Don't Just Say "You're Wrong." Tell What's *RIGHT*

I googled my screen name and the word “um” for this message board. Here is the wall of shame or imprudence. I will bold the word um where needed.

That wasn’t directed against a poster, but rather at a kickstarter project. Probably ok (???)

That seems ok to me, and way not ok to others. Or so I guess.

Not helpful, but mainly due to vagueness.
Ok, here’s where I apparently messed up due to cluelessness. I’ll present the exchange.

I certainly did not think Achernar was an idiot and am fully capable of making a similar mistake. It’s easy to do. I was trying to be conversational and even polite. :frowning: I suppose I may have wanted a “Wake up” word of some sort, but there was absolutely nothing dumb about what I was responding to.

Proposed expression: “Just to clarify”. Then add softener at the end. I dunno.