Intimacy?? Can we please ban this word when it means sex?
There is a perfectly good word for sex…yes it’s sex.
Intimacy can often haven nothing to do with sex.
Sex and Intimacy are not interchangeable words! Saying the word SEX won’t kill anyone.
OK sorry. Rant is over now. I promise not to respond to that personal button anymore.
As Lynn said, when you break it down, it’s less than two hours a day, which isn’t a lot when compared to most Americans. I spend most of my time online instead though, so it isn’t like I’m out actually doing anything. I’m just a slave to a different box.*
*Pun slightly intended.
You know, usually laying on the sofa watching TV leads to cuddling which may just lead to sex. If she wants more sex maybe she should work it so that they use a couch instead of a couple of Lay-Z-Boys… :eek:
And it does vary. I see nothing strange about the amount of sex I have with my live-in girlfriend of four years, which is quite a bit less than what you’re talking about. Some people just don’t care that much about it. Present me with the choice of the greatest sex in the world for an hour and a few scoops of Graeter’s cookies and cream ice cream, and I’ll choose the ice cream every time.
I realize what’s abnormal about that, but why do people act as if there’s something wrong with it? Sex is meh in general for me.
Could there be cheating going on where he is having sex with another girl and getting off all his sexual tension there? Perhaps I am, in fact, a raving lunatic, but how crazy is that possibility?
(FTR-I would much rather cuddle while watching tv than doing intimate (and I mean that) things)
Someone needs to introduce this couple to doggy-style.
DesertWife and I were married just about the time VCRs were getting really popular and there were all these small, neighborhood rental places, most of which had a curtained-off back room with porn tapes. Since she found visual stimuli highly erotic, about every two or three weeks we’d rent one, pop it in, and start foreplay. Through experimentation we found a number of positions that would allows us to couple and watch at the same time. Once in a while we’d even make it as long as the end of the tape before climaxing.
After we had been married about nine months, a long-time friend of my wife and I were having a conversation. Out of the blue she asked if she could ask a very personal question. I said sure, I can always refise to answer if it’s too personal. She flustered a bit, then finally blurted out, "How often do you and DW do it?
I blinked a couple times then finally said that it varied a lot, anywhere from twice a day to twice a month, but both extremes were pretty rare. Mostly it was three or four times a week. She just said, “Really?” and changed the subject.
When I saw DesertWife again I asked her what that was all about. She said, “Oh, <husband>'s libido doesn’t burn so hot. She’s lucky if she gets any eight times a year.”
I was flabbergasted. “My God, the poor woman,” I blurted out. They’re still married more than fifteen years later, and have had a daughter, so I don’t imagine there are are any intimacy issues involved, he simply isn’t interested in sex that much. I don’t know how she handles the frustration; manual expression, I suppose.
DD
Me too. I probably spend 2 hours a day (at least) online, but if someone asked me how much time I spend online, I’d describe it as “a lot” rather than “not much.” When you said that you don’t watch much TV, I was thinking that maybe you watched only a few hours a week, until I read the next bit.
Apparently that interpretation is non-standard, however, so I won’t make that mistake again. Thank you (and Lynn) for clearing up my confusion.