So what do you guys think–is a case of the wilting willie more embarrassing for the guy who is ‘affected’, or the girl who has to pretend that it’s OK? (I am asking for purely scientific reasons only, of course)
Girls,what is the best way to react, do you think?
Reassurance?
Humor?
Tears of frustration?
etc.
Guys, what’s the deal? How common is this and what usually causes it?
Anxiety?
Indifference?
Paralyzing Disgust with your Partner?
Any ideas out there?
Hmmmm… sounds like someone is having some “problems” 
Wouldn’t know.
thinksnow—glad it’s not just me 
pezpunk—come on now, I clearly stated that this was for purely scientific reasons. That’s my story and I am sticking to it…
If I guy ever dared to go limp on me I’d punch him in the face and call him a mamma’s boy.
but that may be over the top.
I can’t remember who said it, but I read somewhere that given the incredible number of astoundingly subtle physiological and psychological things that must fall into place just right, it’s much more amazing that an erection and ensuing ejaculation actually do occur than it is that sometimes they don’t.
(Obligatory manhood-defending boilerplate follows)From what I’ve read(end boilerplate), any number of things can affect the “all-systems go” mechanism. Tiredness, alcohol, a full bladder, momentary distractions … the list goes on and on.
Maybe this will affect me when I’m 90 but all I know now is that I wake up every day with morning wood, have to do the flying superman agaist the wall when I pee, and don’t seem to have a problem with rolling over in my sleep.
If the guy is losing it, and doesn’t have a medical reason, then baby, you’re doing something wrong. Either that, or he’s a fag in denial…
Fascinating, doctor. Tell us more about your theories :rolleyes:
And so it starts…
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I’m sure the threat of physical violence will help the guy overcome his performance anxiety:
“Dammit, Mr. Happy, if you don’t get hard she’s gonna kill me!! Think dirty thoughts, think dirty thoughts. God no, put down that baseball bat! ARGGGHHHH!!”
Sua 
This has happened a couple of times when I have jumped the Beast less than 20 minutes since the last time we did the deed. shrugs It’s just something that happens. I put my clothes back on & try again in an hour.
Fascinating, doctor. Tell us more about your theories :rolleyes: **
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Lessee, the head bone’s connected to the…damn…how’s that go again?
in your case, I’m afraid it may be your ‘ass bone’
You can call me a mama’s boy any day, jarbaby.
In German, too.
Fear: the first time you can’t get it up a second time.
Panic: the second time you can’t get it up the first time.
Instead of “head bone”, try “bone head”. :rolleyes:
INCORRECT, GOOD SIR.
As a woman, if it happened with me, I’d say, “You know what? Happens to the best of 'em sometimes. No worries. Let’s snuggle.”
Tiredness, stress, performance anxiety, alcohol. All can kill the moment even though the mind is ready and rarin’ to go.
Gosh, it must be especially tough when she expects you to be rock hard.
Probably worse for us males – it’s perceived as our failure, generally. We couldn’t get it up, or keep it up. We’re so busy feeling bad about it and worrying about our shriveled manhood, that few women could believe it was their own doing after witnessing the event.
It’s happened to me 3 times. Well, twice it collapsed, and once it never rose to the occasion. I’d discuss the circumstances, but it might reduce the already-miniscule amount of respect I get around here.