One more thing: reddit has some fantastic subreddits for beauty advice, for anyone who wants to experiment at home. Ones like makeupdiagrams, howdoibeauty, makeupeducation, randomactsofmakeup. They also have a skincare sub to help those of us who do get easily irritated skin figure out how to soothe and manage it.
I would like to hear more about this “specialty costume” for which you needed professional hair and make up assistance. Pix would be a plus!
I say this and it’s not threadhshitting. I do the nicest makeup I can do and if no one likes it? Well, screw ya.
And now : "I live. I die. I am born again in Valhalla. "
(Love the movie, sorry.)*
Didn’t see the fancy pants thing. Double ugh.
I’ve always been a fan of using a rougher up (so it’s fuzzier) tennis ball as an applicator. Gets the whole eye socket that way.
Why are you people giving her hell for not wanting to be in the wedding???
I don’t think your attitude sucks, aruvqan. I don’t blame you for venting here. And I have never worn makeup, and maybe I do look “like shit” in pictures or in public (off topic: but according to every man I have ever known does not think makeup makes women look better). However, I have a lot of skin allergies so that has been my excuse for wearing no makeup. I was in the class play in high school and after they put eyeliner on me my eyes swelled shut and I nearly missed the play. So you could use that as an excuse. Might be safer anyhow.
I hope you don’t have too terrible a time and I hope the makeup people are so intimidated by the idea of “allergies” that they just let you have a little blush and lipstick. Good luck!
Still not quite clear on what the OP is asking for advice on, if there’s going to be a makeup guy on hand to take control.
More details please… or are you kidding?
We’re not giving her hell for not wanting to be in the wedding. It’s her hateful and ungracious way of expressing her feelings about the wedding.
If she had said, *“My niece wants me to be in her wedding, but I really don’t want to. I’m doing it to give moral support to my brother. She’s given some makeup suggestions that I don’t think will look good on me and besides, I usually don’t wear makeup at all. I’m not looking forward to it, but then, it’s just one day out of my life, and apparently she really wants me… So can anyone give me some makeup advice or tell me where to turn? And while you’re at it, some tips on how to get through this day? Thanks.” *
She would have gotten many helpful and supportive replies.
But she said:
“I have a **damned **wedding to go be in as a bridesmaid, and they are **forcing **me to wear makeup [hello **Bridezilla **sigh] but the closest I normally come to makeup is chapstick for the SPF value. I got told to use blue eyeshadow, wasn’t that a 70s disco thing? Last time I read any sort of girly magazine was like 15 years ago and I was in it for the sex quiz [well, it was sitting in the waiting room at my OB/GYN and my battery was low and I didn’t want to read my book and kill my phone.] That magazine said blue was out, and the bronzes were in. Or some such **damned **nonsense. This one, in lapis blue with a lace jacket thingy over it and ballet flats. How the **freaking **step pause crap is going to work in a wheelchair, no **freaking **clue. All I have to do is get the damned dress, get there for the rehearsal and show up for the hairdresser and makeup guys.” (My bolding)
Anyway, we’re not giving her hell for not wanting to go; we’re telling her that if she hates the idea so much, she should do herself and her niece a favor and NOT go.
huh??? sounds like something a 5 year old playing with mommy’s makeup would do.
I have skin allergies too, which is why I don’t wear makeup. I get big honking cysts whenever I wear foundation, even Bare Minerals. I had to have a cyst removed from my eyelid after a brief experimentation with eye liner.
Still doesn’t mean that people don’t look better with makeup. If done right, everyone looks better with it. You may be beautiful without it but I guarantee you look even better with it.
And I don’t care if men are telling you that women look better without makeup - that has nothing to do with a wedding. Wearing makeup when you’re in a bridal party isn’t for finding men. It’s for photos and pageantry. It’s a play. It’s public presentation.
For the love of all that is holy, don’t match the eye makeup to the dress. You wear makeup to compliment YOU, not your clothes.
If you’re warm-toned (and the redhead/freckles points to that), blue or grey shadow will look like crap. Don’t try it. I tried to do grey eyeshadow for ten years, and it looks like shit on me (I’m strawberry blonde, warm skin tone, blue eyes).
For your coloring, get:
Dark bronze or brown liner;
Bronze or dark gold shadow* (if your eyelids are crepe-y, go for a warm brown;
Vanilla-colored shadow;
Brown mascara (Maybelline Great Lash in the pink bottle);
Powder;
Neutral lip gloss or lipstick.
To do your makeup:
Eyes first:
A bronze or brown liner. Do the outer bit of your upper eyelids. Blend with Q-tip to soften edges.
Put bronzy-gold shadow on the outer corner of your eyes, swoosh up into the eyelid crease. You can always add more. Blend.
Put a dab of vanilla shadow on your brow bone. Blend.
Put a dash of the liner under the outer 1/3 of your eye. Blend.
A skosh of mascara. Wipe the brush with a paper towel first so it doesn’t clump up.
Then, just a dash of powder on your face (put it on with a brush).
Finish with a neutral, rosy lipstick or tinted gloss.
ETA: you can take all that crap off with a cotton ball soaked in oil (baby oil, olive oil, whatever) or with Vaseline. Wash face as normal.
I think it makes someone a bridezilla to think that an un-made-up woman will look like shit in the photos.
So, ThelmaLou, we’re not supposed to come to SDMB to bitch and complain? Gee, I thought that was about half the point of the place. Better she should come here and bitch than go to the wedding and bitch. A message board seems to me to be the ideal place to vent.
Once again, I am un-made up all the time. Every day. Even when I should wear makeup, I don’t. I don’t own the right makeup, I don’t know how to put it on right, I can’t even see to put it on and whatever I do try makes me break out in cysts.
But if you insist that no one will be able to tell the difference in professional, well-lit pics between some made-up bridesmaids and one who can’t be bothered, I say you’re off base. Doesn’t mean that the un-made-up person is ugly or a bad person. It means they will look bad next to the made-up people, and forever look bad in the photos.
Doesn’t matter, though. Sounds like aruqvan will be enthusiastically snarling in all of the pictures anyway, makeup or not.
You know how male newscasters and actors wear makeup before getting in front of the camera? It’s not because they’re just a little girly. Makeup – especially eye makeup – makes your features stand out in a photograph.
And if you’re the only one in a lineup of makeup-wearing women to not wear makeup, you will stand out in another way. Then again, if you have some sort of martyr complex that makes you want to look wan and worn out compared to everyone else, you do you.
Au contraire. You are supposed to come here and bitch and complain, and then readers are supposed to freely comment on and spontaneously react to your posts. It is a ***discussion ***board, after all. I’d say the system is working perfectly.
Exactly. I was not giving her hell for not wanting to be in the wedding, but because she doesn’t have the good grace to either suck it up or decline. She sounds like she hates the girl. They’re forcing her?? How?
Anyway, I’ve never known an actual bridezilla, but my impression is that someone who invites her middle-aged aunt, wheelchair or not, to be a bridesmaid doesn’t qualify.