I heard about this site today - She’s A Homewrecker.com where people can post pictures of women who have been cheating with their boyfriends/husbands. The injured parties can tell their story along with the pictures of the “homewreckers,” and from what I read on the site, there is no taking down the pictures once they are put up (I assume that’s so that the women who are pictured on the site can’t just demand to have them taken down).
What do you think? Is this a good idea? Would you post pictures of a woman who cheated with your husband on this site? Does it accomplish anything, for these women to have an outlet to let everyone know the damage another woman has done?
I think my biggest complaint about the site would be that the men involved aren’t tarred as well.
i was once in a happy relationship with my husband. i kept and guarded our house and waited at the door everyday to welcome him home. we had bellyrubs and shared daily walks discussing our glorious future of a litter of grandpuppies assaulting our tails. that is, until one day this snubby obnoxious feline named Cat Whisperer came and ruined everything! http://link.to.photo literally! the furniture is in ruins, there are hairballs everywhere and the stink, oh my dawg the stink! i would never mark the inside of our homes but she had no such qualms! give me my beloved husband back! the sweet, sweet man who had his attention on me and no one else. i was once in a happy relationship with my devoted husband who could do no wrong and she ruined everything! we need to get the pack together and get rid of her! who’s with me? http://link.to.her.home.address
My first objection isn’t moral (but give me a few minutes), but rather practical. I don’t know a way to properly search by pictures. The only real usefulness of that site, that I can see, is to check if someone you know (or that your guy is spending time with) is on it. But if all you know is what someone looks like, you’d have to manually search every picture like a police mug book. If you know the name of who you’re looking for, you can search, but then there’s not much point in having their picture on the site.
The way it’s implemented seems to be more for voyeurism than utility.
Exactly. Can anyone just post a picture of someone on the site and then claim they are cheating, etc.? This was the first thing that came to my mind. Nothing anyone puts on there can be verified. Of course it’s also possible that the entire site is fake.
Surely the boyfriends/husbands are the cheaters/homewreckers in the presented scenario? I guess it goes back to the idea that men are incapable of not shagging anyone who allows it. Insulting to men and ridiculous shaming of women who have absolutely no duty to protect other peoples’ marriages. If your boyfriend/husband shags someone else the fault is his, not hers.
Of course, because people in general have absolutely no responsibility to act honourably and not carry on a relationship with someone they know to be married. (of course the bulk of the blame still belongs to the married party, but it does take two hands to clap)
Surely one of the obvious analogies is with the online sex offender registry, but with the sex offender registry, a person normally does not go up there without being offered a fair trial before a jury. Not to say that miscarriages of justice don’t ever happen, but there are built-in safeguards to try to prevent it from becoming a farce of baseless accusations. What sort of process is the site going to have with regards to factual disputes? Do you have to upload photos of the homewrecker “in flagrante delicto” before being allowed to add a profile? If the alleged homewrecker objects and claims not that they are reformed, or should be forgiven, but that they didn’t actually do what they were accused of, what’s the process for adjudication?
Well, not to put too fine a point on it, the woman in these cases has absolutely zero responsibility to the wife. The husband has made explicit and binding promises, but the woman in an affair with a married man has no contract with his wife. She may be cheating on her own husband, in which case breach of promise would apply.
According to the OP once a woman is on it they can’t request that they be removed. Since both innocent and ‘guilty’ people wouldn’t want their details on some defaming website without their consent objection would mean nothing anyway. The whole thing is pointless for its stated purpose and a libel case waiting to happen.
Bad idea for all the reasons above and also, many of these women probably just found out about the cheating and are still very upset and not in their right mind. Later hopefully they’ll move on, and then likely regret posting.
There is another site called dontdatehimgirl.com that is similar, but it’s to list the guy and they’re not necessarily cheaters (although I’m sure many are). They could also be addicts, abusive, whatever. I admit I posted two guys on there like 8 years ago. I don’t regret it because I don’t care, but I would never do that now. And they did TOTALLY deserve it. One girl who had dated the guy too did respond to one of them and agreed with me, so that was kind of fun at the time. Anyway, I just checked and they’re not on there anymore, it seems to just go back to 2010 or so. Also, you have to make an account to view it, so it won’t come up on Google or anything. Harmless fun, but pointless too (it’s probably not keeping anyone from dating anyone, but just for scorned exes).