RSSchen/MizGrand: What do you think was accomplished by changing your username? It’s not going to stop any spiteful person from finding you or your husband. That bird has flown, trust me. If someone’s going to do that, you are not going to be able to stop them at this late date. You have to accept that and move on to worrying about your own shit.
Good luck with your therapist. I hope that you are honest, tell her EVERYTHING, get a correct diagnosis, and work forward from there. I must say, your name change here troubles me, because it smacks of hiding from consequences, which you should just fucking face already.