I’ve had a string of bad luck with guys recently, and I’m thinking that something like E-harmony might be worth my while. But E-harmony’s not exactly cheap; I’d have to fork over US$50.00 for three months of access to the guys on that site.
So I’d like to ask those of you who’ve tried E-harmony–does it work, and was it worth the money?
There have been a couple of great threads about eHarmony already. They have a very, very long survey that you must fill out that takes almost an hour to complete. A reasonably large percentage of the people who take the survey are rejected. The ones who “pass” the test are generally traditional, family oriented types who are looking to be married in the near future. If you’re at all off beat, you probably won’t make the cut.
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Well I am signed up and have recieved two matches. One was not my type at all. It seemed all he wanted was sex and didn’t have a college education (yes that is important to me). The other one had potential but not enough to fork over the month’s fee. If he had truely seemed like a catch, then I would have paided.
I didn’t know people were rejected! I know that you can’t be into S&M or currently seperated. You HAVE to be single or divorced and relatively normal. They also have a very high marriage rate so if that is what interests you, you can find a good mate on there.
Hope that helps!! Good luck!
Oh and one other thing. They have a very safe and controlled method for communication (you pick questions to ask the other person). But you also have the option to go to direct communication too. Good luck!
eHarmony considers me unmatchable. Me! Unmatchable! :eek:
But, to tell you the truth, I wouldn’t use any dating service that would accept me as a member 
What a timely thread.
I signed up last week and I have 4 matches with 2 that wanna talk.
I havent paid yet and I’m debating if I will or not and if its worth it?
1 was a cop, that ones out, another was 300 miles away, out also. I reset peferences for distance and now theres one lady in town and another 3 miles away, problem is both have PLURAL children. I could handle 1 kid but when I hear about more I start to cringe.
anyone else have anymore to add about this site?
Hello there Scribble! 
er… in what part of the country are you.
I think all the hype about Eharmony is overrated. You have to get out from behind the computer and meet these people not matter what internet venue you choose as your poison. Leg work, leg work. Doing your own homework. That’s what it’s all about. Also, match.com, I’ve noticed, now has the same personality, etc., questionaires. YMMV (your mileage may vary)
Hello there yourself, stranger.
I’m in Ohio. You?
RATS…I’m in Green Bay, 400+miles is a long drive for a date. 
Yeah, it is.
But if you’d be interested in having a pen pal (e-mail pal?) let me know.
I went to eHarmony and filled out their great big profile thingy and at the end of it they said I wasn’t suitable for eHarmony (or something like that) How Wuud!
I used eHarmony for a bit for free, and I really like the profile survey idea, but I don’t really like the way they take over whom you can even find to talk to, and the way they let women hide their pictures so that some of them are revealing them only after four sets of emails.
If you think that my opinion of your looks is going to change because of four emails, you’re living in a different kind of world from me. Guys are not that easy to change on that subject. I’ve personally changed my opinion about a woman’s looks before, for the better, but not from four emails. Is that any kind of realistic? It also is more hurtful for the woman to stop getting emails after the picture is revealed than to just not ever get a reply at all.
I may try them again after all that though, because my brother knows two couples getting married off that site.
Are there sites devoted mostly to finding pen pals rather than mates, using some sort of matching criteria (as eHarmony or match.com does)? Just curious.
So I took the entire survey and now have a profile on eHarmony. I’ve got 4 matches, apparently, but none of them really seems all that incredible to me, yet. At least, not incredible enough to cough up the $100 for 3 months that eHarmony’s asking. (I posted the wrong price in the OP. It’s US$50.00 for one month, not three. Yeouch.)
I also checked out Spring Street personals. That seems to have potential, too. Well, we’ll see.
Hmm. I think the Straight Dope Message Board could have a future in making matches!
…coming back to add (because I had to get permission) that my friend has tried eHarmony and is, I believe, still active on the site.
In her words: “eHarmony blows.”
I have tried EHarmony, more than once. I have always gotten dozens of matches (not sure why, I’m not exactly endowed with a sparkling personality). The system supposedly matches you up with people who are uniquely suited to your personality. However, it seemed that most of the guys I was matched up with were totally not my type and vice versa.
For instance, one of my Can’t Stands was vanity, or being overly interested in one’s appearance. Many of my matches’ Must Haves included stylish appearance and high level of attractiveness. I also made it clear during the personality profile that I am not a big fan of exercise or participating in sports, and most of my matches were very active and wanted a woman who was the same. I was looking for men who were bright and interested in the world around them, and many of my matches … well, didn’t seem that way.
I realize I’m not the greatest catch in the world, but for a site that is supposedly so scientific about matching like-minded people, and the amount of matches I did get, my rate of compatible matches was disappointing. More often than not, the most interesting guys didn’t invest the money to start communication. I dunno, I keep hearing that lots of people have had success with it. I tried it once again recently (near Valentine’s Day, I was having a moment) and ended up getting my money back after I realized that my experience wasn’t going to be different from last time. It may have been my last effort, anyway; I have (almost) completely resigned myself to spinsterhood.
Anyway, if you try it, I wish you good luck.
I’m a big old weirdo, and I was “accpeted.” Of course, I haven’t coughed up any cash yet. But I get matches all the time. Many of them very boring. Hmmmm…
I’ve tried it and found it quite successful. I’m not getting married right away, but the woman I’m seeing now seems to be great.
I got sent a lot of matches because I think test well in this area. Sensitive guy and all that. I ended up meeting three people in person. The first woman was OK, but we just didn’t click. The second one I really despised after meeting her. The third one seemed to be the charm.