I am flabbergasted! A while back, when several others on the board had posted about eharmony.com, I checked out their website and answered their complicated questionnaire. Naturally there wasn’t any match for me (I don’t mean that my standards are -that- high–rather that I’m probably well above their targeted age group), so I just forgot about it. Until today, when I got an email saying that they had found a match.
I’m not going to follow through, but did go to the site to see if I could find out anything more about the match (all they gave me was first name, age and location); to do that, though, you have to fill in your profile more completely which I didn’t really want to do. Ah well… geeze, now I’m wondering if I’m going to be missing out on Prince Charming … you think?!
tarragon, I participated in the e.harmony questionnaire probably 6 months’ back, or more. That exercise was NOT to find a partner, may I say, but merely to see what my personality profile was… Anyway, I was instantly given a few prospective guys who would be interested in me…to which I have never responded, I might add.
Since undergoing that first personality profile, I am now being inundated with SPAM-mail from e.harmony about how many eligible men are “out there” waiting for me to contact them. Of course, though, were I to be actively looking for a “mate”, I would have to subscribe, give more personal details, more specific contact details, plus my credit card number, and pay for the honour of meeting perhaps anonymous people, who don’t potentially, even really exist…
Call me cynical if you will, but this e.harmony may well be just ANOTHER ripoff scam site. Prince Charming may well be out there for you, but Prince Charming probably wouldn’t frequent e.harmony, methinks!
Anyway, just be prepared for more and more junk mail from e.harmony as the months progress! As with all my other junk mail, I simply delete e.harmony’s emails without even opening them.
They finally closed my e-harmony account, I guess because I never replied to any of the match messages they sent me (I just wanted to take the personality test). But from the time (I think it was?) enowe posted it, until last week, I have had over 200 (spamish) matches.
You mean to tell me that you signed up to a dating site, then you’re getting upset because they are actually sending you matches? Those guys who are matches are trying to contact you, really. E-harmony is many things, a lot of them bad, but it’s not a scam site. (And believe me, there are dating scam sites out there.)
Arrrgh. The last time I signed up for e-harmony, I can imagine that all the people who didn’t reply for me were people like you (and Magayuk) who signed up just to take the personality test. Arrrgh.
The only thing I know about e-harmony is that they’ve got enough money to advertise on the radio. (Here in the DC area, at least.) Since I listen mostly to classic rock and WRNR, both of which appeal to a somewhat graying demographic (can’t tell you which station I keep hearing their ads on), I wouldn’t necessarily assume you’re older than their target demographic, tarragon, unless you’re in your 60s or something.
I’ll let you make your own call about trying to meet Prince Charming through e-harmony. Another avenue you might pursue is through your fellow Dopers; we’re a pretty fun bunch, and the DC/Balt contingent gathers fairly regularly. There have been more than a few marriages and engagements that got started through the Dope.
Thanks, RTFirefly for the nudge about the DC/Balt. doper bunch. grins I’m a bit shy but took the plunge this year with the Secret Santa so maybe the next step is to meet the local doper group. I’m 51, btw - yeah, I listen to that classic rock station too, so maybe I’m at the upper end of their targeted demographic.
Nah, I’m not really looking for “Prince Charming” (at 51 I must confess that I gave up on that a long time ago … :p), but a former co-worker (contractor who went to another contract) used eharmony.com and went on many dates through matches from there. I was really just interested to see if there might be a match; didn’t think there would be so was surprised that there was someone. I don’t think I’d pay for the service, though.
I’m sorry to make you scream Duke! Yes, I admit I signed up with the sole intention of doing the personality test. I’m sorry about all the people who didn’t reply to you. Never know, I may even have been one of them myself!!!
However, I retract my comments on e.harmony being a scam site. You seem to hold them in high regard.
Tarragon, good luck if you DO decide to look up your matches.
I reckon a lot of people who signed up did so for the sole purpose of the personality test. Like you, I wouldn’t pay for it either!
Confession time: I am ten years into a perfectly fine marriage. I read the eharmony thread and took the test out of curiosity. It took me like 30 minutes to take it too. On the very last page they ask you if you are single, widowed, divorced or separated. I didn’t know what to do and answered that I was separated. I got sent to a screen that told me that they don’t accept separated people on eharmony! It wouldn’t let back out and change my answer either. It serves me right I guess but I wasted all of that time for nothing.
Guilty! But, in my defense, I am single and if a great guy e-mailed me, I’d prolly follow up. Maybe. If I had a few drinks first. But my “match” is in Ontario (?!?). I’m not paying 40-some bucks to check out a guy in Ontario, no matter how fab he is. (I’m in Washington state.) We’ll see if they send me someone who’s in my area at all.
It’s always struck me as a pretty clean cut operation. Separated is still technically married, so why would they want to fix up someone separated? Have 'em wait till they’re divorced and then sign up!
I find that really interesting, because my spouse also underwent the personality test and he also said that he was “separated”… and was told the same thing as hajario.
To me, once you’re separated (unless things change further down the track - which isn’t too often, if you ask me. Once the break has been made, the relationship doesn’t rekindle too often). Being separated is basically being single in my book! Having taken the steps to end the relationship, means you’re separated. Being divorced (well, over here, anyway) is only a mere technicality of being separated for 12 months or more… So in effect, does that mean that “separated” people aren’t allowed to pursue a new social/intimate life until the technicalities are addressed?! I find that rather prejudice against people who make the break from an unhappy relationship and who wish to pursue the potential of something new.
(OMG, I get the feeling that I’m going to get flamed here, that is not my intention, I just wish I could express my thoughts as clearly as I would have liked!)
Ya know, it’s their business, if they don’t want to accept separated people, it’s their choice. I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t say so up front and save the real separated people the pain of taking the god damned test only to find out that they couldn’t have possibly qualified. Maybe they realized that that’s what married people do to get test results!
I took the personality test on e-harmony (though I don’t remember being told anything about my personality…hmm…I do have short-term memory issues - lol!). I haven’t gotten 1 single e-mail from them. (I personally think it is because I wanted someone in my area and someone who shared the same religious affliliation).
BTW - E-Harmony advertises on television in Central Florida!
Are there doper meetings in Central Florida? I have yet to meet one person (male!) on these boards. harumpfff!!
OneYogini, we had an OrlanDope last summer, but only 4 of us showed up. While it was nice to put names to faces and to chat for a while, it wasn’t what I’d expected for all the driving I had to do.
We had planned a north FloriDope shortly thereafter, and everyone kept backing out, so it died before it happened. Since Floridians are such party-poopers, I’m leaving!
lol!