Ok… so here it goes. first off i’d like to apologize for my screen name, i was a major asswiping dork when i made it. ok so here is the situation. basically i added this girl on facebook because i saw her all the time on my wall and also because she looked pretty so i thought i might chat her up a bit. after a couple months of intensive talking (at least 70-80 messages/replies to each other a day) i thought we had something, being as blinded as i was and as juvenile as i was i didnt really think of my actions beforehand. i put her in this really uncomfortable position between our friendship and her choosing to be my gf. ugh. later when she told me she was falling for her ex, i realised there was nothing between us and if i kept on talking to her it would only cause me heartbreak. so i broke everything off, i deleted her on facebook and msn. basically the only 2 places we talk (except for texting, i havent been able to delete her off my phone yet). after when i thought i was over her i unblocked her on facebook because i kind of felt mean blocking her in the first place and i was curious to see what she had written on my friends posts, i guess to see if she said anything about me. i was wrong on both counts ( as in she never talked about me at all ) and now reading her replies makes me reminisce about the days where we talked non stop. i really want to be her friend again but i know it’ll only end up causing me heartbreak. so the question is whether i should add her as a friend, try and reconcile or stay cold towards her.
(p.s i have already apologized about putting her towards that uncomfortable position earlier)
mmm i would block her again except for the fact fb gives the 48 hour rule to reblock someone. so im giving the deadline of 48 hours for me to make up my own damned mind. thanks ann onimous, you actually gave the first answer that was genuinely helpful anyway.
Okay, I’m going to seriously try to pretend like I’m 15 again, and not poop on everyone’s parade with grown up perspective bullshit. I’m in a good mood today after waking up free of hangovers, then officially declaring it a No Pants Day. What do you mean no one wants to hear about an old lady boycotting pants?
Anyway, it might be the friendly thing to do, while making you look less butthurt, if you re-add her, but then just don’t really pay her much attention. If you’re capable of doing that, then go for it. If not, then keep her blocked. No harm, no foul, really since you don’t actually know her. Don’t try to reconcile, because she doesn’t like you nearly as much as you like her. Be cordial and distant, or sever the whole show altogether.
yeah, I guess I’m going to weigh up all your (what I am now going to call) ‘votes’ by the end of tomorrow. Seems like the more realistic option of blocking her and calling it a day seems to be winning out xD
How long ago did this happen? Not to be rude, but I don’t really think it’s possible to “have something” with someone you only know online. Have you told your real life friends about this situation? I can understand unblocking her, but I feel like re-adding her would be odd. I would just forget about her and move on.
so i thought i might chat her up a bit. after a couple months of intensive talking (at least 70-80 messages/replies to each other a day) i thought we had something, being as blinded as i was and as juvenile as i was i didnt really think of my actions beforehand. i put her in this really uncomfortable position between our friendship and her choosing to be my gf. ugh. later when she told me she was falling for her ex, i realised there was nothing between us and if i kept on talking to her it would only cause me heartbreak. so i broke everything off, i deleted her on facebook and msn. basically the only 2 places we talk (except for texting, i havent been able to delete her off my phone yet). after when i thought i was over her i unblocked her on facebook because i kind of felt mean blocking her in the first place and i was curious to see what she had written on my friends posts, i guess to see if she said anything about me. i was wrong on both counts ( as in she never talked about me at all ) and now reading her replies makes me reminisce about the days where we talked non stop. i really want to be her friend again but i know it’ll only end up causing me heartbreak. so the question is whether i should add her as a friend, try and reconcile or stay cold towards her.