…make fat comments about other people in front of you?
I don’t recall any of my friends ever doing that.
I’m a fat doper and I’ve never had a thinner friend make a fat comment. We talk about celebrities and weight (mostly things like "aw, she used to be so cute, but then she lost a lot of weight ::coughlindseylohancough::).
I have a thinner aquaintance that often talks about how fat she herself is, but she’s kind of a moron.
OT is fat an acceptable word to use for obesity? Just curious as I have always wondered about what is PC and what is not PC when talking about race/weight/sexual orientation etc.
Ditto. It’s never come up. (I guess I have polite friends.)
Me, too. My friends don’t make comments like that. Even when I was quite slim, my friends and I never made comments about fat people. I guess we’re just nice.
It’s not like anyone’s written this stuff down somewhere in a place that everyone can agree on.
Some people hate being called fat, or hearing that word. Me, I accepted the fact that I’m a fatty a long time ago, and while I wish I could lose weight, I acknowledge that I lack the dedication to do it, and it’s entirely my own fault. Hence, it doesn’t bother me, unless someone is really going out of their way to be offensive about it.
Like all “PC” things, it really comes down to how the speaker intends it, and how the receiver interprets it, and those two don’t always mesh. :shrug:
I used to be very upset when I got called fatty at school, but only a few arseholes bothered at uni and now, I don’t get fat abuse - well, at least nothing that I notice. Amongst fellow fat friends, we have like an unwritten rule that you can talk about fat, I guess it’s because you are fat. If any skinny friend of mine made a derogatory comment about a fat person, I would be floored! It has not happened yet. However, I do catch myself saying things like: ‘crikey, that would put some strain on your back’ when I see someone with an extraordinary large stomach and I remember my fat friend nudging me and making eye movements when we saw quite possibly the largest bottom we have ever seen, let alone imagined.
I have been fat all my life and have to exericise a lot and eat wll, just to maintain my current fatness - god help me if I lose control.
I apparently have really really shitty friends.
Or I’m not that fat.
::looks down at body:
Nope. I must just have really shitty friends. 
So how does it make you feel when they make these comments? And what do you do about it?
Having been a fatass all my life, I’ve learned to make the fat jokes first
But I can’t think of anyone I know that pokes fun at other people who are not me for being fat, and definitely none of my friends has ever made fun of me. Other people can be stupid or mean or smelly or rude wether they’re fat or thin
I’m only recently where I’d consider myself fat, but even when I was much thinner I don’t recall any of my friends discussing this sort of thing. They are all quite thin too, but I guess they are also quite polite when it comes to such things. They sure don’t keep quiet when it comes to other physical flaws though!
I’ve never willingly done this but one time I was drinking a half pint of skim milk when one of my larger coworkers commented: “Shakes, what are YOU doing drinking skim milk?”
To which my reply was with out thinking about it fist:
“Because I don’t want to turn into a fatass…”
As soon as I said it, I realized what I had done and felt like shit for doing so. :smack:
Nope. But my 2% friends can really piss me off sometimes…
Seriously, though: no, it doesn’t bother me, and I don’t see why it would (or should). Hell, just the other day at dinner some co-workers were talking about a large, shapeless woman who used to work with us, and someone made a snarky comment wondering how the woman’s husband ever managed to find “the hole.” I laughed, and made a similary snarky comment about rolling her in flour first. BFD.
Well, they aren’t synonyms: “fat” describes any amount of extra weight, while “obese” is more of a clinical term (though Webster defines it as “excessively fat”). Plenty of fat people aren’t obese, but every obese person is fat.
Personally, I see nothing offensive about the word “fat” and tend to prefer it to euphemisms like “plus-size,” “Rubenesque,” etc. I even like it better than the word “obese.”
Sorry to continue the hijack, but I think you’re talking apples and oranges: no one has a say about their race or sexual orientation, but most people have a say about their weight.
I was not fat for about five years, starting at about age 38.
While I was not fat, I heard a lot of fat comments about other people, although not to much from my friends, just from acquaintances. I heard a whole lot about how wonderful it was that I was not fat now. I also heard a whole lot of advice about how to loose weight, which I found funny. (Having lost 65 pounds without anyone even mentioning it to me, now folks have advice!) I did hear a lot of discussion about how much my life would improve, now that I was not fat anymore.
It all turned out to be pretty much not worth the effort, to me. It lasted about five years, like I said, but by that time, I was about the same size as I am now, and was before I did it. No one much said anything about it either way, among my friends. I suppose a few folks said things, but I can’t recall any of it mattering to me enough to recall who, or what.
Of course, now I am a fat old guy, so people can tease me about even more. I still don’t have any friends who make comments of that nature. I think that has more to do with who I want to be friends with, than with how much people enjoy casual cruelty. Of course, I do tend to be extremely harsh verbally on people who are mean as a habit. Everyone has tender spots, and I can poke really accurately, if I have known you for a few days. Maybe that’s why mean folks don’t end up being my friends. They hate how mean I am.
What goes around, comes around. Helping it get back around is mildly amusing.
Tris
“The road to truth is long, and lined the entire way with annoying bastards.” ~ Alexander Jablokov
My non-fat FRIENDS do not make comments about fat people in front of me. Notice I emphasized “friends”. Whether or not they make them when they’re not around me, I don’t know, but I’m just Pollyanna-ish enough to assume they don’t.
Does it bother me when people who are new to me or that I meet socially - say at parties - do it? You’re fuckin’ right it does and I do not hesitate to call them on it.
For the record - I’m formerly fat. 334 down to 182. And I don’t stand for it for a nanosecond.
VCNJ~
I would consider myself ‘fat’ I guess. But none of my friends have ever commented about it to me. Unless it is part of our conversation, or they are heavier friends and we are equally talking about how we’d like to drop some pounds. They would never do it to be mean.
Push You Down time to maybe do some friend inventory and get rid of spoiled stock?
And am I the only one who read the title straight through the posters name and thought…now that isn’t nice AT ALL!!!
No, not as a rule. No more than it does when a female friend says men suck or when my friends here in Oregon mock the South, where I was born.
It’s wholly dependent on context.
As long as they’re not making comments about me, and if they were I doubt we’d be friends much longer. Doesn’t bother me.
My friends do occasionally make fun of someone being fat. However, they treat me as the big fluffy bunny of the group - I’m the most physically affectionate chick. They even got me a keychain that says ‘I’m not fat, just fluffy!’.
It doesn’t really bug me that much. I know my friends love me and they’d never bitch me out about my weight.