I’ve been invited to a small wine-and-cheese soiree that I want to attend. However, I don’t drink. When I call to RSVP, should I:
a. accept the invitation and assume the hostess will provide non-alcoholic drinks?
b. accept the invitation and then bring a regular bottle of wine and a nonalcoholic beverage with me to the party?
c. accept the invitation, tell the hostess I don’t drink and offer to bring a nonalcoholic beverage?
I’m leaning towards c, because it seems to me that it would be somewhat rude to accept and then bring my own drink to the party, but I don’t want to offend by assuming she won’t provide non-alcoholic drinks unless I tell her I don’t drink wine. If she hadn’t said it was a wine-and-cheese party, I would just accept and not say anything, and would assume she’d provide non-alcoholic drinks.
So, etiquette mavens, what should I do?