The specifics of the relationship are such:
This guy and I are friends, and have been for a long, long time.
We have, in the past, fooled around quite a bit but we have not had sex with each other.
Said guy and I have been very clear with one another…he isn’t interested in anything other than friendship, I would like more than that but I rather enjoy what we have now and I don’t feel like throwing our friendship away because I can’t get myself to let go of the fact that I love him.
My heart keeps telling me to wait it out and that he may come around to feeling for me what I feel for him.
My head keeps telling me my heart is an idiot and I should get past it.
I am totally on board with listening to my head but that has been extremely difficult. How do you make yourself fall out of love? Is it even possible?
The only other time I have been in love with someone we had been together a while, eventually getting engaged, and then when we broke up it took months before I was able to truly put it all behind me and I was only able to do that because I hadn’t seen or heard from him (and he had been a huge asshole…that also helped.)
This unrequited love of a friend thing is much harder to work around. Anybody else ever have to do this? Were you able to still be their friend after all was said and done?