Ok, seems that whatever’s helping run my life besides me wants me to be lonely. The guys my age can’t handle the kind of relationship I want, and I’m at an age where anything older isn’t legal, plus half of the guys who would be able to handle it live too far away, and the other half aren’t interested. :rolleyes: Right now all I want is for someone to just hold me in their arms and tell me it’s ok. I’m so lonely, and the fact that my friends seem to all be getting mates makes it more obvious why I’m lonely.
I’ll spare you the annoyance of saying that you’ll find someone eventually, since I’ve always found this to be the most trite line I’ve ever been on the receiving end of.
Unfortunately, I’ve found that some people seem to be destined to go through long periods of “loneliness”, although it doesn’t seem very likely that things can suck forever, does it? I always just take a deep breath and smile, since that’s all one can usually do in such situations, right?
I’d hate my love life too. If it actually existed, that is. Oh, ssskuggiii it sucks. It really does. I’m starting to get out and do more without a boyfriend though, so not having one won’t be so bad anymore. Good luck to you and all that.
Sorry to hear it shadow. There’s not an easy answer (and I too will spare you the oh-so-trite “You’ll meet someone soon”). It sucks being lonely. It sucks not having someone to share thoughts with. It sucks not being able to just cuddle up in front of a video or even just snuggle for the sake of it.
It’s just something we have to accept and/or work towards correcting. Not by going out and latching onto anybody but by identifying goals in our lives and working towards them. Trying new things perhaps. Give yourself some focus and you’ll feel better about life and yourself. And when that happens things tend to happen around you.
You are what you take the time to become.
Good luck hon. We’re here if that’s any consolation.
I guess part of it is what I have as needs and being in any kind of close relationship with me is demanding b/c of the personality I have. It really takes a “special” [read-patient and sensitive yet not really sensitive] person to be able to handle me. Feh, where am I gonna find that at 17? Oh well. I have time, and my friends can fill part of the emotional void ATM.
Florida. Dammit.
You’d think with all the lonely girls and guys out there like us, perhaps all the lonely girls could find a lonely guy and vice versa.
But that just doesn’t seem to be the case.
{{{{ssskuggiii}}}} It’s OK ssskuggiii, It’s OK.
I hope your throwing me in the “to far away catagory”
Osip
Well, there’s a lonely 19-year-old male in Duluth, MN if anyone’s interested.
19, Kansas City, blonde hair, blue eyes, 160 lbs.
Free to a good home.
No delivery, must be picked up by new owner.
–Tim
Duluth, eh? I used to live in Moose Lake and Cloquet. Hiya!
Silver Fire, 19, Pine City, MN. 
So you’re bound by the older-ain’t-legal thing, eh? You really think many guys would turn you in on it?
ssskugiii,
I hate to say this, but sometimes its best to forget about it. The harder you try, the harder it is to meet someone. you’ll find that if you relax and be yourself, you’ll meet someone without even trying.
I know that it is good to have someone to hold, and someone to share your life with, but you’re young and you have all your life ahead of you.
Its a sad fact that women mature faster than men, but you can’t blame the boys your age. And dont think that older men are the answer, in fact, they’re probably worse.
Just be yourself and enjoy being yourself.
I won’t promise you that you’ll have the boys falling at your feet, but you’ll feel better.
{{{{{ssskugiii}}}}
More like the guys will be interested until they hear my age, then they turn tail b/c they think I’m gonna pull jailbait on them.
Well, thanks for everyone being so nice. At least I’m probably gonna go somewhere further away than where I live for college if I can.
{{{{{{{all the lonely dopers}}}}}}}
Have you thought about studying Down Under? 
Actually this may not be as silly as it sounds.
Universities (colleges) are so much cheaper here it’s ridiculous. For example I just had a friend come down to do her last few units at Bond (a private University and one of the most expensive in Australia) and it’s WAY cheaper than UNH. In fact her ** total ** bill here (including accomodation, food, tuition etc) is actually significant less than her UNH tuition alone.
For what it’s worth, *ssskuggiii, this lonely person found for him someone else who was lonely. Her name is Anniz and she lives 5000 miles from me.
And, also FWIW, the age of consent in most states is seventeen. Use that information as you will, but jailbait you (probably) are not.
My parents couldn’t agree with this more. (No, they didn’t read this but let me tell you a story.)
The night my parents met, neither was looking for a long term relationship. “A serious relationship was the last thing on my mind”, said my father while telling me this. So, they meet. I don’t even know where it was they met. It doesn’t even matter. That night, my father asked my mother to marry him. She gleefully accepted. They’ve been happily married since. Not everyone can expect such a thing to happen to them, but it’s true. The harder you try, the harder it is.