I don’t think I know ANY women who DON’T dye their hair. Even the white haired old ladies get a rinse. And other than blond, red, or highlights (which may very well be helped along artificially), even the browns and blacks aren’t necessarily ‘natural’. Dull brown threaded with gray? What’s so appealing about that? God, you wouldn’t like MY natural look any more than I do, I assure you.
Men, if you have a full head of hair, you are lucky, and if done subtly as already discussed, it’s a good thing to have it look its best. But once you start, you have to stick with it. And remember, too dark is not good for anyone as they age.
Too dark looks terrible on an old man. There is nothing worse than an aged (handsome) face framed by dark (obviously fake) colored hair.
I think I’ll take the advice of others and embrace my white spot. It’s only really noticeable when I cut my hair really short. Maybe I’ll let it grow a bit.
Two racketball friends dye pitch black. It fools nobody but they seem to be happy with it. My wife has dyed her hair forever. I have no idea if she has white hair or not. She is 57.
For at least the first time, have it done professionally .
I used to love to dye my hair, I tried all different ways. IF you do it right no one notices. This is where men miss. They do it once then forget. Your roots grow out, parts of the hair grow faster, your hair dries out, your hair fades in the sun…
You gotta upkeep it, guys don’t want to do that, myself included, that is why I stopped doing it.
I usually give myself a buzz cut. I look bad in it, but it’s free for me to, lasts a long time and there is no upkeep.
You don’t need to do it professionally, but be prepared to upkeep the hair once you start.
The men in my family lose most of their hair before it goes gray, so dyeing just isn’t done. Not that we would anyhow. We’ve shared a few laughs over men who dye their hair. It seems like something only a politician, anchorman, or car salesman would do. Not that it’s unheard of, but I consider it as deeply unmasculine as getting a manicure.
I’ve never given a damn if it’s “manly” or not and have dyed mine off and on since i was 20. I had it done by a stylist once to see how to do it and have done it myself ever since. It’s been black, red, blondish, brown with highlights and others I’m probably forgetting. Whatever you decide, do it because it’s what you want not what others want.
Well, when you said the patch was on the side of your head, I took it to mean somewhere above and behind your ear, which would look weird. If your spot is just offset from center around your forehead, that looks good! You could even play it up by just bleaching a streak and having it frosted. Much less maintenance than trying to dye your whole head, anyway.
But, seriously, if it’s a patch that’s just growing along your forehead hairline, that looks natural and good on a man.
I like to think of my hair as being “chocolate and silver”, thank you very much.
Another vote for leaving it alone. I used to see a guy that worked at the library who had brown hair with one white patch…in the back! I thought it was cool.
Years before I started going gray, I read this and made it my default position on the question:
Don’t dye your hair unless you’re a woman over 40 and you dye it the color of my obsessions. Even then, don’t cover up all your gray. Gray is gorgeous. And if you’re a man, then really don’t dye to cover gray. Dig it: EVERYBODY KNOWS. And they talk about it in a snide way behind your back. I’m not kidding.
–Michael Ventura, Solutions to Everything
I have no idea if that’s true, but I live by it anyway.
White haired men, attention! Don’t be like Ted Baxter on the Mary Tyler Moore Show - buy some ‘man’s hair color’ and show up at the office the next day with your hair shoe polish black.
Oh, Mr. Sali agrees with you. He says REAL men don’t use deodorant, toothpaste, or toilet paper, either. A man whose front teeth fall out is nothing but a big femmy sissy if he gets them artificial teeth, too. Go all natural, sez he. Yee haw!
I’d bet $20 that a lot of women you think don’t dye their hair actually do.
It’s like the guys I know who will say they love women who wear no makeup and then point out an example… and I (as a makeup-loving woman) can tell that she’s wearing sheer foundation and powder, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara and has filled her brows in.
I would seriously get a woman’s perspective on this, in person. My guess is that if you mention in conversation with a few female co-workers/friends etc. that you think your hair looks silly and you’re going to “fix” it, they will try to convince you otherwise. I don’t pretend to understand much about the fairer sex, but I can see that being exactly the kind of thing a lot of women find distinguishing, in a good way. Unless the spot is shaped like genitalia or something, in which case you shouldn’t need anyone to tell you to DEFINITELY keep it!
