@Velocity, explain “church friend.” Since you live in different parts of the world, I’m assuming this isn’t someone you see at church regularly.
I used to do this, send pictures to a guy. It gave me the illusion that we were more connected than we were. He’s dead now, so it’s moot.
Take a pic of your junk and send it to her. See what happens next.
Just kidding. I would see if she is as share-y on social media, or maybe with others in your congregation. Or, as mentioned, just ask her about it.
One of my riding buddies is constantly over-sharing and I have mentioned it to him. There is no romantic interest, he’s just like that.
Maybe she started out sending her “day in the life” stream to the wrong contact (you) and never noticed?
Message chat app. (LINE, WeChat)
So it sounds as though this “church” is online (or one of you have moved recently?). Have you replied to these messages, enough to rule out the possibility that she’s sending them to you by accident? Does she reply to your replies?
If so, I’d say at a minimum she’s lonely and likes talking to you. You could, if you were so inclined, ask if she’d like to set up a time for a video chat. The distance factor obviously makes the development of a serious relationship less likely, but not impossible. Or you might just become better platonic friends. And given that she’s thousands of miles away, the risk of being embarrassingly rejected is about as low as it could possibly get.
Um … Does she actually need to hit you over the head with a club and drag you to her cave? LOL
Note to self: don’t receive pictures from ThelmaLou.
Hmmmm, sounds like a good idea.
++takes several pictures of garage and attic++
I don’t personally have experience with either of those (they’re big in Asia I think) but be aware that there is a culture with some social media apps to constantly send mundane pictures of everyday life to a bunch of people. It’s the dumbest thing IMO but exists especially with teenagers.
The key thing is whether the pictures are just for you or if they’re going out to a bunch of people.
~Max
Absolutely. I never lived closer to 600 miles from my wife before we got married. We’ve been married over 40 years.
Letters and telephone calls work just fine.
Reminds me of a situation I was in a couple years ago. Met a guy at an event, and afterwards, we talked regularly for a month or so, even though he was a 14 hour drive from me. He would FaceTime me sometimes or send pictures of what he was doing that day.
It was obvious that there was some level of attraction, but not enough compatibility to really make a serious go of things. And in his case, he was a good and willing companion to talk to when I felt lonely, and I imagine I was the same for him.
One time, a woman invited me to her house, and we watched TV in bed. She was not, in any way, asking for sex. As far as I know, from what she said, she hadn’t ever had sex, and probably still hasn’t to this day. She was a bit…off.
That can be a very dangerous game.
Years ago I was talking to a very drunk woman in a bar. She lived about 50 yards from the bar, and was a regular. I considered us friends. She described a problem with her bathtub dripping, complained about the cost of a plumber, so I offered to stop by some time to see if I could fix her problem. She asked if I would mind stopping “now”. I agreed.
She left to “straighten up” her place and asked if I could come by in a half hour. When I arrived at her place I knocked on the door and she yelled, “it’s open”. I walked in and followed the sound of her voice. She was in the bathtub, with dozens of candles lit all around the tub.
She was very drunk, I wasn’t, and I really didn’t want to spend any more time there than I had to. I was afraid she’d drown or burn the place down, so I blew out the candles and helped her get out of the tub, dry off, and get into bed. I emptied the bathtub and checked the spout. There was no dripping problem.
I avoided that bar for awhile, feeling awkward to see her again. Then I heard from a friend that she described that night in detail; how she’d “tricked” me into coming over, that she seduced me, and we had wild sex. Apparently I was great and left her exhausted.
Or, for plausible deniability, ask for a picture of her garage, with a view to putting your junk in there.
That’s a horrible thing for her to have done. Did the truth come out?
I honestly don’t think she even saw how it could be a problem. She was smart and nice, but strangely naive. I hope she’s OK, wherever she’s at these days.
Netflix and mentally ill?
That sounds like a great date, actually. Lying in bed watching movies with a pretty and intelligent woman, without any compulsion to go further.
It sounds like someone with a very poor grasp of social signaling, unless it’s a long-established platonic friend, or his mum.