Oh he definitely is. I’m a big fan.
I find one of the challenges I’ve observed with being in a relationship with highly educated achieving women is that they tend to treat the relationship like one more objective they need to succeed at. So the man often feels almost like some sort of “employee” constantly being “project managed”. Often when the relationship fails, the woman is like “I don’t understand why he ended it! I worked so hard on him trying to make him into the perfect boyfriend!”
I suppose women dating powerful men have felt the same way as well. But I think it can be a particular challenge if you have a partnership where there are two “alphas”. What happens when their careers come in conflict and the wife neither wants to potentially take a step down nor be in a relationship with someone who had to take a step down in their career.
That is not an uncommon scenario by any means, but I take the opposite view. My view is that what you see is who they want to be, and trying to change them to fit some kind of “mold” you have in your mind is a fatal mistake. Sure, they might try in the beginning because of the initial infatuation but, once that wears off, they become resentful and unhappy. Game over.
One of the classic examples of this is the relationship between Chris Evert and Jimmy Connors. It was doomed. On the other hand, her relationship with tennis player John Lloyd was successful, for a decade anyway, because his personality was very different. She was the Alpha, but he was definitely not. His personality was totally different from Connors.
A bit I’ve heard about recently is two career families more often moving specifically for the wife’s job. The reason though is interesting. The women tend to more frequently be in jobs that must be in person, healthcare including physicians, teaching, so on, while the men are more often in jobs that they can do from home, including the engineering and programming jobs …