I’ve known this woman for nearly 10 years now, I met her online, and had an affair with her back when I was 19, on and off we’ve always kept in touch. So, back in July, I had the chance of her to come round to my place, bearing in mind I’d just gotten out of a relationship and was upset over that, I had a last minute change of heart and decided to cancel it.
In my defense, numerous promises like this had been made over and over during the years to no avail, so I got some satisfaction of turning the tables on her.
A few months pass, and in an about face, I try starting to talk to her again, and she’s very closed, and doesn’t bother whatsoever( Understandable obviously) but over a few months, things seem to be going back to normal again, she’s talkative, interested.
This has happened before, and we’ve always remained friendly towards each other, but this time is different, I know she’s got a job now, but she says things like ‘we’re friends, I don’t think that’s going to change’ and I always have to make the effort to talk to her, I’ve had arguments with her about it, and she uses the excuse of having to study all the time.
It used to be the case where I didn’t feel like I was panicking, now every time I try to talk to her it’s all one worded replies and dismissive. I even called her up on it, and she said ‘maybe I’m just cold’
So there’s some of the situation I’m in, I can’t seem to get over her and I’m obsessed with her, but the irony is, is that I never used to be, it’s just that I’ve seemingly become more desperate for her attention over the last couple of months and I don’t know why. Before, I’d not speak to her for months on end and it wouldn’t bother me, this time, it does. I’ve tried ignoring her but it’s hard, I wanna be rid of her, but how?
I’ve posted this because I’m at my wits end with this situation and I know I’m acting like an idiot, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.