, and she’s quite a character already.
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With respect, this shows the sort of reasoning that causes some people to despair. First of all, no matter how “healthy” seeming the child is, it is impossible to know how much healthier they would be if breast feeding was used instead. Second, the fact that this particular child may have dodged the bullet is not proof that the decision was correct, simply that the consequences weren’t as bad as they could have been.
When I was growing up, parents rarely belted children into a car, and child seats were almost unheard of. I doubt seriously that your step-daughter-in-law, or you, would consider it anything but foolhardy to travel any appreciable distance in a car without putting that little girl into a car seat. Yet, she might take trip after trip after trip without any trouble at all; after all, I grew up just fine without wearing belts or being put in a car seat. But all it takes is one accident to make clear that it was the wrong choice EVERY time it wasn’t done.
You and some others have said this is the mother’s choice. Yes, it is, because you can’t force a mother to breast feed. But that choice should be made with the best interests of the CHILD in mind. Most women who don’t breast feed that I’ve talked to choose not to because of some logistical issue, or because they simply consider it “gross.” :rolleyes: