What I mean is: Have you ever moved out of a living situation with a significant other without telling them you were going to do it first?
If so, what prompted you to do it this way? Was it hard to do? How did it work? Did you leave an actual note?
Yes, it was a short and stupid relationship when I was 22 years old. We had been dating for 6 months and I moved in. He lost his job and totaled his car 1 month later and then turned abusive (verbally and once physically). After the physical altercation, I left to go out to dinner with some friends for a birthday party. Two of my friends that had heard enough of it and told me that either I will be moving out willingly or they’d drag me out the next day.
The next morning, my friends kept their word and picked me and my stuff up the next day. I left a note that simply said:
“NAME,
Fix yourself.
-Stpauler”
Only way to end a relationship IMO.
I was on the receiving end of a dear john once, age 24, normal weekend - letter arrived on Monday morning and it was over. Never spoke to her again or found out why.
Yep. Left the apartment I shared with my ex-fiance when I was 20. Nobody wants to hear my boo-hoo story of abuse and stupidity on my part, but let’s just say I’d had enough. One night I sat looking at him and his friends all passed out drunk in our living room and that was that.
I packed up some boxes of clothes and personal stuff, wrote a note that said “I’ve had enough, you know why”, grabbed my cat and left.
It worked like a charm. If I hadn’t left, I really wonder what my life would have become. As awful as it was, I missed him like crazy for a bit but time and a new perspective took care of that.
Okay, that just kicks ass.