Eutychus

Cafe Society
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I skimmed the other threads that appear to have started the train here. It started when CKDexterHaven responded in horror to Persephone’s post about CPS removing her kids from her dirty house (while she partied with friends in NY). From the text in Persephone’s post, it was reasonable to be horrified, IMHO. Most of the people who thought CkDex was way out of line thought that his biggest sin was not having all the facts and not finding out more before he posted his reaction to her post.

Now it looks like some of those same people are doing the same thing here.

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That would be correct. I started said thread, and was pretty much SWAMPED by folks suggesting that maybe it wasn’t a good idea…

Fair enough. Especially as it was quicky turning into the whole mess all over again.

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Not necessarily. Might not those people know more of the background this time, info that’s not in this thread? It’s certainly more likely.

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Patrick,

I am glad you have this off your back for now…and maybe longer. Now you can concentrate on the things that really matter in your life. You have more time to spend with your kids and Cristi.

You don’t have to monitor this increasingly irritating nuthouse. For lack of better phrasing, you’re free! It’s one less source of stress and since recently it has been a major source of it, that’s a really good thing.

You were the finest Mod around here, bar none. But the political nastiness of this place can tarnish the best of them. I’m glad you’re out before it could cause any more harm to you.

Recent events have left little to the imagination as to the Administration’s feelings toward you. At first I wanted to think I was just too emotionally close to be objective but now it’s blatantly obvious that something is rotten here and you’re too good to be involved with it.

Enjoy yourself. You deserve it.

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Yuck. :frowning:

**Euty **, come back soon. Don’t be a stranger. If the Powers That Be don’t appreciate you…there are plenty of Dopers who do.

:frowning:

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I appreciate how management, though probably inadvertantly (“Can’t you give them the SLIGHTEST credit, drop?”), is finally allowing the discussion of this issue sputter to a halt. Usually shutting folks up by locking threads or saying, “This discussion has gone on long enough,” just angers them more. Let people talk and they’ll say their piece and either begin to heal or else take their business elsewhere where management is more responsive to the consumer’s needs. Like Fathom or the Unaboard.

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You’re a better man than all of this, Euty - remember that. Chin up, and enjoy a little less responsibility for a while.

Esprix

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I have to confess that this particular way of saying it galls me. It stuck in my craw when Dex said it; it bugs me now. You of course don’t know any of the peopel involved; he did.

The facts about the case and the unpleasant situation are what they are; however, the nature of Persephone’s absence is up to interpretation. One can see it as her taking a long-awaited trip to see very beloved and close friends and spend time with her future family. Or one can see it as being off frivolously drinking and whooping it up with buddies.

There’s a big difference between visiting a loved one and going to Mardi Gras with your drinking pals. It makes a difference, at least to me, in how I judge a person who has left unfinished business at home. It irked me then (and still does) that when it came time to recap the unfortunate situation, some people chose to (perhaps deliberately) frame her trip in a misleading and disadvantageous way.

And it makes me sad that this will continue to be perpetuated by people who read that trainwreck of a thread.

Which has little to do with the OP–I just wish that if you know so little about the situation, and are new to it, that you not recap a very personal interpretation.

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That trainwreck and this one.

Well said, Cranky.

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Crankyasanoldman

[beating a dead horse]I’m sorry if I read it wrong. But I don’t know HOW ELSE TO INTERPRET what Persephone said in her post that started all this. She had left town and just had drinks and a nice dinner with a group of friends in NY and her evening was blown by a call from home, where her kids were being removed from her home because it was too squalid to be safe for them. That’s basically WHAT SHE SAID. It sounded to me like she felt really bad that her lovely evening was ruined (even though her kids’ evening couldn’t have been much better…). Everybody says there is “more to the story” than this, but so far no one has given any details that could possibly make Persephone’s story understandable.[/dead horse beaten]

That being said, I still think it’s POSSIBLE that people are jumping to conclusions about why Eutychus is on hiatus. There is most likely more to the story than most of this group of MB buddies knows. We just had to fire somebody at my work and her side of the story is the only one everybody hears, because the boss really isn’t allowed to tell more about it for professional reasons. I bet the same thing is going on here. I just think it’s really ironic that people are not allowed to respond to what Persephone SAID, but ARE allowed to have all kinds of assumptive opinions about this.

Jesus, it’s just a computer message board and moderators just patrol it to keep it running smoothly. Eutychus didn’t lose a real job. Get a life, people.

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With that crappy attitude, why are you even posting here? Go away if you honestly feel it’s “just a computer message board.” What are we all, HAL 9000s? Piss off.

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Dan, he’s new here. Give the tendrils some time to invade his brain. We’ll have him yet. :smiley:

Hey! A little lightheartedness is important right now. This ain’t exactly a funeral. I don’t know about the rest of you but I’ve been thrown out of MUCH nicer places than THIS.

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Euty, I’m sorry to see that this is how things turned out, and I think it is a loss to the boards to lose you as a moderator. I hope all works out well. I hope to see you continue to post here.

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I honestly fail to see the distiction. I will, however, take your word for it that there is more to the story.

Euty, you have my best wishes and I hope you stay here in the near term as a poster.

Haj

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The heck with all this “Screw " and " was right!” junk. In the spirit with which I think the OP was offered, allow me to say the following:

Thank you for everything, Euty. I hope that the unpleasantness passes, and I look forward to your return, in whatever capacity you choose.

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What minty said. I’m sorry this mess ever happened. This place won’t be the same without you, Euty.

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Sorry, drop. There’s no excuse for such crap, new or not. It’s just crap that’s still in full bloom. :slight_smile:

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Yes, dnthmn, I agree, BW’s post was ill mannered, and not altogether truthful.

Where in Persephone’s op, did she infer this,

Because I don’t see it.

Bookwoods post is full crap.

And I do have a life.:stuck_out_tongue:

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I have it on good authority that he’s being posted to the Bush administration. You know, “fightining ignorance” and all that jazz…

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First of all, let me clarify that this is very true. I “abbreviated”,
and poorly. Shayna’s version of what she said is the long, and correct version. And, basically, so is the rest of what she said. (Well, except for the “dear, sweet <snip> classy” part). I said she convinced me to “shut up already”…not that she TOLD me to shut up. She has never, in all the years I have known her, said anything like that to me, and I doubt she ever would.

I owe Shayna an apology for possibly leading anyone to think that she would. Sorry, honey.

Second of all, I went away because she was right. I did NOT have all the facts, and probably never will. None of us will. And without all the facts, I was making an assumption. Several, actually. Which is what appeared to me to have started this whole mess in the first place. And I was angry enough that it was time to back away and try to get some perspective. Which I did. I am still very distressed about this, but I recognize that there may be more to the story than I know, and that, as with everything…there is ALWAYS a second side to it.

I am no longer livid about this, just very VERY sad. Euty, you are a very good mod. You have heart, and intelligence and a sense of humor. I will miss you, and I hope you come back soon, my friend.

My apologies to all for my contribution to making a bad situation worse. My abject thanks to the friends who loyally stepped in to support me. (I am a very lucky woman when it comes to friends, I can tell you THAT with certainty!!!) I can’t really take back what I said, because I still feel the same way about a lot of it…I just recognize now that it is very possible that since I don’t have the whole story, I might be wrong. In particular, my thanks to Shayna for helping me to step back and realize this.

As I found have found MOST times when I have lost my temper this badly, the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle.

Oh, and thank you for your apology, samclem…I know you didn’t mean to attack me, but it was kind of you to say what you did. My apologies to YOU for being so snippy.